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Why Women Actually Need Twice As Much Sex As Men
By Dr. Stephanie Estima
April 19th 2018
There is also a common misconception that men want sex more than women.
This is completely untrue and I’ll explain the science behind why in this article.
I’m going to simplify the neuroscience to give you an understanding how your brain works, how the opposite sex’s brain works, and how to use this understanding to enhance your relationships.
The Male Vs. Female Brain
One of the amazing things about our brain is the left and right sides of our brain function quite differently.
THE LEFT (MALE) BRAIN
The left side of our brain is very mechanistic, it is very task-oriented, very strategic, very mathematical, linear. This is what is referred to as the “male” brain. Of course I’m NOT saying that women can’t be strategic and mathematical and linear, but these attributes tend to be more male in nature.
The left brain is where a neurotransmitter called dopamine lives. Dopamine is where your motivation comes from. Remember that feeling when you checked off that item on your to do list? Or when someone likes your post on Instagram? That’s dopamine in action.
In other words, when you engage in behaviour that raises your dopamine levels, you are more likely to engage in that activity again to get the same dopamine hit, and rush of good feelings in the brain.
When you have high motivation, you can stay engaged, passionate, and motivated to complete tasks. What’s cool about Dopamine, is YOU can raise YOUR own levels of Dopamine.
THE RIGHT (FEMALE) BRAIN
The right brain is more sensual. It’s more creative. It’s emotional. It’s passion. This tends to be more of what we call the “female” brain, and again, men can be sensual and passionate, but these are more feminine traits.
This is where serotonin lives, our happy hormone. Serotonin is a right brain neurotransmitter, and the difference here and the key:
You can NOT raise your own levels of serotonin. Serotonin is raised EXTERNALLY. It is elevated by positive feedback from our loved ones, our work, and sex. This is important to understand because Serotonin levels increase Dopamine levels
So, the more positive feedback we get from our external environment through praise and appreciation, the more motivated we are to continue engaging in the activity that produced the praise.
Your partner, in the context of your relationship, raises YOUR levels of serotonin. So you receive positive feedback from your partner, that elevates your levels of serotonin, and in turn, that will raise your levels of dopamine.
NOW HERE’S THE MIND-BLOWING PART…
Even though females tend to be more right-brained in nature, men have 50% MORE serotonin receptors than women do. So what does that mean in the context of relationships?
Women need twice as much love and affection to achieve similar levels of happiness as men. Women need twice as much love and affection in order to have the same levels of serotonin and dopamine.
Women need twice as much positive reinforcement from our external environment than men do in order to drive the same amount of motivation in dopamine activity.
Women need more encouragement along the way to elicit the same neurochemical cascade..If she doesn’t get the positive reinforcement from her environment, her serotonin levels will drop, and eventually so will her dopamine.
The Serotonin Dopamine Dance
As I mentioned before, when serotonin levels go up, it will drive higher levels of dopamine.
A Positive Example of the Serotonin and Dopamine Dance:
I receive a lot of positive feedback (serotonin) from my clinical practice because patients constantly tell me what a difference I have made in their lives. I have athletes able to reach new PRs, dads are able to play with their kids again, women saying their headaches are gone and they’ve never been this energetic and happy.
I often say to myself, I can’t wait until tomorrow when I can do this all over again!
What is really happening in this positive feedback loop is I get a serotonergic boost from my external environment, which drives up my motivation (dopamine) so I am eager to continue to be a better doctor and to continue to serve. In other words, when your serotonin is up, it drives your dopamine levels up, too.
This is neuro utopia because my efforts and the outcome are aligned.
LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX, BABY.
So…what is a regular sex life? Data suggests two to three times a week minimum. So in the context of males and females, who needs the sex more?
Women REQUIRE positive feedback from our partner in order to increase those serotonergic pathways in the brain, and therefore increase our dopamine levels. And isn’t sex the most raw, the most intimate way that we can communicate and connect with our partners?
This is where intimacy happens, connection, trust, bonding.
If a woman feels nourished and loved and cared for and honored, she is going to chase that sex like the animal that she is because she wants to get that serotonergic burst in her brain, and she’s going to be motivated to be the best.
Now I know that may be difficult for some to digest, but recognizing health is an active process, and for the female, her health a direct reflection of her relationship with her partner.
