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    With my new found knowledge (thanks to ya'll) that boys are just as susceptible to body image issues as girls, I'm wondering how we should protect our kids from this happening?
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    Tikkun Olam


  • #2
    They can't be protected.Everyone would like to change something about themselves.Confident people accept how they look like does not change who they are, and go about like.

    Those who do not have adequate self esteem worry about how they look etc.
    Cause I'm TNT, I'm Dynamite :boxing::aikido:

    Got nine lives...used six already!! :angel:

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    • #3
      I don't know if that's true Camaro. Even if it is I can tell you as a parent that I'm still gonna "give it a go" to protect and uplift my child. They have told me many times that I'll never beat autism, so does that mean I don't try? F that right? So, same thing here. The greatest weapon you can arm your child with is a good self esteem and a healthy body image is a part of that. I for one do not throw my hands up in the air and surrender to "luck" and the media Gods to hopefully do it for me. I am his ordained guardian and it is my responsibility to at least try.
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      • #4
        How old is your kids?

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        • #5
          Originally posted by Thenewguy2 View Post
          How old is your kids?
          I have one little boy, his family nick name is Boss and he's 11.
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          • #6
            Excellent Op position as a parent. I too since finding this site have changed the way I parent regarding sexuality and the parts.
            All I could think of was to incorporate percentile stats, keeping the peen healthy as men age, explain that there is no correlation between race and height ( basically kill the sterotypes)
            Work in these things when the opportunity arrises.
            Our children trust and believe us 100%. We put them at ease. Water boy " mama said" famous line.
            My son had small penis syndrome (sps) I was shocked. He's very social and confident then that topic came up. I whipped out the info I had learned. Left a ruler one day in his room. Like a week later he said. "Oh mom I'm all good. . Thank God"
            Point is he had no idea stats were all over the place ie: soft hard showR grower etc.
            I even bought him four or five different types of condoms. Tossed it to him and said figure out which ones fit and work for you. Everyone is different. Don't let the wrong fitting confirm screw with your mind.

            Good luck and glad you are thinking like this.
            The Dick is the Best Toy Ever!

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            • #7
              Your a good woman Islander. This is the exact type of hard information I'm hopping we can all share to give each other as parents support and ideas. Thanks for sharing.
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              Tikkun Olam

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              • #8
                Originally posted by anonymity View Post
                I have one little boy, his family nick name is Boss and he's 11.
                Sounds like a kid who gets everything he wants...

                My lil bro got that nick name.. he gets everything he wants.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Thenewguy2 View Post
                  Sounds like a kid who gets everything he wants...

                  My lil bro got that nick name.. he gets everything he wants.
                  It sounds like a little boy who will struggle, find easy things hard to do and one day we will find out that he has grown up in spite of us. He will get a job , get married, have kids, and be as happy as the rest of us! On second thought maybe we should keep him little!
                  The world's still a toy if you just stay a boy!

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Thenewguy2 View Post
                    Sounds like a kid who gets everything he wants...

                    My lil bro got that nick name.. he gets everything he wants.

                    You couldn't be more wrong about my little man.
                    He was actually a timid little guy when I decided to start calling him that inorder to amp up his confidence. He is also the only 11 year old I know that has a part time job and has to pay for his own karate. In the morning he is not allowed to leave his room until his bed is made and then he hits his chore list on the fridge. He is amply supplied for, but work ethic is strong over here as I also see that as a confidence booster.
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                    • #11
                      I try to make my kids feel confident in everything they do. They dont have to be the best they just have to try their best

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                      • #12
                        Excellent question Anonymity!

                        As the mother of a daughter and recognizing the correlation of body image and sexual self-confidence and the inherent risks involved (pregnancy, STIs, date rape, peer pressure, etc.) I did the following:

                        1) Ensured that the lines of communication were always open; made sure that she felt safe and secure talking to me about anything – sexual or otherwise without judgment.

                        2) Refused to leave her sexual education solely in the hands of the public education system as I felt it was basic at its best and biased at its worst. I didn’t want something as important as her sexual evolution to be left in the hands of a bunch of strangers. No thank you.

                        3) Removed the “mystery” surrounding sex by speaking openly about it often in a manner that was age-appropriate and encouraged her to ask questions.

                        4) Made sure she understood the role emotions play in sex, the importance of knowing her own “sexual body” and that sex and exploring her body was neither “dirty” or “wrong”.

                        5) Made sure she understood that porn was not an accurate depiction of sexual relationships and therefore had no value for her in watching it. (I also put Net Nanny on her computer)

                        The end result? A daughter who took responsibility for her sexuality, choosing to wait until after she graduated high school to lose her virginity with a boy she loved and who she had been dating exclusively for 2 years. A young women who was unafraid to come to her mother when she was “ready” and be asked to be put on the pill BEFORE having sex. A daughter whose first sexual experience with a partner was the stuff of romantic movies.

                        As a mother and woman, I couldn’t be more pleased…and yes, we still continue to have regular “sex talks” especially now that she is in college.
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                        Last edited by TPW; 09-28-2013, 11:01 AM.

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                        • #13
                          Perfect TPW! That's the stuff I'm talkin about. Sounds like you worked hard and conscientiously and have been rewarded with good results. Is there any difference when it comes to boys? Especially with the porn thing?
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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by anonymity View Post
                            With my new found knowledge (thanks to ya'll) that boys are just as susceptible to body image issues as girls, I'm wondering how we should protect our kids from this happening?
                            Forbid them to watch the Disney Channel.
                            I like to reminisce with people I don't know. Steven Wright

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by BigRooster View Post
                              Forbid them to watch the Disney Channel.
                              Ya, that and Net Nanny ought to cover it.
                              Geaux Tigers!
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