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This thread will probably have more information than you may need for your first time but I am also aware that most people’s first time is often awkward and unplanned. So what if it didn't have to be that way? What if it could be a time that you and she will one day look back with fondness? And became a memorable start to a fun and fabulous sexual journey all because you took the time to integrate a few simple suggestions? Would it be worth it? Before you decide...
It may be worth noting that a recent study found that when couples have a terrible time their first time, it tended to negatively impact the sex they would be having for the next few years. Therefore, take charge of your first time and do your best to make it a really good experience; it’ll be in your best interest for now and the years to come (no pun intended
).
First things first…always remember that a woman can become very pregnant from her first time, even if she is having her period so unless you two are planning to become parents; ALWAYS use birth control!
Some tips to make your first time memorable:
1) For your first time, choose a quiet, familiar and comfortable location – as challenging as that may be. Ideally, find a time and place when roommates, buddies or parents won’t likely barge in. And please avoid having sex for the first time in a spare room at a party. You may not care now but many guys and girls who did have admitted to having big regrets about doing so a few years down the road.
Also, keep in mind that spending time together after your have had your first intercourse is just as important as the time you spent before and during. So it is ideal to choose a time and place that will allow you to do that.
2) Keep the sexual intercourse simple because there are different priorities and different challenges. Just learning about manual and oral stimulation will put you years ahead of the game.
3) Forget about exotic locations like on the beach or in a hot tub. The beach can result in sand getting inside the woman’s vagina (ouch) and the water from the hot tub will likely wash away all of your natural lubricant (ouch). Wait until you have some sexual experience under your belt before going exotic.
4) If you will be using a condom; practice putting one on by feel alone since you will likely be putting it on in the dark.
5) Consider including pillows and water-based lubricant for the first time. These two accessories may be a really big help with your first time. You would be amazed at how much a strategically placed pillow under a woman’s bum can assist with the angle of penetration and with her ability to spread her legs. It can also enable her to better relax her legs and the muscles of her vagina.
6) For your first time, forget about introducing any sex toys or games; there will be plenty of time to introduce that stuff later if you are so inclined. The one exception may be the use of a vibrator, IF your gal already uses one and enjoys it. In fact, it may be a good thing for her to achieve orgasm with the vibrator right before you attempt intercourse. It can help her relax and may aid in making her first experience with penetrative sex feel good.
7) Avoid doing your first time drunk or stoned. Couples who do it sober have a much better and more satisfying, more positive time.
If this is the first time for both of you:
1) By the time you and she are ready to lose your virginity, chances are that you have had a few years of masturbating under your belt whereas she likely hasn't. If you can, try to encourage her to take time to explore her body on her own ahead of time. Help her to understand that one of the keys to having good sex is knowing her body well enough to be able to say when something feels good…or not.
2) Understand that real sex is not like the sex you may have seen in porn or even the movies; not even close. For one thing, real couples spend way more time kissing, caressing and exploring each other’s bodies before they even engage in penis-in-vagina sex. They also indulge in plenty of manual and oral stimulation. Unlike porn, first time couples should never, ever attempt a hard and fast pounding. Slow and easy is the way to go for first-timers. Think tender and loving sex rather than porn star sex.
3) Make sure to indulge in plenty of foreplay to make sure she is properly aroused. When you are ready for insertion, don’t just ram it in. In fact, don’t be afraid to ask her to guide it in. Now, starting with the head of your penis, gently push against the bottom of her labia. If she is OK with the head pushing slightly into the opening of her honey pot, then ease it in just a bit more and then ask again if she is comfortable. Contrary to popular belief, most women do not experience bleeding during their first intercourse nor did their cherries actually “pop”. That’s because it’s a myth that hymens (cherries) are supposed to pop, rip or tear their first time.
4) During their first time having penetrative sex, some women don’t feel a thing hymen-wise, others feel a stretching or a sting, some feel a level of pain similar to getting her ears pierced or worse. If there has been adequate manual play to provide some stretching ahead of time, chances are really good that she won’t feel too much discomfort. If she feels intense pain, then stop immediately, of course.
5) Once your member is all the way inside her vagina, just keep it there for a moment to allow her to acclimate to having a penis there. Allow her as much time as she needs to adjust before thrusting. Remember that this is going to be the “first stroke” that either of your will have your entire lives so stop and savour it.
6) Keep in mind that only about 80% of guys will actually achieve orgasm their first time and less than 20% of girls. This is because women usually do not climax from thrusting alone. They need to have their clitoris stimulated at the same time, either by her hand or yours or by grinding it into her partner’s pubic bone.
OK, a few last reminders...
1) Do not worry if your erections get a bit wonky. Chances are it has never been under this kind of stress before. Just keep kissing, caressing and enjoying each other.
2) Do not worry if you lose your erection completely; it is likely that you have put undue pressure on yourself. If you do, you do. Remember that the purpose of sex is to share pleasure and intimacy with one another so relax; continue to kiss, touch and play and see where it leads.
3) Understand that your orgasm during penetrative sex may not feel as intense as when you masturbate.
4) If you do ejaculate, don’t be alarmed if you do so quickly, this is normal. If you don’t ejaculate at all, this is also normal.
5) Remember that plenty of people do not give up their virginity until they are in their twenties. The great thing about waiting is that you tend to be more levelheaded about it and you are more likely to have a better experience.
