I really dont know what to do anymore.
From about 3 months into the relationship he had problems with premature ejaculation, before hand he was able to last a few minutes and satisfy me, (He was an inexperienced guy I wasnt expecting hours).
Literally 10 seconds is now his average.
At the time he was blaming his aunt being home, or saying things like "Its cause youre so beautifull" which is ya know, a sweet thought but im not daft...
Here we are almost 2 years together, we have our own place, still this problem persists. Some days its better, he can hold out a little longer. But 99% of the time he'll be done long before I am. He spends a lot of time on foreplay most of the time, but sometimes it's not enough, I just want to feel close and be physical with him, like in a normal relationship...
Most of the time i keep my cool, and tell him it's okay and it doesnt really matter, and try and support him. But of course it does matter, it's gotten to a point now where after he finishes early its a total turn off for me, he cant finish me off by hand and sometimes I just feel like crying and I want to get away from him. We've gone through long dry periods because of it, I know it doesn't help but I feel so used, I feel like he isn't really doing what he can to get over this... I ask him if he can think of any reasons why it might be happening, (Its unusual that this started 3 months into the relationship right??) if theres anything I can do to help, if we can read through some books together, but no, he has no idea.
I feel that no matter how much he says its not his fault he cant help it, he MUST want it on some level, if he speeds up before coming.
He promises he'll go to the doctors about it, but I know he wont.
He says he practices his kegels but I know he doesn't really stick to it, he just drops back into his same old bad habits, same with the stop/start routine, he tried it once, the results where just as disastrous.. Sometimes he says he doesnt even notice when he comes, which i find hard to believe tbh...
After such a long time its really starting to affect other areas of our relationship..
Edit: Also, if i use my hands/mouth to satisfy him he lasts a "normal" length of time.
From about 3 months into the relationship he had problems with premature ejaculation, before hand he was able to last a few minutes and satisfy me, (He was an inexperienced guy I wasnt expecting hours).
Literally 10 seconds is now his average.
At the time he was blaming his aunt being home, or saying things like "Its cause youre so beautifull" which is ya know, a sweet thought but im not daft...
Here we are almost 2 years together, we have our own place, still this problem persists. Some days its better, he can hold out a little longer. But 99% of the time he'll be done long before I am. He spends a lot of time on foreplay most of the time, but sometimes it's not enough, I just want to feel close and be physical with him, like in a normal relationship...
Most of the time i keep my cool, and tell him it's okay and it doesnt really matter, and try and support him. But of course it does matter, it's gotten to a point now where after he finishes early its a total turn off for me, he cant finish me off by hand and sometimes I just feel like crying and I want to get away from him. We've gone through long dry periods because of it, I know it doesn't help but I feel so used, I feel like he isn't really doing what he can to get over this... I ask him if he can think of any reasons why it might be happening, (Its unusual that this started 3 months into the relationship right??) if theres anything I can do to help, if we can read through some books together, but no, he has no idea.
I feel that no matter how much he says its not his fault he cant help it, he MUST want it on some level, if he speeds up before coming.
He promises he'll go to the doctors about it, but I know he wont.
He says he practices his kegels but I know he doesn't really stick to it, he just drops back into his same old bad habits, same with the stop/start routine, he tried it once, the results where just as disastrous.. Sometimes he says he doesnt even notice when he comes, which i find hard to believe tbh...
After such a long time its really starting to affect other areas of our relationship..
Edit: Also, if i use my hands/mouth to satisfy him he lasts a "normal" length of time.
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