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Bear with me brothers and sisters. I typed this while loading and unloading. I might chase a rabbit here and there. Bottom line things aren't good.
There are some threads on here about. How my wife doesn't want to have sex. Or I married a refrigerator. I hope things have gotten better for those of you who have shared
. In the thread "Sexless Marriage". TPW said that what dictates a sexless marriage is one where sex happens less than ten times a year. Well let me tell you. I have a sexless marriage. Why is your marriage sexless? It's definitely not from lack of trying. It's just that after trying and trying you get tired of hearing no.
Some examples.
We were home kids were outside playing. She was standing by counter in kitchen doing something. I come up behind her grab her by the waste. Then rub up on her. She tells me get off her. Not in a joking way but a I don't won't to be bothered with you kind of way.
It's a Saturday morning and there are things to do but they can wait. We're in bed and I snuggle up behind her to do a little morning spooning. She pulls away. I move with her. In trying to sleep do you mind.
Oh things are looking good now. We are in the bedroom playing around kissing laying in bed hugging talking chilling. My hands start to wander. She says you want some huh? Well yeah that's what I'm trying to do. Do you? No not really but if you want to we can. Well if you don't even have the slightest desire. I'm not even going to try.
Now call me a dumbass but if one isn't going to be into it. Whats the use. That's what I'm thinking. Did I give up too soon? Maybe. I'm just tired of every time I initiate there is always a rejection and I am tired of it.
One morning there's a letter on the table. Saying how she loves me and wants to spend time with me. Even if it would mean just watching Tv. Also there was a time when you couldn't keep your hands off of me. Now you barely touch me. So I tell her of the instances I mentioned above. I tell her doesn't seem to be me. Is it? No I'm just not in the mood. Never? I ask because that's what it seems like. So I tell her. Every time we have had sex I am the one who initiated it. For once I would like for you to just jump my bones. Or wake me up in the middle of the night to take care of business.
March 9th was our anniversary. I bought her a card and put it on the table for her to see in the morning. I had left for work. Sometime later that morning before they leave for school and work I get a text. Hoping to read something. Happy anniversary to you too. Love you. Didn't happen. Do you know where your sons belt is. No I do not. I got off of work a lil earlier that day Monday. Came home took a good nap and had planned on taking her to dinner. Got someone to watch the kids for about two hours. Well she is on a ladies league bowling team. Monday night is bowling night. What does she do. You got it bowling got to go do that. I guess that takes priority over your husband.
During the day I'm checking FB and I see comments on a post I am tagged in. Something like being her best friend. We have had our ups and downs but we will make it. Wow! You let the FB world know that it's our anniversary but you can't give your husband a call and tell him personally happy anniversary. It was just something to make people think everything is ok. I didn't comment once on the post and I hope people noticed that too.
I have tried I don't know how many times to hold conversations with her. And it's always one, two, or three word responses. If I ask her how her day was she never asks me how my day was. Oh but you love me? I'm thinking to myself. How in the world am I supposed to have intimate conversation If you do not at least try to keep it going too. I can talk to myself and have a decent conversation.
So one Friday night as a family we go eat at this gourmet pizza place. They have a game room. I give the kids ten dollars each. It's just us two. What is she doing. It's either FB or trivia crack. So I just sit there looking at her. She looks at me like what? I look at the phone and tell her. Really?! I'm the bad guy now because I have an issue with her on the phone while we are trying to have a lil family time or some time to talk while the kids are burning money.
So this past Monday she's getting ready for bowling league. She's putting on a fresh coat of makeup. I ask her you're just going bowling with other women. Why the makeup? I don't know just because. Ok. So Tuesday evening comes around and I ask her how y'all do last night. Answer was a little delayed. Uh, we did ok. Not our best.
So getting back to sex and none of it. I ask her. Are you seeing someone? Is it that dude from the bowling alley? No jokingly she says. So you don't have any desire for sex? None at all? No.
Well let me tell you something. I am not cheating on you. And it has been a long time since we had sex. But if things don't change mainly on your part as far as intimacy goes. I don't want to hear you bitch if for some reason someone tempts me and I give in. You know I flirt but I have always known what is at home. Lately I don't know what's at home.
So you may be asking. What makes you think you have a sexless marriage?
The last time we had sex was. February 15, 2014. It was the night before I left to go work in Texas.
Believe it or not.
