So here goes, I've been dating my girl for 8 months. We only see each other ont the weekend. She stays over Saturday and Sunday night. We love each other. Here is the catch. She still lives with her ex. First of all, I'm 100% cool with it. She has 2 big dogs, doesn't make very much money, so living in an apartment isn't the best idea. She lives with him, on the other side of the house. But, she doesn't have to pay rent, so it makes financial sense. She is a vet tech and doesn't make much money. They have 1 acre for her dogs. I completely, 100% trust her, and have zero worries about the ex. Never met him, he doesn't even know about me. Although I wonder what he thinks when she goes away every weekend. Anyway, he asked her to move out. No timeline, but said he can't move on with an ex living with him. Hard to bring a girl home and your ex is in the house.
So, before he asked her to leave, her and I had a random conversation. She said she wouldn't move in with a guy unless she had a ring. So I have been reluctant to bring it up. I get her point. She spent 10 years with one guy, and three years with the last. However, I want to make sure we can live together before I get married. She started looking for houses the last month. But, she doesn't make shit, and I don't think she could afford the $1200/month minimum with utilities.
This was my plan. I tell her I get her point, but if the house doesn't work out, here is my plan. She pays $150/week. $100 goes to rent and utilities, that isn't shit. $25 goes to her savings, in case we break up, she has money to use to move out. The other $25 goes to saving for a vacation.
So, do I even ask her. I figured I could bring it up. Tell her, I want to give it a go, see if we work out. After a year, we either get married, or go our separate ways. But I can't marry someone if I don't know if we can live together. We've had some issue, nothing major. But after we discussed them, they have been resolved. She has really put in effort to change when I wasn't happy about things. And I've done the same.
So what are your opinions? Do I bring it up? Or wait for her home buying to fail and she asks me. Which she might not. I do want to live with her. I love her. But right now I only see her on the weekend, so things are peachy. My last relationship was a weekend relationship that was peachy. We got engaged, move in, then broke up two months later. My fault, but I got annoyed living with her. I don't want to happen again.
So, before he asked her to leave, her and I had a random conversation. She said she wouldn't move in with a guy unless she had a ring. So I have been reluctant to bring it up. I get her point. She spent 10 years with one guy, and three years with the last. However, I want to make sure we can live together before I get married. She started looking for houses the last month. But, she doesn't make shit, and I don't think she could afford the $1200/month minimum with utilities.
This was my plan. I tell her I get her point, but if the house doesn't work out, here is my plan. She pays $150/week. $100 goes to rent and utilities, that isn't shit. $25 goes to her savings, in case we break up, she has money to use to move out. The other $25 goes to saving for a vacation.
So, do I even ask her. I figured I could bring it up. Tell her, I want to give it a go, see if we work out. After a year, we either get married, or go our separate ways. But I can't marry someone if I don't know if we can live together. We've had some issue, nothing major. But after we discussed them, they have been resolved. She has really put in effort to change when I wasn't happy about things. And I've done the same.
So what are your opinions? Do I bring it up? Or wait for her home buying to fail and she asks me. Which she might not. I do want to live with her. I love her. But right now I only see her on the weekend, so things are peachy. My last relationship was a weekend relationship that was peachy. We got engaged, move in, then broke up two months later. My fault, but I got annoyed living with her. I don't want to happen again.
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