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Why Women Actually Need Twice As Much Sex As Men
By Dr. Stephanie Estima
April 19th 2018
There is also a common misconception that men want sex more than women.
This is completely untrue and I’ll explain the science behind why in this article.
I’m going to simplify the neuroscience to give you an understanding how your brain works, how the opposite sex’s brain works, and how to use this understanding to enhance your relationships.
The Male Vs. Female Brain
One of the amazing things about our brain is the left and right sides of our brain function quite differently.
THE LEFT (MALE) BRAIN
The left side of our brain is very mechanistic, it is very task-oriented, very strategic, very mathematical, linear. This is what is referred to as the “male” brain. Of course I’m NOT saying that women can’t be strategic and mathematical and linear, but these attributes tend to be more male in nature.
The left brain is where a neurotransmitter called dopamine lives. Dopamine is where your motivation comes from. Remember that feeling when you checked off that item on your to do list? Or when someone likes your post on Instagram? That’s dopamine in action.
In other words, when you engage in behaviour that raises your dopamine levels, you are more likely to engage in that activity again to get the same dopamine hit, and rush of good feelings in the brain.
When you have high motivation, you can stay engaged, passionate, and motivated to complete tasks. What’s cool about Dopamine, is YOU can raise YOUR own levels of Dopamine.
THE RIGHT (FEMALE) BRAIN
The right brain is more sensual. It’s more creative. It’s emotional. It’s passion. This tends to be more of what we call the “female” brain, and again, men can be sensual and passionate, but these are more feminine traits.
This is where serotonin lives, our happy hormone. Serotonin is a right brain neurotransmitter, and the difference here and the key:
You can NOT raise your own levels of serotonin. Serotonin is raised EXTERNALLY. It is elevated by positive feedback from our loved ones, our work, and sex. This is important to understand because Serotonin levels increase Dopamine levels
So, the more positive feedback we get from our external environment through praise and appreciation, the more motivated we are to continue engaging in the activity that produced the praise.
Your partner, in the context of your relationship, raises YOUR levels of serotonin. So you receive positive feedback from your partner, that elevates your levels of serotonin, and in turn, that will raise your levels of dopamine.
NOW HERE’S THE MIND-BLOWING PART…
Even though females tend to be more right-brained in nature, men have 50% MORE serotonin receptors than women do. So what does that mean in the context of relationships?
Women need twice as much love and affection to achieve similar levels of happiness as men. Women need twice as much love and affection in order to have the same levels of serotonin and dopamine.
Women need twice as much positive reinforcement from our external environment than men do in order to drive the same amount of motivation in dopamine activity.
Women need more encouragement along the way to elicit the same neurochemical cascade..If she doesn’t get the positive reinforcement from her environment, her serotonin levels will drop, and eventually so will her dopamine.
The Serotonin Dopamine Dance
As I mentioned before, when serotonin levels go up, it will drive higher levels of dopamine.
A Positive Example of the Serotonin and Dopamine Dance:
I receive a lot of positive feedback (serotonin) from my clinical practice because patients constantly tell me what a difference I have made in their lives. I have athletes able to reach new PRs, dads are able to play with their kids again, women saying their headaches are gone and they’ve never been this energetic and happy.
I often say to myself, I can’t wait until tomorrow when I can do this all over again!
What is really happening in this positive feedback loop is I get a serotonergic boost from my external environment, which drives up my motivation (dopamine) so I am eager to continue to be a better doctor and to continue to serve. In other words, when your serotonin is up, it drives your dopamine levels up, too.
This is neuro utopia because my efforts and the outcome are aligned.
LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX, BABY.
So…what is a regular sex life? Data suggests two to three times a week minimum. So in the context of males and females, who needs the sex more?
Women REQUIRE positive feedback from our partner in order to increase those serotonergic pathways in the brain, and therefore increase our dopamine levels. And isn’t sex the most raw, the most intimate way that we can communicate and connect with our partners?
This is where intimacy happens, connection, trust, bonding.
If a woman feels nourished and loved and cared for and honored, she is going to chase that sex like the animal that she is because she wants to get that serotonergic burst in her brain, and she’s going to be motivated to be the best.
Now I know that may be difficult for some to digest, but recognizing health is an active process, and for the female, her health a direct reflection of her relationship with her partner.
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