How do you make her crave it?!?!

[2guns&asixpack Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 2guns&asixpack]

So I'm pretty sure everyone on this site wants to their dick to be lusted after, correct? I mean that is the reason we are here is to have a killer dick that chicks just crave right. Well that's what i want really bad!!! But in my current situation right now its just not happening! I have been going out with this chick for 3 months now. And in 3 months she has not initiated anything sexual this whole time! It's really starting to piss me off. There is no bigger turn on then a girl that just wants you right then and there so bad.
So I'm kinda in a crappy spot because i really like this girl but there is no way i can continue this relationship if I'm giving 110% and it seems like she is giving 20%. I don't have much relationship experience and I'm not sure if this is they way relationships work, the girl just sits back and the guy has to do all the work. I would love it if it were the other way around just once. I have even told her to initiate once and a while and still nothing. So i don't know what do to...should i dump her? is this normal? are there girls out there that are as horny as me and want it at least twice a day? do girls ever initiate? do girls even crave dick, like i crave pussy?

Oh yea this is my first girlfriend. The sex is great, but we can only really do it doggie otherwise i hurt her to easy, she is really tight. I'm cut like rambo and have a 8x5.5. I don't know what her problem is...maybe low sex drive..im soo confused!

[mentality Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mentality]

Hmmm, maybe lube, possibly more foreplay? Unfortunately, you may just be too big for her. It may take some time for her to get used to it.

Also, she may be looking for more then sex. There are a lot of reasons a girl wouldn't bend head over heels for you constantly.

[2guns&asixpack Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 2guns&asixpack]

Yeah we have to use lube everytime... and i always start with lots of foreplay. She has multiple orgasms with me which she has never had with previous partners. Thats why im so confused at why she doesn't want it all the time or even seem like she wants it every once in a while by initiating something.

[DemOne Banned Find all posts View Profile Close DemOne]

Sprinkle it with crack and chocolate. The chocolate will disguise the crack, and the crack will get her hooked and jonesing for more.


Disclaimer. DO NOT do that.

[Qarzan Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Qarzan]

I think if you want to give this relationship a chance, you should talk to her about it. There might be some other reason she's not initiating sex that has nothing to do with you. You never know until you ask.

And if she is uncomfortable talking about sex, then you have to ask yourself if this is the kind of person you are ok with.

[2guns&asixpack Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 2guns&asixpack]

crack and chocolate damn never thought of that...Definitely will try that one

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

send her my way lol ill make a slut out of her for you....lmao or you can try my oral guide...women love the way i give head..they always want more...not one of my ex gf's doenst still want my dick...they hate me! but they love the way i work the bedroom...

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

I don't think the goal of every guy here, or the reason for our congregating here, is to have females 'lusting' over our dicks. For one, that's kind of unrealistic, and secondly, it just doesn't work like that - unless the women you're targeting are nymphos . What you see in porn with the women panting and screaming and ripping the guy's pants off for his dick ... well... there's a reason you see it in porn. Much of that is fantasy. If you're expecting a women to want to have her face beaten with your dick, you may want to get into porn for that - lol! Most women like romance and a little thing called foreplay ....

From what you've expressed, your gf's lack of excitement sexually doesn't have anything to do with your cock - I think it's a lot deeper than that. You are both young (you said this is your first relationship); both of you obviously have a lot of growing to do. If you think you're giving 110% and she's only giving 20%, then you two need to talk about it and figure out what's going on.

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

ill agree with that. maybe she isnt comfortable in other areas and feels sex is something she just "has" to do. when the mother of my second child had our daughter she became very withdrawn and didnt seem happy in the bedroom as much as she had done before. it took her a while to get back in the swing of things and i eventually found out that it was more a case of she felt tired all the time and rather than just talk about it and tell me what was going on she kept her feelings to herself and put up with sex just to make me happy..

sometimes there are underlying problems that have nothing to do with you at all.

as for initiation, ive learned first hand that most women lack the confidence to initiate..but, have a day out and have loads of fun and have a few drinks..

a lot of women need a bit of a kick start. a few drinks normally helps this..im not trying to say get your partner drunk just so you can have sex with her but what im saying is with having so many discussions over the years with so many women a good 70-80% of them say they prefer sex when theyve had a drink because it makes them more confident.

