The Break-up cure
I recently had a break-up with a girl I was with for 2 years. I acted all pethatic, desperate, crybaby, .. In other words: I couldn't be attractive for her anymore. It hurt extra bad because she was seeing some other dude after just 3 weeks after the break-up.
Now, I knew my reaction isn't the way to go. I think we've all been there: texting how everything will change if we just come back together, texting all the good moments to her, saying you are literally devestated and crying all day, .. I sent all these things to her. Immature and needy.
I thought "fuck this shit". I wanted to learn how to control my emotions for good this time. Nobody learns you how to deal with a break-up when you grow up. So I started watching videos online etc. Those videos don't guarantee she will ever come back, but what it does do is give you some tools to say and do WICH IS BEST IN A BREAK-UP SITUATION. It just feels good knowing you made the right move and you did everything you could.
So I stumbled upon this guy named Kevin. He's also called "the break-up doctor". I watched his free video here (so anyone in pain because of a breakup, I really recommend to check out this vid) => How to Get Your Ex Back and What To Do If You Can't
To summarize the vid:
- She's holding you back from becoming a better person.
- Never depent on other people to make you happy.
- Desire and attachment are the root of all suffering. Expectations make us miserable.
- You'll be dissapointed when trying to contact them.
- The person you're with should add to your hapiness.
- It's not about what you say, it's about who you are (after the break-up).
Best thing to do when she break up with you, just say "okay, I also think it's better we split." .. Just that, in a calm/cool manner.
It was just a free vid, but it felt so good hearing all this. And now I'm a bit hooked on this shit. I will never be able to never ever feel pain again, that's impossible. But I'd love to learn more on how to deal with this stuff .. Because I start to act all panicky, what should I do, etc. when a girl dumps me.
Everytime I think about my ex and I get that weird feeling in my stomach, I just think: don't rely on her for your own happiness .. And it really helps to ease the pain. It just makes you feel mature and in control.
Now, the reason I started this thread .. This break-up doctor (he studied this shit in a school that investigated marriage problems etc. so I really believe he's legit. Atleast it helped for me) has a complete program called "the break-up cure". I was wondering if anyone has any experience with it or perhaps has the program or PDF-file. I tried looking for it on the Internet but I couldn't find anything.