How to "correctly" sleep with women?

[TheRipperupper Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheRipperupper]

I'm 24 years old, and quite frankly, I am no where near done sleeping around with women. Recently, I've been using a dating application named "Tinder"(maybe you young folks who are closer to my age already know of it). I've been doing quite decently on the app, and have managed to have sex(on the first date) with 2 women, and a "very close" encounter with another. When I first match with a woman I am potentially interested in sleeping with, I am immediately aggressive and subtly hint at what my intentions are. I'll message them something like "My anaconda don't want none unless you got buns hun " and it will work 50 percent of the time( the other half will just give one word answers or block me lol). If all goes well, I get her number, we text, possibly send each other nudes, and set up a "hang out". I am good with these kind of women, the kind who like men who are direct and straight forward. However I am curious about the women who do not try to put out and may secretly have the same intentions but are too shy or do not want to be looked down upon.

For instance, I will get a woman's number and play it safe without saying anything too provocative (if they seem like a good girl) and talk about normal things. However, I will immediately get bored and just say something like " I am going to be honest about this, I am only here on this application to ****. I'm a freak, -blah -blah -blah-I'm telling you this because I don't want your feelings hurt and you know my intentions". It seems every time I say this to a girl, she immediately says she's not looking for that, and eventually stops texting me. I've talked to my friends about this and they say I am simply too aggressive and impatient(which other women have told me before). My friends say that I am "supposed" to not suggest anything yet with them and hang out first and then try to make the move. But if this was true, I wouldn't have slept with the other 2 women on the first date( we had the same intentions). So fellas(and ladies), what do you all think? Have I been doing this wrong?

[bored Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close bored]

Maybe those girls want to be taken on a few dates and get to know you somewhat before having sex. Idk, every girl is different, which is why a few of them will respond positively to your aggressive approach. A lot of girls, however, would like to get to know someone more (in my limited experience that is).

[WIItard Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close WIItard]

Either or. You really can't play it both ways, either you are going for the quick kill or you're looking to go slower. As far as Tinder goes I think you need to pick one approach or another. The anaconda thing pretty much states what you are looking for. At least in my mind.

[hotrod12343 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hotrod12343]

I'll start this off with I will not be generalizing here. What I say can go for both men and women.

Some girls are on Tinder to hook up, other are there to find love, regardless of the reason behind designing the app. In the case of a girl finding love (and it will be pretty obvious), don't expect to be getting with her anytime soon. Some girls would like to be taken out for a chance to get to know each other. That's life. If you're only intention is to have sex, save your time and her time and go find someone else. Bringing up sex early on (like you seem to be doing) is only regressing when she isn't in to it (which you should have a feel for if you're chatting). And, frankly, at that point, the girl will know what you're up to, so your intentions will be clear and preeeettyyyy hard to hide.

[TheRipperupper Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheRipperupper]

Maybe those girls want to be taken on a few dates and get to know you somewhat before having sex. Idk, every girl is different, which is why a few of them will respond positively to your aggressive approach. A lot of girls, however, would like to get to know someone more (in my limited experience that is).

Yeah, i guess you're right. There are some girls who are just down to the deed immediately(god bless these women lol) and then you have the ones who actually make you work for it haha apples to oranges I guess

[TheRipperupper Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheRipperupper]

Either or. You really can't play it both ways, either you are going for the quick kill or you're looking to go slower. As far as Tinder goes I think you need to pick one approach or another. The anaconda thing pretty much states what you are looking for. At least in my mind.

Yup. From my understanding MOST women are on tinder to "hook up" though, which is what I put in the back on my mind. Pretty messed up but that's just what my instinct is.

[TheRipperupper Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheRipperupper]

I'll start this off with I will not be generalizing here. What I say can go for both men and women.

Some girls are on Tinder to hook up, other are there to find love, regardless of the reason behind designing the app. In the case of a girl finding love (and it will be pretty obvious), don't expect to be getting with her anytime soon. Some girls would like to be taken out for a chance to get to know each other. That's life. If you're only intention is to have sex, save your time and her time and go find someone else. Bringing up sex early on (like you seem to be doing) is only regressing when she isn't in to it (which you should have a feel for if you're chatting). And, frankly, at that point, the girl will know what you're up to, so your intentions will be clear and preeeettyyyy hard to hide.

You hit it on the nail with this one haha I just wish there was a fool proof way to these kind of things. I guess the key is figuring out which kind of woman she is, and then figuring out the approach from there

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

Nothing wrong with what your doing if that's what your looking for and enjoying yourself!

Your approach to it might be a little direct, but then some women like that and nobody can accuse you of being dishonest!

[hotrod12343 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close hotrod12343]

From chatting and getting to know a girl on there, from her pictures, from her bio, etc., you can start painting the picture. Unfortunately, there is no fool proof way haha but you can definitely get a feel for what she is like from all of those things.

[TheRipperupper Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheRipperupper]

Nothing wrong with what your doing if that's what your looking for and enjoying yourself!

Your approach to it might be a little direct, but then some women like that and nobody can accuse you of being dishonest!

lol i'm curious to know what everyone's approach is, I think of my approach as "time efficient" lol I mean why else would i be on tinder? haha

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

No offense to the OP, but if quoting "Anaconda" is enough to land a girl in bed...I'm not sure I want to live on this planet any more :P lol

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

I can't stop giggling at your username. Do you use it on tinder too?

[TheRipperupper Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheRipperupper]

No offense to the OP, but if quoting "Anaconda" is enough to land a girl in bed...I'm not sure I want to live on this planet any more :P lol

lol it's humorous yet has a hint of subtleness to it haha works fine in my opinion(plus chicks dig sir mix a lot)

[TheRipperupper Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheRipperupper]

I can't stop giggling at your username. Do you use it on tinder too?

Tinder shows your facebook name(because it's connected to it), so unfortunately no haha. However, my ultimate goal is to be known by women as the "the ripper" nomasyain'

EDIT: I actually tell women that I call my penis "Jack the ripper" for the lolz

[mangina_49 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close mangina_49]

if that's the type of girl you want to attract then great. it works. However, i would bet any girl you sleep with using the anaconda line, would also sleep with you using a slower roll.

I think you're putting too much pressure, and stress on them with such a direct approach. Don't worry, girls like sex and if you are someone they are interested in sleeping with, don't worry. You're good, it will happen.


Most passion and seduction, less pressure and force.

i do think you have the key (humour) , it's a funny line.