A question about staying hard while thrusting

[Jay48 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jay48]

Hey guys, long time lurker here, love the forum.

I have maybe a bit of an unusual question. I'm 21 and still a virgin and I'm about to lose it in a few days I'm certain, but I recently found out that I'm having trouble staying hard while actually thrusting my hips forward, in other words while moving my body. I realized that, since I have been masturbating all my life, I've kind of gotten too used to just sitting there and moving my hand up and down. When I put my sex toy between two pillows on the edge of my bed and attempted to thrust into it in order to simulate what real sex would be like, I sort of lost concentration a little bit and my erection quality went down to like 70% -- it's like I lost focus from having to think about moving my body while having sex, something I'm not used to at all.

I'm just wondering if any of you guys here have had this issue before, or how long it might take me / took you to get used to actually moving your body / thrusting your hips while having sex?


ps. Sorry if this is the wrong forum (relationship forum), but I couldn't think of where else to put it, and I guess it kind of belongs since I'm a bit anxious to please this girl and worried I wont be able to actually stay hard with her while moving my hips!

[ScarletSkull Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ScarletSkull]

Can you maybe try masturbating while thrusting into your hand instead of moving your hand, if that makes sense? I don't know if I can really say, seems like real sex would be worlds different from masturbation but with what I hear about guys these days (mostly, porn and detrimental effects of it on erections and real actual sex) I can't really say. Putting a toy between pillows wouldn't necessarily simulate it so much mainly because a woman will be pushing/thrusting back at you in time with the rhythm. So I guess, hard to say.

[Jay48 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jay48]

hey, thanks for the reply.

and yeah, keeping my hand still pretty much has the same effect as the sex toy between the pillows, as long as I'm having to thrust it's kind of difficult to keep hard. It's actually easier with the toy vagina between the pillows compared to trying to keep the hand still, for some reason.

[SeemsLegit Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close SeemsLegit]

Lost my virginity recently. I finally understood what my friends meant when they said sometimes they got too tired during sex to actually reach a point where they could cum. I hated getting this advice because it's one of those "trust me it gets better" things, but after a month of on and off sex, I went from cumming in 20 seconds to cumming in 20 minutes, from getting tired and nearly limp during sex (overweight and muscle body struggles) to being able to last at least once no problem. Point being with your issue among others, practice is fun, and greatly beneficial just by learning how to move in your thrusts with another body below you or wherever she may be. How to lean or support yourself etc.

Instant advice would be using your sex toy in a setup similar to how you would have sex. I did that sometimes for fun, helps me creativity in some weird way I would imagine. Build some completely over the top unnecessary setup, and bang it. Practice varying speeds when you get softer or tired.

[computerguy Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close computerguy]

When a woman's wrapped her arms and legs around you and you have a face full of fun stuff to play with you will realize there's a world of difference between a toy and the real deal.

If it really concerns you. Have her take the top and ride you and at least for the first bit you won't have to worry about the thrusting part. Just be sure your lubed up well and she slides it in deep enough cause if she's inexperienced she may think it goes around corners and bends in half as easily as her toys.

Good luck.

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

Bro, when you stick your dick in a wet pussy for the first time, I promise you're gonna be hard. I would worry more about cumming too quickly.

I was 17. My first couple times I had a hard time staying hard after putting on a condom. Just too nervous. After failing a couple time she sucked my dick hard, then she just jumped on my dick. Needless to say it didnt last long. OMG. Never felt anything so good in my life.

I wouldn't worry about. Seeing, touching, smelling, and tasting a real woman will keep you plenty hard. Good luck and savor the moment.

[Jay48 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Jay48]

haha thanks dmizzle, i'm sure you're 100% right =p

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

I promise Jay, as soon as your dick slides in you will worry more about busting a nut than staying hard. When your old like me you will last all night. But in fact last weekend I still had to pace myself. The better in bed she is, the harder it is to last. Be happy if you last two minutes.

I even resorted to those desensitized condoms in my 20s. Now I can rock it bareback all night. You'll get there one day. For now, fuck her brains out. But if you cum too quick, make sure to go down on her and make her cum. That will keep her cumming back for more.

Keep us updated

[silversid23 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close silversid23]

u aint gonna go soft when u got pussy infront of u

[dmizzle Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close dmizzle]

u aint gonna go soft when u got pussy infront of u

Damn, us guys are fucked up. Lol. Animals I tell ya.