Me again...
I have very little dating experience. And some of you already know I have major anxiety issues.
Anyway, I'll start from the beginning...
About 3 months ago, I began a long distance relationship. It was great at first, we texted each other all the time and we were really into one another. I saw her quite a bit despite the distance. She even my first kiss. However, the distance was beginning to get to me, and I finally ended the relationship (which I took very hard because I had never had to jab a knife through a girls heart like that.)
One of the reasons why I broke up with this girl is because I had the hots for another that was closer to home.
So, I asked the new girl for her number at work and asked her out.
Now for the reason of this post...
We went to a restaraunt and had dinner. I immediately noticed that she was very "fidgety". She would rub her ear lobes, lightly pinch the skin on her kneck, things like that. She was also playing with her food a little bit, which was a little odd.
Im usually pretty good about reading body language, which is the reason I was able to pick up her fidgeting... but I what I cant figure out is what she was thinking. She is a pretty shy girl, so she may have just been nervous but Im not sure.
She also talked alot about her "guy" friends. I didnt have a problem with this at first, but then she started talking about her past boyfriends, and how she still talks to some of them. This is was a little disheartening... granted, I know most of the guys she was talking about because we went to the same school, however, Im not really sure why she put so much focus on the subject.
Toward the end of the date, and this is where I think I may have really screwed up... She asked me what I was doing tonight. I told her I wasnt really sure, and that I would probably just take a nap because I had a long day at work. I then said "why, did you have something in mind"? Then she mentioned that we could go see a movie. Unfortunately we found out that there wasnt anything showing for the next 2 or 3 hours. This is where the date got awkward... Im pretty sure she wanted to do something, but I didnt know what to say. So, I asked her if she was free saturday night, and that we could see a movie then. She didnt really give me a straight answer, and I got the feeling that maybe she wasnt interested... Im not really sure.
As we left, I thanked her for meeting me there and said that I had a good time. I also said that I would stay in touch.
Anyway, I guess what I would like to know is why she was so fidgety, and why she kept talking about her previous boyfriends. And also, If screwed up any chance of a second date with her.
Keep in mind, this girl is very attractive (porn star hot...) and this being my first date (ever) I was really nervous.
I left feeling that she wasnt that interested, and that I should have done/said things differently. Not sure....
Also, I want to follow up with her in the next couple of days, but how soon would be too soon? Ill probably just text her to see if she is still interested.
I know thats a lot to read so Ill end it here.
I have very little dating experience. And some of you already know I have major anxiety issues.
Anyway, I'll start from the beginning...
About 3 months ago, I began a long distance relationship. It was great at first, we texted each other all the time and we were really into one another. I saw her quite a bit despite the distance. She even my first kiss. However, the distance was beginning to get to me, and I finally ended the relationship (which I took very hard because I had never had to jab a knife through a girls heart like that.)
One of the reasons why I broke up with this girl is because I had the hots for another that was closer to home.
So, I asked the new girl for her number at work and asked her out.
Now for the reason of this post...
We went to a restaraunt and had dinner. I immediately noticed that she was very "fidgety". She would rub her ear lobes, lightly pinch the skin on her kneck, things like that. She was also playing with her food a little bit, which was a little odd.
Im usually pretty good about reading body language, which is the reason I was able to pick up her fidgeting... but I what I cant figure out is what she was thinking. She is a pretty shy girl, so she may have just been nervous but Im not sure.
She also talked alot about her "guy" friends. I didnt have a problem with this at first, but then she started talking about her past boyfriends, and how she still talks to some of them. This is was a little disheartening... granted, I know most of the guys she was talking about because we went to the same school, however, Im not really sure why she put so much focus on the subject.
Toward the end of the date, and this is where I think I may have really screwed up... She asked me what I was doing tonight. I told her I wasnt really sure, and that I would probably just take a nap because I had a long day at work. I then said "why, did you have something in mind"? Then she mentioned that we could go see a movie. Unfortunately we found out that there wasnt anything showing for the next 2 or 3 hours. This is where the date got awkward... Im pretty sure she wanted to do something, but I didnt know what to say. So, I asked her if she was free saturday night, and that we could see a movie then. She didnt really give me a straight answer, and I got the feeling that maybe she wasnt interested... Im not really sure.
As we left, I thanked her for meeting me there and said that I had a good time. I also said that I would stay in touch.
Anyway, I guess what I would like to know is why she was so fidgety, and why she kept talking about her previous boyfriends. And also, If screwed up any chance of a second date with her.
Keep in mind, this girl is very attractive (porn star hot...) and this being my first date (ever) I was really nervous.
I left feeling that she wasnt that interested, and that I should have done/said things differently. Not sure....
Also, I want to follow up with her in the next couple of days, but how soon would be too soon? Ill probably just text her to see if she is still interested.
I know thats a lot to read so Ill end it here.
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