[GTO Retired ModeratorPEGym EditorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close GTO]

ill agree with that. maybe she isnt comfortable in other areas and feels sex is something she just "has" to do. when the mother of my second child had our daughter she became very withdrawn and didnt seem happy in the bedroom as much as she had done before. it took her a while to get back in the swing of things and i eventually found out that it was more a case of she felt tired all the time and rather than just talk about it and tell me what was going on she kept her feelings to herself and put up with sex just to make me happy..

sometimes there are underlying problems that have nothing to do with you at all.

as for initiation, ive learned first hand that most women lack the confidence to initiate..but, have a day out and have loads of fun and have a few drinks..

a lot of women need a bit of a kick start. a few drinks normally helps this..im not trying to say get your partner drunk just so you can have sex with her but what im saying is with having so many discussions over the years with so many women a good 70-80% of them say they prefer sex when theyve had a drink because it makes them more confident.

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

thanks, theres a lot of situations that have arose on the site that i can offer a lot of experienced advice for. ill do my best to help where i can.

[Falconer1 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Falconer1]

sometimes there are underlying problems that have nothing to do with you at all.

as for initiation, ive learned first hand that most women lack the confidence to initiate.

This is undoubtedly true. I have not been with many women, but I can say that in my first-hand experience, of those women I was with, even the one who wanted and loved sex more than the rest would never, and I mean, *never* make the first move. I know with absolute certainty that she wanted it right then and there even when I waited for her to make the move, but she refused to.

The girl I'm with now is the same way, and everyone in-between, the same. My girl now did at one point grab my shirt and pull me onto her on the couch - after a night of drinking, of course - but other than that, I was the one to initiate sex 100% of the time.

It kinda sucks, in my opinion, because I don't want to come off as one of those fellas who *needs* sex or is obsessed with it in some way. As great as it is, I can do without if I have to. I just don't want to come across as "that" guy, you know?

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

yeah i know exacty what you mean. i used to have a gf like that and some of the guys used to think i was some sort of sex pest...

not realising she just wouldnt make the first move.

had to be second guessing all the time

[mistydawn Banned Find all posts View Profile Close mistydawn]

What you see in porn with the women panting and screaming and ripping the guy's pants off for his dick ... well... there's a reason you see it in porn. Much of that is fantasy. If you're expecting a women to want to have her face beaten with your dick, you may want to get into porn for that - lol! Most women like romance and a little thing called foreplay ....

Most women do not want their face beaten with your dick, they don't want to be gagged and cumming all over their face isn't being craved. However, these days, women will do these things because they want to keep up with the porn stars. Young women want to please the men, but that doesn't mean they actually like it!

From what you've expressed, your gf's lack of excitement sexually doesn't have anything to do with your cock - I think it's a lot deeper than that. You are both young (you said this is your first relationship); both of you obviously have a lot of growing to do. If you think you're giving 110% and she's only giving 20%, then you two need to talk about it and figure out what's going on.

It IS alot deeper. And what is the 110% and 20%? Is it that you want sex 110% of the time and her 20%? Or she only puts 20% into your sexual encounters?

Women don't crave dick the way men crave pussy. I think most women are looking for a whole experience. It isn't about just getting cock stuffed in them, the way it is men wanting to get in a hole. I realize this is hard for men to understand. Each gender thinks the other thinks like them.

[2guns&asixpack Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close 2guns&asixpack]

Thanks for the responses guys and girls.
Falconer1- Yeah man i really needed to hear what you had to say. It will really helps me rethink things. You saying that you had to initiate 100% was good to hear. I guess i really just wanted to see first hand that my girl just wanted me right then and there but i guess this doesn't happen, that kinda makes me sad