What do women consider "bad in Bed"?

[Fitetoend Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fitetoend]

Ive heard stories of countless women ending a relationship, (a very good one) at that because the sex wasn't good and that the guy was bad in bed. Got me thinking as always. Given that I am very small in the penis department (4 1/4 inches erect) I realized I already have it against me. As a result I do try to compensate by giving a lot of oral, trying to make her orgasm first, and being very passionate and aggresive during sex, dirty talk, etc. I was wondering what qualities or lack of, or what characteristics cause a woman to say that a guy is bad in bed.

Does my small size automatically put me in a uphill battle? Is it possible to be my size and yet be very good in bed? if there are, are there certain things i could do to better my performance and "sex skills"?

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

No. If you give her orgasms then shes fine, there's far more women that are worse in bed than guys to be honest.

[TheSnitch Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheSnitch]

Good question.

I'm not the most experienced guy, but I'd assume passion is the most important part. Being confident, playful, submissive and relaxing at the right moments.

Even if your technique is bad or sloppy, you can shape passion and work on technique. I have a strong feeling, lots of passion (not bad groping and sloppy kisses) but a burning desire and want for her and her body, is far more wanted than super technically proficient yet rigid.

Normally insecurity limits the ability for someone to be passionate as they are in their head, and instead seem awkward and uncomfortable - for the first time with someone that's fine, but in order to be a good lover you have to ignore your fears and insecurities and just be in the moment and lose yourself - she will pick up on that and do the same, then you get to truly be yourself with someone else and then you'll know if you really click with someone.

[CUSP82 Administrator Admin of the Month Dec 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close CUSP82]

No woman dumps a nice, kind, considerate, fun loving, humorous, sweet, intelligent, caring man whether he has a dick or not! Okay next question! ( stop reading the tabloids)

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

No. If you give her orgasms then shes fine, there's far more women that are worse in bed than guys to be honest.

And I was married to one so I can vouge for that statement.....

[MrBigDick Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrBigDick]

No woman dumps a nice, kind, considerate, fun loving, humorous, sweet, intelligent, caring man whether he has a dick or not! Okay next question! ( stop reading the tabloids)

Wanna bet?

[someone_like_u Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close someone_like_u]

Ive heard stories of countless women ending a relationship, (a very good one) at that because the sex wasn't good and that the guy was bad in bed.

My opinion is most of these women had other reasons to end the relationship and took the easy way out and hurt him below the belt by insulting his manhood.

[Closed039 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed039]

Wanna bet?

My thoughts as well - best not to speak in absolutes Cusp.

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

And I was married to one so I can vouge for that statement.....

Lol vogue. I've been with girls that after when they talk to guys they think they are hot stuff in bed talking how guys need techique bla bla, yet all they did was apply something sexy to wear and then lay there like a deer in headlights, and give me a bj when I asked. Lol.. Professionals.

[blulite Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close blulite]

No. If you give her orgasms then shes fine, there's far more women that are worse in bed than guys to be honest.

too true, ive met very few women who were actually good in bed.. can count them on one hand put it that way...

[ThomasJohnThomas Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ThomasJohnThomas]

We have a saying where I`m from... It takes two to fuck, I think it was!

[jd10021 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close jd10021]

There is no single right answer as all women are different. Personally, I enjoy mutually selfish sex - where both parties are doing and communicating what they like and don't like. Going down on a girl that really isn't in the mood is VERY different to going down on a girl who's really into it and can give you voluntary and involuntary feedback on what works for her. If you're looking for X, Y, Z things to do, then keep in mind is that women (and men, for that matter) have many more erogenous zones than just their vagina and breasts. I've had very different degrees of success with ears, hair, fingers, toes, anal play, stomach, etc. and there are many other non-physical ways to turn her on including a few drinks, dirty talk, porn, public sex, etc. By the time you finish exploring all of her, she won't even know what your penis size is.

P.S. If it ever gets into a bridge burning insult game, you're not too small... she's just too loose.

[Fitetoend Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Fitetoend]

Thanks everyone for all the helpful responses. I do oral for my girl for a lenghty period of time and normally give her an orgasm and do also give her an orgasm when we have sex, so its good to hear that if shes having orgasms Im fine. However Im worried because many times, especially on my first attempt I cant last very long, maybe a minute actually. And i know a lack of stamina is precisely what girls label as "bad in bed". I wonder if being "bad in bed" is more about laziness, sloppiness, indifference, awkardness, or more about skill, and size and stamina. Because then in that case I am missing two, haha. However I am always very passionate and Into it and very willing to please her, but I feel that i am obviously not big and that I cannot last very long.

[Closed039 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed039]

I would imagine a general rule for bad in bed is no foreplay, jamming your dick in and pounding as hard as you can, and then not showing affection afterwards.

[Steve23 Retired ModeratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Steve23]

Bad in bed can vary from person to person, like if she didn't enjoy what you did to her then she would consider it bad, but she orgasmed from oral and intercourse so you're doing fine. Every woman is different, if you can give this one an orgasm from intercourse you may not the next one, but then you'll have to figure out her likes and dislikes. That's the fun part of having sex, not just all technical and counting orgasms. If she likes you and you want her body and she wants yours, a mix of oral/manual and intercourse and hitting all the right spots goes a long way than, just intercourse for 40 minutes straight. And size is the last thing in a womans head, and probably the first in many guys. Do you think of her size? She probably doesn't think of yours either.