I have a serious problem sometimes with girls. Somtimes one may like me, but in my head Ill keep thinking up reasons why she wouldnt like me. I also have a problem to where I cant get a girl out of my head and I sort of put her on a pedestal so to speak. How does one go about NOT doing this?
This girl, we had a class together this past semester in school where we only went once a week but it was for 6 hours. In this class everyone got to know everyone else really well and this is where I came to like who this girl is. There were a few different times nearing the end of the semester where I kinda felt a vibe that she liked me, but me being my own worst enemy my mind shot that down quick and I never asked her out or anything.
Fast forward to 2 nights ago. Me and my friends were at the bars and were in the middle of switching bars when she was with a friend and noticed me. This was at maybe 3 AM. So we spend the rest of the night together dancing/talking with other people, just having a really good time until around 6 AM. After that it was time to go home, and my house is on the way to hers so she said she would drop me off. I asked her if she wanted to smoke so we both came inside my house to do that. After we smoked, me being my own worst enemy again I was hesitant to make a move until I noticed it kind of looked like she was getting impatient with me not making one. I wasnt about to miss out on this one so I pulled my go to question in the clutch, I just straight up asked her if she wanted to kiss me and when she said maybe with a smile, it was on!
I kid you not, we made out with each other in my kitchen until at least 7:30, so for like an hour. We had to drink 2 glasses of water between both of us because our mouths got so dry from making out so much. It was like one of those make out sessions from high school. She ended up sleeping over.
So about my issues. Before this incident, I would think to myself, "shes too pretty, why would she want to be with a bald guy(Im bald) when she can get a lot of the sought after guys with hair." Im still thinking that actually. I usually think to myself that a girl wouldnt like me bald because I always wear a hat out, so I get it in my head that when she actually does see me bald, she wont like it. Kind of like a self fulfilling prophecy. In this case, because of our class, I had to go to the class hatless so she knows what I look like bald, so that issue is irrelevant.
I also have the issue where Ill think we did what we did because we were drunk, and that when sober she may think different. Ive had times before where me and a girl do something like this when drunk, and it seems like everything changes after. I had a thread about a month or 2 ago where me and a girl made out at a party and I was asking advice on how to ask her out. Well I asked her out, she said yes but had to cancel the day of. People suggested I wait for her to hit me back up to reschedule so I did, but she never hit me back up. Ive seen her like twice since then and things just seem different. This type of thing has happened a few times during my time in college.
I dont want that to happen in this case. I dont want to act weird or anything next time we hang out. I dont want to appear needy or desperate. I have no clue when, or how, I should say something, if at all. She has been on my mind almost all the time since it happened, but I dont want her to be because Ill end up liking her way too much and act different around her. This girl is really pretty, one of those where my friends were wondering how in the world I pulled something like that. Id hate to screw it up because it seems obvious that she likes me, but my mind might convince me that she doesnt. How do I avoid this???
Side note: Sorry for the long, rambling story. I have no one else I feel comfortable talking to about this so this is my release lol.
This girl, we had a class together this past semester in school where we only went once a week but it was for 6 hours. In this class everyone got to know everyone else really well and this is where I came to like who this girl is. There were a few different times nearing the end of the semester where I kinda felt a vibe that she liked me, but me being my own worst enemy my mind shot that down quick and I never asked her out or anything.
Fast forward to 2 nights ago. Me and my friends were at the bars and were in the middle of switching bars when she was with a friend and noticed me. This was at maybe 3 AM. So we spend the rest of the night together dancing/talking with other people, just having a really good time until around 6 AM. After that it was time to go home, and my house is on the way to hers so she said she would drop me off. I asked her if she wanted to smoke so we both came inside my house to do that. After we smoked, me being my own worst enemy again I was hesitant to make a move until I noticed it kind of looked like she was getting impatient with me not making one. I wasnt about to miss out on this one so I pulled my go to question in the clutch, I just straight up asked her if she wanted to kiss me and when she said maybe with a smile, it was on!
I kid you not, we made out with each other in my kitchen until at least 7:30, so for like an hour. We had to drink 2 glasses of water between both of us because our mouths got so dry from making out so much. It was like one of those make out sessions from high school. She ended up sleeping over.
So about my issues. Before this incident, I would think to myself, "shes too pretty, why would she want to be with a bald guy(Im bald) when she can get a lot of the sought after guys with hair." Im still thinking that actually. I usually think to myself that a girl wouldnt like me bald because I always wear a hat out, so I get it in my head that when she actually does see me bald, she wont like it. Kind of like a self fulfilling prophecy. In this case, because of our class, I had to go to the class hatless so she knows what I look like bald, so that issue is irrelevant.
I also have the issue where Ill think we did what we did because we were drunk, and that when sober she may think different. Ive had times before where me and a girl do something like this when drunk, and it seems like everything changes after. I had a thread about a month or 2 ago where me and a girl made out at a party and I was asking advice on how to ask her out. Well I asked her out, she said yes but had to cancel the day of. People suggested I wait for her to hit me back up to reschedule so I did, but she never hit me back up. Ive seen her like twice since then and things just seem different. This type of thing has happened a few times during my time in college.
I dont want that to happen in this case. I dont want to act weird or anything next time we hang out. I dont want to appear needy or desperate. I have no clue when, or how, I should say something, if at all. She has been on my mind almost all the time since it happened, but I dont want her to be because Ill end up liking her way too much and act different around her. This girl is really pretty, one of those where my friends were wondering how in the world I pulled something like that. Id hate to screw it up because it seems obvious that she likes me, but my mind might convince me that she doesnt. How do I avoid this???
Side note: Sorry for the long, rambling story. I have no one else I feel comfortable talking to about this so this is my release lol.
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