Hello everyone, I'm in a dilemma here and I'd love everyone's opinions, input, advice, etc. So let me explain my situation first.
For a couple of years, on and off, I've been helping this girl(a friend of mine), as well as her sister, with some pretty hefty tasks and favors. These favors and tasks range from driving from my home to her home in order to drive her to a certain destination, to paying for her items. This is vague, I know, but I just want to cut to the chase and if any of you have questions, I'll answer.
Basically, this girl, Alexia, her sister, and I have gotten into a dispute. As said, I've been helping them with many favors over the years, and it's worn on me and my car, so I contacted Alexia's sister to inform her that I wouldn't be able to help her with a recent favor; allow me to explain. The favor was to driver her up to Irving, mind you I live in Tyler, Texas, to go see Alexia and they would have a sister week or something like that. However, I've been running them around back and forth from Irving to Tyler a couple of days ago, and I've had enough.
I was thinking over this, over ALL the favors and help I've done for Alexia and her sister, and came to the conclusion that NO MAN would do this much for a WOMAN unless she was his girlfriend; and I was neither of their boyfriends. I wasted gas, money, and time on them, and I don't mind being a helpful friend, but I couldn't help to feel I was going too far out my way for them. It was time for me to stand my ground and say, "NO, I can't help you anymore!" And that's what I said, I did still say I'd take the sister to Irving, but I wouldn't be able to help her return; since it'd be next week when she would have to return and my money is running thin on bills I have to pay, as well as gas(even though it's awesome cheap), and probably maintenance on my car if I keep city hopping like this. Mind you, Alexia is a roommate with 3 other guys, and I don't know why one of them couldn't drop off the sister.
Either way, after I said this, over phone/text, since they have a tendency not to ever pick up their phones or let alone talk to me over the phone , the sister was baffled and questioned me on why and not giving any "good" reasons. Before I could thoroughly explain myself, she hung up and called up Alexia, who in turn called me and asked what I did to make her sister so freaked. I told the same thing I told her sister, and she seemed highly upset over it all. She didn't understand what I meant by it, and accused me that I was going to abandon her sister, which is pretty extreme use of the word I'd say. She then just got silent and hung up on me as well. It didn't take long before word spread and I was getting texts from her friends questioning what I did to her...it's all just so tiresome.
In the end, this didn't go the way I expected, even now she dropped me as a friend on Facebook, and I haven't tried to call her or text her yet, knowing she more than likely not respond. I wasn't trying to hurt her feelings, and I was trying to say I didn't want to be her friend anymore, because I even told her, "I hope we can still stay friends," however she hung up on me. I like this girl, a lot I do, but I only did this to make a point that I wasn't going to be bent and molded anymore. I wanted to see if our friendship was as strong as I thought it was, but apparently it wasn't.
What do you all think, what should I do? I don't really care much over a friendship that was onesided from the get go, but I don't want to leave things on a misunderstanding; this is eating up my thoughts more than it should and it's quite annoying.
Thanks!
For a couple of years, on and off, I've been helping this girl(a friend of mine), as well as her sister, with some pretty hefty tasks and favors. These favors and tasks range from driving from my home to her home in order to drive her to a certain destination, to paying for her items. This is vague, I know, but I just want to cut to the chase and if any of you have questions, I'll answer.
Basically, this girl, Alexia, her sister, and I have gotten into a dispute. As said, I've been helping them with many favors over the years, and it's worn on me and my car, so I contacted Alexia's sister to inform her that I wouldn't be able to help her with a recent favor; allow me to explain. The favor was to driver her up to Irving, mind you I live in Tyler, Texas, to go see Alexia and they would have a sister week or something like that. However, I've been running them around back and forth from Irving to Tyler a couple of days ago, and I've had enough.
I was thinking over this, over ALL the favors and help I've done for Alexia and her sister, and came to the conclusion that NO MAN would do this much for a WOMAN unless she was his girlfriend; and I was neither of their boyfriends. I wasted gas, money, and time on them, and I don't mind being a helpful friend, but I couldn't help to feel I was going too far out my way for them. It was time for me to stand my ground and say, "NO, I can't help you anymore!" And that's what I said, I did still say I'd take the sister to Irving, but I wouldn't be able to help her return; since it'd be next week when she would have to return and my money is running thin on bills I have to pay, as well as gas(even though it's awesome cheap), and probably maintenance on my car if I keep city hopping like this. Mind you, Alexia is a roommate with 3 other guys, and I don't know why one of them couldn't drop off the sister.
Either way, after I said this, over phone/text, since they have a tendency not to ever pick up their phones or let alone talk to me over the phone , the sister was baffled and questioned me on why and not giving any "good" reasons. Before I could thoroughly explain myself, she hung up and called up Alexia, who in turn called me and asked what I did to make her sister so freaked. I told the same thing I told her sister, and she seemed highly upset over it all. She didn't understand what I meant by it, and accused me that I was going to abandon her sister, which is pretty extreme use of the word I'd say. She then just got silent and hung up on me as well. It didn't take long before word spread and I was getting texts from her friends questioning what I did to her...it's all just so tiresome.
In the end, this didn't go the way I expected, even now she dropped me as a friend on Facebook, and I haven't tried to call her or text her yet, knowing she more than likely not respond. I wasn't trying to hurt her feelings, and I was trying to say I didn't want to be her friend anymore, because I even told her, "I hope we can still stay friends," however she hung up on me. I like this girl, a lot I do, but I only did this to make a point that I wasn't going to be bent and molded anymore. I wanted to see if our friendship was as strong as I thought it was, but apparently it wasn't.
What do you all think, what should I do? I don't really care much over a friendship that was onesided from the get go, but I don't want to leave things on a misunderstanding; this is eating up my thoughts more than it should and it's quite annoying.
Thanks!
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