Alright, so this girl has invited me to her place. I donīt want to have any expectations because that is when things donīt go your way. But just in case something happens, I want to be ready. I want to make it absolutely amazing for her, so she never forgets the pleasure and she wants more.
The thing is, I have never had sex before so it makes me really nervous. It is like this "milestone", I just hate it, because I know people say that once you do it, it is not such a big deal. But there are so many things Im anxious about. Especially when I know that she is quite hot, she is aware of it and she has high standards PLUS she is very sexual, so I wonder how much demanding she can be during sex. The only thing that relaxes me a bit is that we know each other well, we feel comfortable together and she likes me a lot. But anyway I still have a lot of insecurities and questions.
Firstly, she has much more experience. I donīt think she had many partners; actually, just one I know about, but that was a really long relationship, so she got probably used to some things. Me on the other hand, I have no experience.
Secondly, like probably every man, I am unsure about my penis size. I think it is like 6,7 inches BPEL, 6,2 NBPEL (which I believe is the actual usable size during sex..correct me if Im wrong) and 4,7 MEG and 5-5,1 girth around the base. I just feel like its not going to be enough for her, like she wants some huge cock to swipe her off her feet.
Thirdly, I am worried about my performance. There are 2 aspects: my pleasure and her pleasure. I dont worry about my pleasure when Im with her, Im more worried that I will not last very long and that I will dissapoint her in this regard. Like come in under a minute...I know the basic techniques on how to prevent premature ejaculation and I would certainly try to implement them. I watched a video on youtube where Johnny Sins talks about this and he gives some really good tips.
So guys if you have your own experiences and tips on how to last really long, share it please.
Second aspect is her pleasure and that means basically EVERYTHING that I should do to make it amazing for her. I know how sex is done but I really want to make it great for her. I would really love to make her cum a lot of times.
I was thinking that the beginning is of course a lot of cuddling, kissing, making out and then slowly (if she allows me) I can start to take her clothes of kissing her slowly everywhere. Then I heard a lot that man should begin with eating her out. Honestly, I really want to do it so much but I donīt know how. Like first lick around the labia and then clitoris and then go for the G spot with fingers? And about the G-spot, I know that it is approximately 2 inches on the the upper wall of vagina but is it hard to find/feel or will I notice immediately? I just know that then youre supposed to do the "come her" motion and not just "in and out", but some guys do this too, so Im confused. Also for how long should I do the same thing? How often to change something or add something (in terms of licking and fingering)?
I know its a lot of questions and maybe its easy, but for me its something new and I really dont know.
Also then, if things would proceed to sex, what to do? I mean what position to start with, how many positions to do, how long to do one before switching to another one. Just tell me all you think is important for me to know.
Then also, if blowjob would happen and I would feel like I cannot hold it anymore, what should I say? I mean, I know life is not like porn and Im not sure if girls like to get huge loads of cum in their mouth or all over their face. Should I say something like , Im will cum soon, where should I ejaculate? That sounds a bit weird to me. I really dont know what should man do in this situation.
Also what about womanīs orgasm? I think its pretty achievable during cunnilingus but really difficult during the actual intercourse. Based on what I know, that is also the reason why cunnilingus is recommended for the very beginning, so the woman can achieve orgasm/s and then when the man orgasms during intercourse and she doesnīt , it is ok, because she already did before. But how is it for a woman? Would it be frustrating to get orgasm just from cunnilingus and then during intercourse nothing? Is the intercourse enjoyable for a woman even if she doesnt orgasm during it?
Last question is about "women days", the ovarian cycle that happens during the month. I am so uneducated in this and I know its really important. Can you please explain it to me? I just know that on 14th-16th day of the month ovulation happens but how does it translates into sex life? Is it true that woman gets hornier and hornier leading up to this "middle of the month" and after that she gets less and less horny? What about menstruation and sex/cunnilingus? Can it happen during it?
I apologize for the long post and many, probably stupid questions, but I dont have currently anyone who could give me advice on this, so I thought this is a good place, since I have always found good help and support here.
The only thing I care about is, if it happens, to make it absolutely amazing for her, something she has never experienced before (in a good sense) in the amount of pleasure. I know that it may be a crazy goal for beginning but I wanna at least try.
