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  • First date = disaster?

    Me again...

    I have very little dating experience. And some of you already know I have major anxiety issues.

    Anyway, I'll start from the beginning...

    About 3 months ago, I began a long distance relationship. It was great at first, we texted each other all the time and we were really into one another. I saw her quite a bit despite the distance. She even my first kiss. However, the distance was beginning to get to me, and I finally ended the relationship (which I took very hard because I had never had to jab a knife through a girls heart like that.)

    One of the reasons why I broke up with this girl is because I had the hots for another that was closer to home.

    So, I asked the new girl for her number at work and asked her out.

    Now for the reason of this post...
    We went to a restaraunt and had dinner. I immediately noticed that she was very "fidgety". She would rub her ear lobes, lightly pinch the skin on her kneck, things like that. She was also playing with her food a little bit, which was a little odd.

    Im usually pretty good about reading body language, which is the reason I was able to pick up her fidgeting... but I what I cant figure out is what she was thinking. She is a pretty shy girl, so she may have just been nervous but Im not sure.

    She also talked alot about her "guy" friends. I didnt have a problem with this at first, but then she started talking about her past boyfriends, and how she still talks to some of them. This is was a little disheartening... granted, I know most of the guys she was talking about because we went to the same school, however, Im not really sure why she put so much focus on the subject.

    Toward the end of the date, and this is where I think I may have really screwed up... She asked me what I was doing tonight. I told her I wasnt really sure, and that I would probably just take a nap because I had a long day at work. I then said "why, did you have something in mind"? Then she mentioned that we could go see a movie. Unfortunately we found out that there wasnt anything showing for the next 2 or 3 hours. This is where the date got awkward... Im pretty sure she wanted to do something, but I didnt know what to say. So, I asked her if she was free saturday night, and that we could see a movie then. She didnt really give me a straight answer, and I got the feeling that maybe she wasnt interested... Im not really sure.

    As we left, I thanked her for meeting me there and said that I had a good time. I also said that I would stay in touch.

    Anyway, I guess what I would like to know is why she was so fidgety, and why she kept talking about her previous boyfriends. And also, If screwed up any chance of a second date with her.

    Keep in mind, this girl is very attractive (porn star hot...) and this being my first date (ever) I was really nervous.
    I left feeling that she wasnt that interested, and that I should have done/said things differently. Not sure....

    Also, I want to follow up with her in the next couple of days, but how soon would be too soon? Ill probably just text her to see if she is still interested.

    I know thats a lot to read so Ill end it here.
    smallersideofavg
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    Last edited by smallersideofavg; 06-04-2013, 09:05 PM.

  • #2
    I don't see anything wrong with the date. I can't give you am answer as to why she was fidgety, and usually when thoughts like that come to my mind, I repeat like a mantra, "It's not all about you, [Q]." Because really, it isn't all about me.

    Ask her out on a second date, see what happens.
    Starting (3/14/2011) = 5" x 4"
    Current (7/16/2013) = 5.75" x 4.125"

    Short-Term Goal = BPEL 6"
    Long-Term Goal = 7.5" x 5.5"

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    • #3
      Oh, also, timing doesn't matter. Just do it when you feel like doing it.
      Starting (3/14/2011) = 5" x 4"
      Current (7/16/2013) = 5.75" x 4.125"

      Short-Term Goal = BPEL 6"
      Long-Term Goal = 7.5" x 5.5"

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      • #4
        She could have been nervous. She could be awkward and was just talking when talking about old boyfriends. I find some of the hottest sexiest females are really losers. Not like theyre not fun to be around but sometimes theyre as nervous or goofy as most of us guys get.
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        BPEL: 6.0 in
        NBPEL:5.5 in
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        • #5
          It could've been any one of a number of things. It was most likely nerves.......

          Talking about her past boyfriends though is kind of a turnoff...............
          It's a tough job being good looking and hung :-)

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          • #6
            I get nervous around girls when I'm attracted to them but that's just me.

            I don't know why you would get the feeling she's not into you, she asked you what you were doing tonight because she had nothing to either and wanted to spend her time with you.
            BPEL: 6.7-8.57" NBPEL: 6.3-8.25"
            MEG: 5.9-6.5" HeadEG: 5.4-6.25" BEG: 6.25-7"
            CI:1.5 -2.5
            Flaccid: 5"x4.75" -> 6.25"x5.375" for +63% volume
            275ml-435ml in 3 years, 6 months(active 2 years) for +58% volume
            6.7x5.9 - 8.57x6.5 or bigger than 9/10x49/50 - 2999/3000x1666/1667

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            • #7
              dude, the first thing you need to do is discover your confidence. I'm not intending to say that in a mean way or anything, but just from a gym bro to gym bro. Read a book on confidence and really go soul searching. I can tell you for a fact that she liked you. Also, just wondering how old are you? kk, I wasn't there or anything, but here are a few tips and my interpretation on the situation.

