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I need a womans perspective on this. I'm sure I'm not the first to ask but here goes. I need to know if my girl is giving me some b.s. When I go down on her she's all over the place grabbing pillows, squealing, grabbing my head and seems like she's in pure ecstasy. But when we're having sex her whole demeanor changes and I don't get any of these reactions. I ask her if I'm satisfying her, and she says she happy with my size. That's like a death sentence hearing that statement. So I feel like it's a straight lie. I trust her not to lie to me. But just feels like bullshit based on her difference in reaction from oral to penetration. Am I wrong feeling this way?
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Obviously I'm not a girl man...but maybe she isn't lying. Didn't you ever get like the best BJ that just straight out did intercourse? I know guys who would love a BJ over sex any day, but they aren't going to give up on sex. I think its the same thing. -
I feel you on that. I'm not looking for no porn star performance. But the look on her face is almost enough to make me go limp. Just looks like she's not enjoying it. She at one time said it feels like I'm hitting her appendix (bullshit obviously). So I say to her "if I was bigger you'd be in trouble". To which she replies "no I could take it"! Straight shenanigans!Comment
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The whole sexual experience can be quite different for women depending on whether it is oral or vaginal, and here's why -- it's all about clit sensitivity. When a lady gets a lot of focused attention on her clit (as in when you are really going at it with your tongue or fingers) it can be almost overwhelming, the sensations verge on being too much sometimes. The line between pleasure and painful over-stimulation can be quite fine; we aim to ride right along it, but a lot of thrashing and squealing can actually be a sign that it is almost -- or is -- too much stimulation. For some reason, a lot of moving around helps keep the stimulation in the pleasure range.
Vaginal penetration is different. Rarely does the clit get so stimulated that it makes one want to thrash wildly, right on the edge of too much. Rather, it takes more concentration to bring on an orgasm because the clitoral stimulation is less intense. I think I am often a lot more still during vaginal sex, as I tend to focus inward on more subtle sensations. The G-spot plays into this -- when you rub a girl's G-spot with your cock during vaginal sex, it give deep arousal but it is a different kind of feeling than what clit stimulation elicits. Many of the best orgasms (for me, at least) are the deeper ones that that take longer to achieve, but somehow are often a lot more powerful overall. To achieve them, I often need to lie relatively still (no thrashing) and let the relentless thrusting or rubbing of my man push me over the edge.
So -- I would not read anything into a woman's responses being different during oral vs vaginal sex. The sex just feels really different for us, that's all.Comment
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Thanks batwoman. That helps a lot. It just kind of threw me off when she said she could take more. If it wasn't for that extra bit of info I would have took your explanation and not have any more doubts. Just that lingering thought is in the back of my mind. I tried to get her to talk to me about what she likes but she's like Fort Knox. She keeps a tight lid on that info. Any tips to get her to open up?Comment
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I'm sure she would. Lol.Originally posted by JonathancliffComment
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Originally posted by lee52482 View Post
Your on the path to performance anxiety dude you need to STOP! Dont let this get to you, no good can come of it. Everytime your going to be having sex this will be on your mind all the time and it aint healthy.
Communication and trust is the key for a great sex life
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Your right! I need to be confident about it and not let it affect my mind. Thanks man!Originally posted by Jason - PE ! View PostYour on the path to performance anxiety dude you need to STOP! Dont let this get to you, no good can come of it. Everytime your going to be having sex this will be on your mind all the time and it aint healthy.
Communication and trust is the key for a great sex lifeComment
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Yeah dude,
If the girl is truly feeling pleasure, and there are some ways to tell if she is faking it or being genuine then that is all that counts. Personally, I'd pick a good BJ or camel-toe slide or anal to ol fashioned vaginal sex most of the times...Comment
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Shes having sex with you. Quit bitching before you ruin it ;PTahksis' Progress Log
NBPEL\BPEL: 5.5\6" X EG: 4.5 - Started 4/12/10Comment
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Lmao! Thanks man. Your absolutely right. I could be making love to my hand.Originally posted by tahksis View PostComment
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Just an update! I started doing JP's 90 day routine. Helped my EQ tremendously. Only did it for 2 days, but wow what a difference. Long story short we went for 2 sessions lasting about 20 minutes each. And we were laughing and having fun the whole time. I think I was just being paranoid or as Tahksis said "being a bitch about it" lol. Looking forward to the next time!Comment
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Hey any gains since then lee?July (2010) (OCT 1 2011)
NBPL 6.2~6.5 7.15
BPL 7 7.65
EG 5 5.5
HEAD 6.3 6.5
Final
8.5X 6.5
Head 8
Anyone bettering themselves is my motivation! This means you!:biggrin1:Comment
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I TOTALLY agree with this. I never turn down sex but if I'm offered intercourse or a BJ, I'll 9 times out of 10 take the BJ..........the orgasm I experience from a BJ versus actual intercourse is far more powerful and usually causes me to "man scream"...lolOriginally posted by blackirish View PostIt's a tough job being good looking and hung :-)Comment
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Man scream, huh? LOL - so what constitutes this 'man scream?'Originally posted by MrBigDick View PostOld Gym Log - Tracking progress with the iLogPE App
"Wherever you go, there you are. Stay sexy, my friends."Comment
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