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I am in my mid 20s (God, really??) and am dating the girl of my dreams who is in her mid to early 20s as well. Don't worry, I didn't call off the engagement with her. This is about her friend, and I am really perplexed by what happened. Sorry if this turns into a long post.
Some background: My girlfriend has two very close friends, both the same age as her, both of whom have serious boyfriends. So the 6 of us have triple dated a few times lately. Her one friend, A, has been dating her boyfriend (who is a good friend of mine prior to connection through the girls) for about 4 years now. Her other friend, B, has a 3 year old daughter with a low life piece of shit, but had recently started dating the man of her dreams about 9 months ago. B's boyfriend proposed to her - and in a very cute gesture, to her daughter as well - about 1 month ago, so 8 months or so after beginning dating.
I don't know this kid that well but he was extremely nice to the point where I literally hinted that there was something wrong with this guy. He had no edge to him whatsoever. I am not trying to make this an "I was right all along" thread or say "nice guys don't exist" or whatever, I am just including how nice this guy was and how accommodating he always was to her needs because it is my theory that he just finally snapped. He's in his late 20s and has a steady, good, job.
Anyway, B and her fiance had never had so much as one serious fight in their relationship. A whole bunch of disagreements came up between the two of them over the wedding, according to my girlfriend it was over nearly everything. So they fought about it and didn't speak for a few hours. Finally she called him at an attempt at reconciliation and he said, "you know what, just give me the ring back." At first my gal and I both thought he said this in anger and not realizing the ramifications of what he was saying, but no. He persisted and in fact refused from then on to see or even speak to B. He sent one text to her a number of times, "return the ring to my mom," which a sobbing B did. They have not spoken since.
How crazy is that? This guy went from, that day, loving her (he sent her a nice morning text) and hours later called off the engagement entirely. If you're thinking he wanted to back out for a while, I should add that the night before he put a 1k downpayment on the engagement party. And much of the disagreement arose from him wanting to book the wedding ASAP, and her saying she wanted to take her time and find the right place!
I can't make any sense of it. I keep thinking there is something else there, something missing, but my girlfriend swears there isn't and I believe her. I am wondering what everyone's thoughts are on this and if they have ever heard of or experienced anything like this. In my opinion he didn't act like a man at all. I think he is impulsive (engagement after not enough dating time, wants to book the weddings ASAP, calls off the engagement without much consideration) but seriously, could that be all there is?
The short of it: Girlfriend's friend's fiance called off the engagement for no discernible reason.
Some background: My girlfriend has two very close friends, both the same age as her, both of whom have serious boyfriends. So the 6 of us have triple dated a few times lately. Her one friend, A, has been dating her boyfriend (who is a good friend of mine prior to connection through the girls) for about 4 years now. Her other friend, B, has a 3 year old daughter with a low life piece of shit, but had recently started dating the man of her dreams about 9 months ago. B's boyfriend proposed to her - and in a very cute gesture, to her daughter as well - about 1 month ago, so 8 months or so after beginning dating.
I don't know this kid that well but he was extremely nice to the point where I literally hinted that there was something wrong with this guy. He had no edge to him whatsoever. I am not trying to make this an "I was right all along" thread or say "nice guys don't exist" or whatever, I am just including how nice this guy was and how accommodating he always was to her needs because it is my theory that he just finally snapped. He's in his late 20s and has a steady, good, job.
Anyway, B and her fiance had never had so much as one serious fight in their relationship. A whole bunch of disagreements came up between the two of them over the wedding, according to my girlfriend it was over nearly everything. So they fought about it and didn't speak for a few hours. Finally she called him at an attempt at reconciliation and he said, "you know what, just give me the ring back." At first my gal and I both thought he said this in anger and not realizing the ramifications of what he was saying, but no. He persisted and in fact refused from then on to see or even speak to B. He sent one text to her a number of times, "return the ring to my mom," which a sobbing B did. They have not spoken since.
How crazy is that? This guy went from, that day, loving her (he sent her a nice morning text) and hours later called off the engagement entirely. If you're thinking he wanted to back out for a while, I should add that the night before he put a 1k downpayment on the engagement party. And much of the disagreement arose from him wanting to book the wedding ASAP, and her saying she wanted to take her time and find the right place!
I can't make any sense of it. I keep thinking there is something else there, something missing, but my girlfriend swears there isn't and I believe her. I am wondering what everyone's thoughts are on this and if they have ever heard of or experienced anything like this. In my opinion he didn't act like a man at all. I think he is impulsive (engagement after not enough dating time, wants to book the weddings ASAP, calls off the engagement without much consideration) but seriously, could that be all there is?
The short of it: Girlfriend's friend's fiance called off the engagement for no discernible reason.
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