How to get my girlfriend to be multi-orgasmic?

**BRD** · 09-23-2010

This question is for BW and TTBB, but any guys who have solved this problem can chime in as well.

I have a great girlfriend who loves sex, but very rarely does she come more than once during a session. This in no way seems to bother her, but I would like to see her become multi orgasmic. Just for reference, she is 40 and I'm 43, so she has had plenty of experience before me (we've been togther about a year and a half). Though I have never specifically asked her, she has indicated that 'one and done' has been her norm (or maybe occassionaly 2 or 3, but not often). She has come 3 times with me, but that was over a multi hour session in which I finished 3 times as well and was early in our relationship.

She seems to orgasm like a guy, i.e. she comes loud and hard and needs to rest afterwards. She is much more into penetration vs. oral, which is a new one to me. I've always had easy success with oral in the past, so I think my technique is good, but with her it takes some time and work to get the job done.

I've even bought her vibrators to see if that would help her become multi, but she prefers me (which is nice), and doesn't really give them a chance. She will use it for one orgasm if I bring it out for her, but has no desire to continue using it after that.

I've done research on the topic, but to date have not found a secret that works.

I know you may say, "if she's happy, why push it", and that might be the right answer. But I can't help but wonder if there is some trick or technique I could try to would push her over the edge.

Any ideas?

On a side note, the last time we had sex she said she thought she came twice (back to back real quick), but I don't know what I might have done differently. It was just normal penetration, with her on top.

**hele16** · 09-23-2010

u ever try playin with her clit while fucking her??

**BRD** · 09-23-2010

Yes, I've tried that. In fact, she likes playing with it while I do her. There is no problem getting her to come once, but afterwards she is worn out and needs to recover.

**hele16** · 09-23-2010

what about the positions u guys fuck in.. cuz maybe u guys gotta communicate more.. my girl tells me the pos. that make her cum quicker..

**Batwoman** · 09-23-2010

Originally Posted by BRD

I have a great girlfriend who loves sex, but very rarely does she come more than once during a session. This in no way seems to bother her, but I would like to see her become multi orgasmic. Just for reference, she is 40 and I'm 43, so she has had plenty of experience before me (we've been togther about a year and a half). Though I have never specifically asked her, she has indicated that 'one and done' has been her norm (or maybe occassionaly 2 or 3, but not often). She has come 3 times with me, but that was over a multi hour session in which I finished 3 times as well and was early in our relationship.

I am EXACTLY like this, always have been. I think this is just the norm for women. I'd like to be multiorgasmic (because it sounds like fun) but truthfully, after one orgasm I am usually fully satisfied. By that I mean that I just don't feel the need -- on any level -- for another orgasm. I may want more sex -- a lot more -- but reaching orgasm is not what I'm after, it is that whole-body stimulation and closeness that I desire. Sometimes I might have two orgasms, but that is rare and usually there is at least half an hour or more in between. Times that he or I or both of us try to get me to cum more, I frequently end up oversensitive (so my clit actually hurts). We've learned not to push it for just that reason.

What you describe sounds like a fulfilling, happy sex life. I would not obsess about changing it!

**vulcan** · 09-23-2010

Vibrating cock ring?

I've never tried one but it would be a way of using vibration whilst she still gets you.

Beyond that, I am all out of ideas.

**Batwoman** · 09-23-2010

Vibrators, vibrating cock rings, and clit play during sex are great fun and can indeed make me cum, quite spectacularly sometimes. However, they don't make me multiorgasmic. It is not a matter of not getting enough stimulation.... it is just that my body is just not interested in a second orgasm for quite some time after the first.

**TINKERBELL** · 09-23-2010

Sadly, I have never had a guy manage to climax me ...but I have absolutely no problem having multiple orgasms on my own .....

Your girlfriend seems to lean towards vaginal orgasm... have you ever brought her to orgasm just through clitoral stimulation? ...the only thing i can think to try, is bringing her to orgasm through clitoral stimulation ..while she is still in the reactive comedown after the clitoral orgasm...then proceed to do the magic that you do with your cock to bring on a virginal orgasm....
Multiple orgasms are a good goal to have .. but not all woman can achieve them...so like BW said i would not obsess about changing it
Your actually very lucky, so many guys would love to have a woman who is able to achieve a vaginal orgasms ...woman generally lean towards clitoral.

**Batwoman** · 09-23-2010

If you don't mind my asking, how do you have multiples on your own? I mean, exactly what do you do to get the first, and then the subsequent ones?
I have no trouble with the first, it's just that I don't manage any after that.

**BRD** · 09-23-2010

Thank you for your well thought out answers. I haven't figured out how to insert quotes from previous posts, so hopefully my responses below make sense:

Vulcan, I did buy a vibrating cockring, and while we have used it a few times, she says it actually distracts her. I was hopeful that it would be the answer, but not in this case.

TTBB, Yes I have brought her to orgasm through clitoral stimulation alone, but not very often and it takes some work/time. Even if I'm giving oral, after a bit I will insert a finger or two to help her finish. With prior women I would not have to resort to that. However, I have watched her masturbate and she does it by clitoris stimulation alone. I think that is just a matter of her knowing exactly how fast to move and the exact finger positioning. I've tried to copy it, but the reality is she would rather have penetration, so why bother. My ex-wife was the opposite and I agree that a girl getting off on penetration is much better. We are able to finish at the same time, which is nice.

BW, Sounds very similar. If I try to push it she eventually gets sore (and then cranky). Overall I have not pushed this subject with her much. I just bring it up every once in a while to gauge her interest. I want to make sure she is having the best sex possible so that she continues to want it as much as me.