Bear with me brothers and sisters. I typed this while loading and unloading. I might chase a rabbit here and there. Bottom line things aren't good.
There are some threads on here about. How my wife doesn't want to have sex. Or I married a refrigerator. I hope things have gotten better for those of you who have shared
. In the thread "Sexless Marriage". TPW said that what dictates a sexless marriage is one where sex happens less than ten times a year. Well let me tell you. I have a sexless marriage. Why is your marriage sexless? It's definitely not from lack of trying. It's just that after trying and trying you get tired of hearing no.
Some examples.
We were home kids were outside playing. She was standing by counter in kitchen doing something. I come up behind her grab her by the waste. Then rub up on her. She tells me get off her. Not in a joking way but a I don't won't to be bothered with you kind of way.
It's a Saturday morning and there are things to do but they can wait. We're in bed and I snuggle up behind her to do a little morning spooning. She pulls away. I move with her. In trying to sleep do you mind.
Oh things are looking good now. We are in the bedroom playing around kissing laying in bed hugging talking chilling. My hands start to wander. She says you want some huh? Well yeah that's what I'm trying to do. Do you? No not really but if you want to we can. Well if you don't even have the slightest desire. I'm not even going to try.
Now call me a dumbass but if one isn't going to be into it. Whats the use. That's what I'm thinking. Did I give up too soon? Maybe. I'm just tired of every time I initiate there is always a rejection and I am tired of it.
One morning there's a letter on the table. Saying how she loves me and wants to spend time with me. Even if it would mean just watching Tv. Also there was a time when you couldn't keep your hands off of me. Now you barely touch me. So I tell her of the instances I mentioned above. I tell her doesn't seem to be me. Is it? No I'm just not in the mood. Never? I ask because that's what it seems like. So I tell her. Every time we have had sex I am the one who initiated it. For once I would like for you to just jump my bones. Or wake me up in the middle of the night to take care of business.
March 9th was our anniversary. I bought her a card and put it on the table for her to see in the morning. I had left for work. Sometime later that morning before they leave for school and work I get a text. Hoping to read something. Happy anniversary to you too. Love you. Didn't happen. Do you know where your sons belt is. No I do not. I got off of work a lil earlier that day Monday. Came home took a good nap and had planned on taking her to dinner. Got someone to watch the kids for about two hours. Well she is on a ladies league bowling team. Monday night is bowling night. What does she do. You got it bowling got to go do that. I guess that takes priority over your husband.
During the day I'm checking FB and I see comments on a post I am tagged in. Something like being her best friend. We have had our ups and downs but we will make it. Wow! You let the FB world know that it's our anniversary but you can't give your husband a call and tell him personally happy anniversary. It was just something to make people think everything is ok. I didn't comment once on the post and I hope people noticed that too.
I have tried I don't know how many times to hold conversations with her. And it's always one, two, or three word responses. If I ask her how her day was she never asks me how my day was. Oh but you love me? I'm thinking to myself. How in the world am I supposed to have intimate conversation If you do not at least try to keep it going too. I can talk to myself and have a decent conversation.
So one Friday night as a family we go eat at this gourmet pizza place. They have a game room. I give the kids ten dollars each. It's just us two. What is she doing. It's either FB or trivia crack. So I just sit there looking at her. She looks at me like what? I look at the phone and tell her. Really?! I'm the bad guy now because I have an issue with her on the phone while we are trying to have a lil family time or some time to talk while the kids are burning money.
So this past Monday she's getting ready for bowling league. She's putting on a fresh coat of makeup. I ask her you're just going bowling with other women. Why the makeup? I don't know just because. Ok. So Tuesday evening comes around and I ask her how y'all do last night. Answer was a little delayed. Uh, we did ok. Not our best.
So getting back to sex and none of it. I ask her. Are you seeing someone? Is it that dude from the bowling alley? No jokingly she says. So you don't have any desire for sex? None at all? No.
Well let me tell you something. I am not cheating on you. And it has been a long time since we had sex. But if things don't change mainly on your part as far as intimacy goes. I don't want to hear you bitch if for some reason someone tempts me and I give in. You know I flirt but I have always known what is at home. Lately I don't know what's at home.
So you may be asking. What makes you think you have a sexless marriage?
The last time we had sex was. February 15, 2014. It was the night before I left to go work in Texas.
Believe it or not.
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