It's three months since the hardest breakup of my life and I'm through the pain. I am left with the real me, and the real me still loves her.
You may remember that I had an offer to work in Australia (I'm in the UK) when I first started seeing her, which I got them to put off, saying I needed 6 months to give this relationship a chance. Then 6 months later ... dead in the water. Convenient maybe? Who knows.
So anyway. The job offer just got renewed. With some urgency. And since it would represent me finally accepting I'll never have her back and moving on I had to contact her. I emailed, told her I had this wonderful offer, but I would drop it in a heartbeat for her, then went on to tell her why.
She replies in like 2 minutes, so it's an honest response, that she's going to cry.
so we've had mails back and fore now. We haven't "spoken" this much in months.
Most people I speak to say I should go to Australia. But that's the easy option, and not really what I want. One of my best friends said that if I feel I've got any chance with her (and now we're talking that chance just got a whole load better) then I should turn the job down, and that saying "Take me back or I'm going to the other side of the world" was unreasonable.
It was probably hanging over us from the start anyway. Certainly hanging over her, and if there is any chance of getting her back it mustn't continue to.
She mailed yesterday and said
So here's the thing. As unreasonable as it might be to rest it on her, if I've got no chance with her, I'll go. But it really is the easy option, running away. Turning it down to follow my heart, even if that leads nowhere, is way more difficult. So I am scared. But not of Oz. I'm not using her as an excuse, She's the reason. I'm scared of losing the best thing I ever had for good.
My flatmate was like "if it doesn't work out and you can't get her back, will you regret not going?". It's a good question. I don't think so.
I replied and said so, that going to Aus was the easy way out and following my heart was way harder, but right. I've asked her to come for coffee and talk with me sometime. And I've said she can call me any time. I await a response.
Am I stupid? Do you think I've got a chance?
You may remember that I had an offer to work in Australia (I'm in the UK) when I first started seeing her, which I got them to put off, saying I needed 6 months to give this relationship a chance. Then 6 months later ... dead in the water. Convenient maybe? Who knows.
So anyway. The job offer just got renewed. With some urgency. And since it would represent me finally accepting I'll never have her back and moving on I had to contact her. I emailed, told her I had this wonderful offer, but I would drop it in a heartbeat for her, then went on to tell her why.
She replies in like 2 minutes, so it's an honest response, that she's going to cry.
so we've had mails back and fore now. We haven't "spoken" this much in months.
Most people I speak to say I should go to Australia. But that's the easy option, and not really what I want. One of my best friends said that if I feel I've got any chance with her (and now we're talking that chance just got a whole load better) then I should turn the job down, and that saying "Take me back or I'm going to the other side of the world" was unreasonable.
It was probably hanging over us from the start anyway. Certainly hanging over her, and if there is any chance of getting her back it mustn't continue to.
She mailed yesterday and said
I've been thinking and I think you need to stop being scared, stop using me as an excuse and get yourself out to australia - it sounds like that's your calling and that whatever path your life is to take, australia is part of the journey. - I would go if I were you ... I had a great time with you, I was very happy and I'm not sure what happened exactly for it to come to an end, I just needed to continue on my own - maybe I got scared, I really don't know. Maybe it was so you could go to Australia. ? X
My flatmate was like "if it doesn't work out and you can't get her back, will you regret not going?". It's a good question. I don't think so.
I replied and said so, that going to Aus was the easy way out and following my heart was way harder, but right. I've asked her to come for coffee and talk with me sometime. And I've said she can call me any time. I await a response.
Am I stupid? Do you think I've got a chance?
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