If you would like further information, there are some other great other threads/posts you may also find helpful as well:
https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/681...virginity.html
https://www.pegym.com/forums/relatio...ing-sex-s.html
And should anyone have any other tips, posts or threads about losing one's virginity that they would like to add, please do!
It may be worth noting that a recent study found that when couples have a terrible time their first time, it tended to negatively impact the sex they would be having for the next few years. Therefore, take charge of your first time and do your best to make it a really good experience; it’ll be in your best interest for now and the years to come (no pun intended
).First things first…always remember that a woman can become very pregnant from her first time, even if she is having her period so unless you two are planning to become parents; ALWAYS use birth control!
Some tips to make your first time memorable:
1) For your first time, choose a quiet, familiar and comfortable location – as challenging as that may be. Ideally, find a time and place when roommates, buddies or parents won’t likely barge in. And please avoid having sex for the first time in a spare room at a party. You may not care now but many guys and girls who did have admitted to having big regrets about doing so a few years down the road.
Also, keep in mind that spending time together after your have had your first intercourse is just as important as the time you spent before and during. So it is ideal to choose a time and place that will allow you to do that.
2) Keep the sexual intercourse simple because there are different priorities and different challenges. Just learning about manual and oral stimulation will put you years ahead of the game.
3) Forget about exotic locations like on the beach or in a hot tub. The beach can result in sand getting inside the woman’s vagina (ouch) and the water from the hot tub will likely wash away all of your natural lubricant (ouch). Wait until you have some sexual experience under your belt before going exotic.
4) If you will be using a condom; practice putting one on by feel alone since you will likely be putting it on in the dark.
5) Consider including pillows and water-based lubricant for the first time. These two accessories may be a really big help with your first time. You would be amazed at how much a strategically placed pillow under a woman’s bum can assist with the angle of penetration and with her ability to spread her legs. It can also enable her to better relax her legs and the muscles of her vagina.
6) For your first time, forget about introducing any sex toys or games; there will be plenty of time to introduce that stuff later if you are so inclined. The one exception may be the use of a vibrator, IF your gal already uses one and enjoys it. In fact, it may be a good thing for her to achieve orgasm with the vibrator right before you attempt intercourse. It can help her relax and may aid in making her first experience with penetrative sex feel good.
7) Avoid doing your first time drunk or stoned. Couples who do it sober have a much better and more satisfying, more positive time.
If this is the first time for both of you:
1) By the time you and she are ready to lose your virginity, chances are that you have had a few years of masturbating under your belt whereas she likely hasn't. If you can, try to encourage her to take time to explore her body on her own ahead of time. Help her to understand that one of the keys to having good sex is knowing her body well enough to be able to say when something feels good…or not.
2) Understand that real sex is not like the sex you may have seen in porn or even the movies; not even close. For one thing, real couples spend way more time kissing, caressing and exploring each other’s bodies before they even engage in penis-in-vagina sex. They also indulge in plenty of manual and oral stimulation. Unlike porn, first time couples should never, ever attempt a hard and fast pounding. Slow and easy is the way to go for first-timers. Think tender and loving sex rather than porn star sex.
3) Make sure to indulge in plenty of foreplay to make sure she is properly aroused. When you are ready for insertion, don’t just ram it in. In fact, don’t be afraid to ask her to guide it in. Now, starting with the head of your penis, gently push against the bottom of her labia. If she is OK with the head pushing slightly into the opening of her honey pot, then ease it in just a bit more and then ask again if she is comfortable. Contrary to popular belief, most women do not experience bleeding during their first intercourse nor did their cherries actually “pop”. That’s because it’s a myth that hymens (cherries) are supposed to pop, rip or tear their first time.
4) During their first time having penetrative sex, some women don’t feel a thing hymen-wise, others feel a stretching or a sting, some feel a level of pain similar to getting her ears pierced or worse. If there has been adequate manual play to provide some stretching ahead of time, chances are really good that she won’t feel too much discomfort. If she feels intense pain, then stop immediately, of course.
5) Once your member is all the way inside her vagina, just keep it there for a moment to allow her to acclimate to having a penis there. Allow her as much time as she needs to adjust before thrusting. Remember that this is going to be the “first stroke” that either of your will have your entire lives so stop and savour it.
6) Keep in mind that only about 80% of guys will actually achieve orgasm their first time and less than 20% of girls. This is because women usually do not climax from thrusting alone. They need to have their clitoris stimulated at the same time, either by her hand or yours or by grinding it into her partner’s pubic bone.
OK, a few last reminders...
1) Do not worry if your erections get a bit wonky. Chances are it has never been under this kind of stress before. Just keep kissing, caressing and enjoying each other.
2) Do not worry if you lose your erection completely; it is likely that you have put undue pressure on yourself. If you do, you do. Remember that the purpose of sex is to share pleasure and intimacy with one another so relax; continue to kiss, touch and play and see where it leads.
3) Understand that your orgasm during penetrative sex may not feel as intense as when you masturbate.
4) If you do ejaculate, don’t be alarmed if you do so quickly, this is normal. If you don’t ejaculate at all, this is also normal.
5) Remember that plenty of people do not give up their virginity until they are in their twenties. The great thing about waiting is that you tend to be more levelheaded about it and you are more likely to have a better experience.
If you would like further information, there are some other great other threads/posts you may also find helpful as well:
https://www.pegym.com/forums/gym/681...virginity.html
https://www.pegym.com/forums/relatio...ing-sex-s.html
And should anyone have any other tips, posts or threads about losing one's virginity that they would like to add, please do!
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