What are your thoughts on genuinely nice guys?
I'm just going to come out and say it, I'm a nice guy. I fit a lot of the criteria for a nice guy because I'm naturally caring and sweet with women, children, and animals. I'm not a push over by any means, nor am I a creepy nice guy. I can be a bit of a dick but women can tell I'm nice no matter how much I try to hide it. I can get laid pretty easily too and make no excuses for what I want, but I'm pretty much asexual in the first stages of romance which doesn't help.
I'm been wrestling with the idea that I'm too nice, because I tried to make friends with women several times recently and was burned. The only times we would talk is when they wanted attention. I had to cut one off for being shitty and disrespectful with me for no reason, and another because the semester ended and we don't really talk outside of class, so I said goodbye. I don't even feel bad about it because there's nothing to feel bad about. They were kinda crazy and messed up.
Women tell me I'm nice all the time, like they seem surprised when they say it, (probably because I don't come off as nice on the exterior) and I don't know how to take it. I don't really give women anything except for some of my time and attention when I have the energy. I'm great at motivating them and knowing just what to say and when (I make people laugh), so they come to me for that and nothing else. I only wanted their friendship but I got ignored instead.
I'm beginning to think I'm wasting too much time and attention on others who don't desert me instead of what I really want out of life, because the more I think about these female friends the less I actually like them. I seem to attract waitresses who smoke a lot of pot, with daddy issues, and exes they're not over, who like to use me for motivation. They're not all that nice or attractive, they're just needy kinda sad once I get to know them.
I don't want to be something I'm not, because I'm genuinely nice, but I also don't want to keep letting women use me. Thoughts?
I'm just going to come out and say it, I'm a nice guy. I fit a lot of the criteria for a nice guy because I'm naturally caring and sweet with women, children, and animals. I'm not a push over by any means, nor am I a creepy nice guy. I can be a bit of a dick but women can tell I'm nice no matter how much I try to hide it. I can get laid pretty easily too and make no excuses for what I want, but I'm pretty much asexual in the first stages of romance which doesn't help.
I'm been wrestling with the idea that I'm too nice, because I tried to make friends with women several times recently and was burned. The only times we would talk is when they wanted attention. I had to cut one off for being shitty and disrespectful with me for no reason, and another because the semester ended and we don't really talk outside of class, so I said goodbye. I don't even feel bad about it because there's nothing to feel bad about. They were kinda crazy and messed up.
Women tell me I'm nice all the time, like they seem surprised when they say it, (probably because I don't come off as nice on the exterior) and I don't know how to take it. I don't really give women anything except for some of my time and attention when I have the energy. I'm great at motivating them and knowing just what to say and when (I make people laugh), so they come to me for that and nothing else. I only wanted their friendship but I got ignored instead.
I'm beginning to think I'm wasting too much time and attention on others who don't desert me instead of what I really want out of life, because the more I think about these female friends the less I actually like them. I seem to attract waitresses who smoke a lot of pot, with daddy issues, and exes they're not over, who like to use me for motivation. They're not all that nice or attractive, they're just needy kinda sad once I get to know them.
I don't want to be something I'm not, because I'm genuinely nice, but I also don't want to keep letting women use me. Thoughts?
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