              #1 - Do not take girls out for dinner on a first date. This is an old fashioned cliche that doesn't need to continue. Keep first dates to simple things such as coffee, drinks, or something fun. The reason is that you want to keep the level of commitment low and relaxed for the first date. Going for dinner makes some girls nervous and there is a higher probability of her flaking on you even if she does really like you. I can talk about this further if you need clarification, i just don't want to write an essay.

              #2 - The fidgeting could have been because SHE WAS ATTRACTED TO YOU!!! haha girls often do things like play with their hair, scratch their wrists and casually lick their lips when they like you. Its a primal thing. Also, if the conversation was awkward or boring this also could have been the reason, i wasn't there.... but get in the habit of assuming its the positive option, thinking negatively gets you nowhere when your in the situation.

              #3 - she asked you what you were doing after and asked you if you wanted to go to a movie. This assures me that she liked you and wanted to spend more time with you. As for the talking about ex- boyfriend thing? All i can say is sometimes girls say stupid shit. Its the same reason some guys tell girls their stories about how some girl broke their heart. Just because she is super hot doesn't mean she is a conversational genius. When there were no good movies playing that was a PERFECT situation. " man, that sucks, there arn't any movies for like 2 hours, I really want to watch a movie tho, how about we just watch one at my place, have you ever seen ______?" insert movie name that you want to watch. Whats she going to say? no? she can't make an excuse cause she already said she wanted to go to a movie. Then when you go to watch the movie sit down comfy holding her so you don't have to do the awkward " should i put my arm around her" during the middle of the movie. To this day I have never had a girl not like it when I put my arm around her, and have made out with every girl i've watched a movie with. ( I assure you i'm not trying to brag but just show you that being assumptive with girls really has no consequences). I mean, obviously don't just whip your dick out, but be assumptive.

              You are the MAN, the dominant, assertive male that a girl needs to look out for her. Girls like it when you make the decisions. Don't be an asshole, but don't seek her approval either. You don't have to ask for her permission hold her, kiss her or touch her. Be socially calibrated, but also remember that you have the balls.

              If you want more tips or help with women just PM me. You obviously have potential but just need to refine your skills and understand womens psychology a little better. Also, never listen to women about how to get other women. It is undoubtably the worst thing you can do.

              Goodluck bro,

              again, hit me up if you have any questions, or if anyone does for that matter. I have quite a bit of experience with this kindof thing and have helped quite a few of my friends with women. Sorry about the essay.

              Peace.
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              May 2016: BPEL: 7.5 x 5.00

              Goal: First get to 8" BPEL and then work on girth as much as possible. Not too attached to the number but more with the journey.

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              • #8
                A few hours after our date, I sent a text message to her: "Hey, i had a great time with you tonight! Cant wait to see you again "

                She never responded... should I be worried?
                Ive been thinking about calling her tomorrow and asking her out to see a movie, but Im hesitant to because Im not sure if she is still interested.

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                • #9
                  Pick up a phone, no not text, and call and ask her. She'll either say yes or no won't she? Then you'll have an answer and you'll know what to do!
                  The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by smallersideofavg View Post
                    A few hours after our date, I sent a text message to her: "Hey, i had a great time with you tonight! Cant wait to see you again "

                    She never responded... should I be worried?
                    Ive been thinking about calling her tomorrow and asking her out to see a movie, but Im hesitant to because Im not sure if she is still interested.
                    You didn't ask a question so there was nothing to warrant a reply.

                    No need to be worried.

                    Also, I see no problem taking a woman out for dinner on a first date. Usually I go Dutch, meaning we each pay for ourselves. Plus, I tend to get food coma after I eat, so I avoid dates where there is substantial eating involved because I might fall asleep on her.

                    That's just me, though.
                    Starting (3/14/2011) = 5" x 4"
                    Current (7/16/2013) = 5.75" x 4.125"

                    Short-Term Goal = BPEL 6"
                    Long-Term Goal = 7.5" x 5.5"

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Dangs7 View Post
                      ...and have made out with every girl i've watched a movie with.
                      Wow, does your dad know?
                      BPEL: 6.7-8.57" NBPEL: 6.3-8.25"
                      MEG: 5.9-6.5" HeadEG: 5.4-6.25" BEG: 6.25-7"
                      CI:1.5 -2.5
                      Flaccid: 5"x4.75" -> 6.25"x5.375" for +63% volume
                      275ml-435ml in 3 years, 6 months(active 2 years) for +58% volume
                      6.7x5.9 - 8.57x6.5 or bigger than 9/10x49/50 - 2999/3000x1666/1667

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                      • #12
                        Well I asked her out today, and she agreed to go see a movie with me tomorrow.

                        I do have another question though. For some reason she avoids having me pick her up. I asked her if she would like me to pick her up, and she said that she could just meet me there because she doesnt want to have me drive all the way there to get her and that she doesnt mind meeting me. Ideas?

                        Also, is it normal for a girl to have mostly guy friends? What does this usually mean?

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                        • #13
                          It means wear a condom.
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                          • #14
                            eow,

                            Im not sure what you mean by tht, could you explain further?

                            Thanks

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                            • #15
                              she has a boyfriend already

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