Thank you in advance!
The thing is, I have never had sex before so it makes me really nervous. It is like this "milestone", I just hate it, because I know people say that once you do it, it is not such a big deal. But there are so many things Im anxious about. Especially when I know that she is quite hot, she is aware of it and she has high standards PLUS she is very sexual, so I wonder how much demanding she can be during sex. The only thing that relaxes me a bit is that we know each other well, we feel comfortable together and she likes me a lot. But anyway I still have a lot of insecurities and questions.
Firstly, she has much more experience. I donīt think she had many partners; actually, just one I know about, but that was a really long relationship, so she got probably used to some things. Me on the other hand, I have no experience.
Secondly, like probably every man, I am unsure about my penis size. I think it is like 6,7 inches BPEL, 6,2 NBPEL (which I believe is the actual usable size during sex..correct me if Im wrong) and 4,7 MEG and 5-5,1 girth around the base. I just feel like its not going to be enough for her, like she wants some huge cock to swipe her off her feet.
Thirdly, I am worried about my performance. There are 2 aspects: my pleasure and her pleasure. I dont worry about my pleasure when Im with her, Im more worried that I will not last very long and that I will dissapoint her in this regard. Like come in under a minute...I know the basic techniques on how to prevent premature ejaculation and I would certainly try to implement them. I watched a video on youtube where Johnny Sins talks about this and he gives some really good tips.
So guys if you have your own experiences and tips on how to last really long, share it please.
Second aspect is her pleasure and that means basically EVERYTHING that I should do to make it amazing for her. I know how sex is done but I really want to make it great for her. I would really love to make her cum a lot of times.
I was thinking that the beginning is of course a lot of cuddling, kissing, making out and then slowly (if she allows me) I can start to take her clothes of kissing her slowly everywhere. Then I heard a lot that man should begin with eating her out. Honestly, I really want to do it so much but I donīt know how. Like first lick around the labia and then clitoris and then go for the G spot with fingers? And about the G-spot, I know that it is approximately 2 inches on the the upper wall of vagina but is it hard to find/feel or will I notice immediately? I just know that then youre supposed to do the "come her" motion and not just "in and out", but some guys do this too, so Im confused. Also for how long should I do the same thing? How often to change something or add something (in terms of licking and fingering)?
I know its a lot of questions and maybe its easy, but for me its something new and I really dont know.
Also then, if things would proceed to sex, what to do? I mean what position to start with, how many positions to do, how long to do one before switching to another one. Just tell me all you think is important for me to know.
Then also, if blowjob would happen and I would feel like I cannot hold it anymore, what should I say? I mean, I know life is not like porn and Im not sure if girls like to get huge loads of cum in their mouth or all over their face. Should I say something like , Im will cum soon, where should I ejaculate? That sounds a bit weird to me. I really dont know what should man do in this situation.
Also what about womanīs orgasm? I think its pretty achievable during cunnilingus but really difficult during the actual intercourse. Based on what I know, that is also the reason why cunnilingus is recommended for the very beginning, so the woman can achieve orgasm/s and then when the man orgasms during intercourse and she doesnīt , it is ok, because she already did before. But how is it for a woman? Would it be frustrating to get orgasm just from cunnilingus and then during intercourse nothing? Is the intercourse enjoyable for a woman even if she doesnt orgasm during it?
Last question is about "women days", the ovarian cycle that happens during the month. I am so uneducated in this and I know its really important. Can you please explain it to me? I just know that on 14th-16th day of the month ovulation happens but how does it translates into sex life? Is it true that woman gets hornier and hornier leading up to this "middle of the month" and after that she gets less and less horny? What about menstruation and sex/cunnilingus? Can it happen during it?
I apologize for the long post and many, probably stupid questions, but I dont have currently anyone who could give me advice on this, so I thought this is a good place, since I have always found good help and support here.
The only thing I care about is, if it happens, to make it absolutely amazing for her, something she has never experienced before (in a good sense) in the amount of pleasure. I know that it may be a crazy goal for beginning but I wanna at least try.
Thank you in advance!
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