Ok so here's the deal:
I had been seeing this girl for a while and one night when she was drunk she was telling me (even though I didn't want to hear it) that she'd always wanted to wait until marriage but then in college that changed. Her boyfriend and her had sex, and then after they'd broken up she'd got super drunk and had sex with some guy that she didn't even remember and those were her only two times.
Fast forward like a month: I asked her out, and like as soon as I did she's like wait there's something I have to get off my chest; that one night I lied to you about the guys I've been with. She said her and her boyfriend had never had sex and that her first time was the time she didn't even remember. Then she said that after that she was always scared of that happening again so she made sure to go out with someone every time she was going drinking so that she wouldn't accidentally sleep with someone, and that I was basically her first and that I'm the first guy she's had sex with sober. I was like ok whatever, I know you were drunk but don't ever lie to me again (honestly is far and away the most important thing to me).
Fast forward another month to yesterday: She lives in a dorm and I was kinda bouncing on her bed (ADD) and she got really mad cuz she didn't want people to think we were having sex. That made me think that maybe she was ashamed of having sex. Later on that night I asked her if she was embarassed that we have sex and she went on to say that she had a promise ring that she'd wait till marriage and then that one night happened and then after that she went "sex crazy" and that she's fine with sex but doesn't want people to know. I asked her if by sex crazy she meant she had a lot of sex and she said yes, after that night I was upset and didn't know what to do and started bringing guys home every time I got drunk.
What the hell!!!!!!
Then I got pissed at her for lieing to me and she claims she didn't lie, she told me I was the only one she'd had sex with sober (which she did) and she's like oh what did you want a number or something?
So basically, I don't give a damn who she's slept with but I feel extremely led along thinking this whole time I'm the first guy she even remembers having sex with when in reality that's not the truth at all. I also feel awful for having sex with when she's obviously still not 100% comfortable with it. We're meeting later today and I don't know what to tell her. I didn't want to get in a serious relationship when I asked her out, but I also think she's really cool and nice and don't want to hurt her.. any advice you guys might have would be greatly appreciated.
I had been seeing this girl for a while and one night when she was drunk she was telling me (even though I didn't want to hear it) that she'd always wanted to wait until marriage but then in college that changed. Her boyfriend and her had sex, and then after they'd broken up she'd got super drunk and had sex with some guy that she didn't even remember and those were her only two times.
Fast forward like a month: I asked her out, and like as soon as I did she's like wait there's something I have to get off my chest; that one night I lied to you about the guys I've been with. She said her and her boyfriend had never had sex and that her first time was the time she didn't even remember. Then she said that after that she was always scared of that happening again so she made sure to go out with someone every time she was going drinking so that she wouldn't accidentally sleep with someone, and that I was basically her first and that I'm the first guy she's had sex with sober. I was like ok whatever, I know you were drunk but don't ever lie to me again (honestly is far and away the most important thing to me).
Fast forward another month to yesterday: She lives in a dorm and I was kinda bouncing on her bed (ADD) and she got really mad cuz she didn't want people to think we were having sex. That made me think that maybe she was ashamed of having sex. Later on that night I asked her if she was embarassed that we have sex and she went on to say that she had a promise ring that she'd wait till marriage and then that one night happened and then after that she went "sex crazy" and that she's fine with sex but doesn't want people to know. I asked her if by sex crazy she meant she had a lot of sex and she said yes, after that night I was upset and didn't know what to do and started bringing guys home every time I got drunk.
What the hell!!!!!!
Then I got pissed at her for lieing to me and she claims she didn't lie, she told me I was the only one she'd had sex with sober (which she did) and she's like oh what did you want a number or something?
So basically, I don't give a damn who she's slept with but I feel extremely led along thinking this whole time I'm the first guy she even remembers having sex with when in reality that's not the truth at all. I also feel awful for having sex with when she's obviously still not 100% comfortable with it. We're meeting later today and I don't know what to tell her. I didn't want to get in a serious relationship when I asked her out, but I also think she's really cool and nice and don't want to hurt her.. any advice you guys might have would be greatly appreciated.
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