So not too long ago I posted how great things were going with this girl in the kissing thread and my log, even though at the point of the post I had my fears about what has transpired since ...
https://www.pegym.com/forums/progres...tml#post717156
https://www.pegym.com/forums/womans-...tml#post717153
... well continuing since then ...
We clicked and have so much in common and were so into each other and texting all the time and she'd send me the sweetest things of how much she liked me and anyways after a weekend night 2 weeks ago almost we ended up having a little oral sex in the car for both of us (it was my first time she said i did great and i made her cum a few times) we started to have sex because she said she really wanted me inside her but i didnt last long cuz she had already gotten me so far with the oral ... and plus it's been a year in a half ... and I wasn't fully hard and had trouble in the confined area of the car ... i told her that wasn't normal and usually I've lasted long of the few times ive had sex. She didn't seem too bothered and we had a great night ... then we hung out at her house the next day and I met her parents briefly and we just chilled and had good time but something seemed off kinda at the end ... and ever since she hasn't seemed interested and like she's really fallen away barely responding to texts ... Now when i say i miss you she's gone a long time without responding, and then saying like oh you're sweet! .... not saying it back ... or she said it back but now she never says it first when she was all the time and stuff like that before ... she doesn't call me babe or anything like she started to before and I feel like I'm about to lose her or something just like every other brief dating I've done (3 other girls)
Now she has just started college back this week and now works and goes to school most days of the week and is busier and now what she thinks I'm probably assuming is that's why she's not talking much and all but we would text all day through her work before, and she has completely seemed like she's not thinking about me anymore ... I haven't seen her in almost 2 weeks and she hasn't even talked about when she'll see me again when I told her to let me know if she wants to hang sometime .. which I said like that purposely to show I was kind of feeling like things aren't the same if I she might not even consider hanging again you know? but I don't think she got that ... and I'm not like going crazy with texts ... I don't wanna keep saying things like I miss you when she clearly doesn't feel the same way anymore and if she doesnt respond I dont send another text usually etc ... i get all the hints ... so I texted her yesterday afternoon and we got like 2 back n forth and then she didnt respond until tonight at almost midnight with just a "hope you had a good day!" ....
I want to just ask her what I did to turn her off and why she's lost interest in me but Idk if I should ... I texted her yesterday afternoon saying talk to me when you can
She went from saying I'm the sweetest guy ever and a million other things all the time and "why don't you have a girlfriend? what's wrong with you that I'm missing? you're perfect." and shit like that to now probably thinking like oh I still kinda like him I'll keep in touch with him ... wtf ??? You know I was feeling good like hey maybe I do deserve a good girlfriend I'm pretty great after all to now like well here we go again whatever is wrong with me or whatever is ending this again ... And I honestly think that there isn't something I'm doing terribly wrong or something wrong with me ... mentally I know that ... or think it ... but it still sits in the back of your head emotionally and makes me feel like shit and I've just been so depressed and down this last week or so and I think about all those lonely people like me who are seemingly destined to be alone and how society doesn't care enough about that and how life is so hard and why should I even ever be happy anyways and I know I seem clingy or whatever guys but this is just fucking bullshit man I am sick of it ... now all I've done all day is wonder about what's going on etc ...
Just I guess for those of you who ventured through this post, what analysis can you give me to help me? and should I not ask her that? say something else? keep letting it go until she maybe just stops talking to me altogether?
https://www.pegym.com/forums/progres...tml#post717156
https://www.pegym.com/forums/womans-...tml#post717153
... well continuing since then ...
We clicked and have so much in common and were so into each other and texting all the time and she'd send me the sweetest things of how much she liked me and anyways after a weekend night 2 weeks ago almost we ended up having a little oral sex in the car for both of us (it was my first time she said i did great and i made her cum a few times) we started to have sex because she said she really wanted me inside her but i didnt last long cuz she had already gotten me so far with the oral ... and plus it's been a year in a half ... and I wasn't fully hard and had trouble in the confined area of the car ... i told her that wasn't normal and usually I've lasted long of the few times ive had sex. She didn't seem too bothered and we had a great night ... then we hung out at her house the next day and I met her parents briefly and we just chilled and had good time but something seemed off kinda at the end ... and ever since she hasn't seemed interested and like she's really fallen away barely responding to texts ... Now when i say i miss you she's gone a long time without responding, and then saying like oh you're sweet! .... not saying it back ... or she said it back but now she never says it first when she was all the time and stuff like that before ... she doesn't call me babe or anything like she started to before and I feel like I'm about to lose her or something just like every other brief dating I've done (3 other girls)
Now she has just started college back this week and now works and goes to school most days of the week and is busier and now what she thinks I'm probably assuming is that's why she's not talking much and all but we would text all day through her work before, and she has completely seemed like she's not thinking about me anymore ... I haven't seen her in almost 2 weeks and she hasn't even talked about when she'll see me again when I told her to let me know if she wants to hang sometime .. which I said like that purposely to show I was kind of feeling like things aren't the same if I she might not even consider hanging again you know? but I don't think she got that ... and I'm not like going crazy with texts ... I don't wanna keep saying things like I miss you when she clearly doesn't feel the same way anymore and if she doesnt respond I dont send another text usually etc ... i get all the hints ... so I texted her yesterday afternoon and we got like 2 back n forth and then she didnt respond until tonight at almost midnight with just a "hope you had a good day!" ....
I want to just ask her what I did to turn her off and why she's lost interest in me but Idk if I should ... I texted her yesterday afternoon saying talk to me when you can
She went from saying I'm the sweetest guy ever and a million other things all the time and "why don't you have a girlfriend? what's wrong with you that I'm missing? you're perfect." and shit like that to now probably thinking like oh I still kinda like him I'll keep in touch with him ... wtf ??? You know I was feeling good like hey maybe I do deserve a good girlfriend I'm pretty great after all to now like well here we go again whatever is wrong with me or whatever is ending this again ... And I honestly think that there isn't something I'm doing terribly wrong or something wrong with me ... mentally I know that ... or think it ... but it still sits in the back of your head emotionally and makes me feel like shit and I've just been so depressed and down this last week or so and I think about all those lonely people like me who are seemingly destined to be alone and how society doesn't care enough about that and how life is so hard and why should I even ever be happy anyways and I know I seem clingy or whatever guys but this is just fucking bullshit man I am sick of it ... now all I've done all day is wonder about what's going on etc ...
Just I guess for those of you who ventured through this post, what analysis can you give me to help me? and should I not ask her that? say something else? keep letting it go until she maybe just stops talking to me altogether?
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