50 shades of oh hell yes.

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So my wife has been reading Fifty shades of grey, for the second time and I must say that if your lady hasnt read them buy it for her. I have not read them nor do I have any desire to do so..........until now. I know what your thinking but I think it may give me some insight to what it has got her thinking.

You see since she has read this book she has bought two more books, the Ultimate Guide to Anal sex for Women and the Secrets of Great G Spot Orgasms And Female Ejaculation. She has read them both and decided she wants to work on both of these things.

I showed her a site today that I had ordered a silicone anal plug for her to help her with her new found interest's and she wanted to see the site and then she had me order a set of ben-wa balls and an 8 inch jelly vibe that mounts to the wall. I asked if I could watch her ride it and she says why, I say I want to and then make her suck me off while she fucks it and she kisses my neck and says yes then goes off to take a shower while i am making dinner.

My questions are many but I will just list a few. Should I be worried, just kidding!

Have any of you ladies been actually opened to trying new things just from getting into a book?

Is this part of the late 30 something thing that I have heard many women may go through? I mean we do it all the time, and she wants to explore more

What if any fantasies or desires would you have your man fulfill with some of these new toys because to be honest I am very excited to say the least. I guess I should be happy and I am.

I am going to be exploring some light bondage and any advice for a newbie would be appreciated. We have done the ass slapping and occasionally rough sex ( not painful )

[Looking4more Retired Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Looking4more]

Just give it a while BigO. The Mrs will be all over your thread like white on rice.
All I can say is the bondage part is AWESOME! 10 minutes ago I just gave her a set of arm cuffs and a set of thigh cuffs for an early Valentines Day present. They match the rest of the cuffs, belts and collars we have. Don't worry, you don't need to spend all that money to get started. To get started, I would recommend the "Under the bed restraint system". We got started with the same thing years ago. It's good quality and inexpensive. If you find you like it, we can steer you on to other things when the time comes. If you have specific questions, please PM if you don't want to post it.

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I have no problems posting. I think posting in the open may be helpful for me and hopefully others. I am going to show her this thread and get her opinions. I am not looking for hardcore stuff, just to begin exploring new things.

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OK Big O now you are in my realm. I have read 50 Shades of Grey five times all three books. Is it my favorite bondage book? not, but it has great interaction and characters. As a BDSM book (outside of the contract mentioned in it) the actual book, only contains mild bondage and toy play. I think the fascination with it is that it is the first time someone wrote a trilogy with the theme embedded in it. It has completely created a new erotica genre.

Here is the answer to your questions:

1. My questions are many but I will just list a few. Should I be worried, just kidding!

Sounds like you are open to try anything at least once, so no, if you have already spanked and a few rough sex sessions that is actually more than a beginner session of BD.

2.Have any of you ladies been actually opened to trying new things just from getting into a book?

Yes, erotica books comprise the highest sales of books in the world, it is a billions dollar industry. Big business! No only do we read it, we get ideas and then buy the stuff to make our fantasy come true. Erotica books are the porn for us ladies. We do better in our imagination than with the visual. Ask your wife to find her favorite scene in the book and read it to you (I do this with the Mr all the time), you will have an idea of what she is looking for and her voice inflection should tell you a lot.

3. Is this part of the late 30 something thing that I have heard many women may go through? I mean we do it all the time, and she wants to explore more

NO is not age related is more sexually ready related. Some people get adventurous early some do not. Some do not try sensual exploration due religious or cultural taboos. So is whenever you are mentally ready. So if your lady is looking to spice up, go for it.

4.What if any fantasies or desires would you have your man fulfill with some of these new toys because to be honest I am very excited to say the least. I guess I should be happy and I am.

For me it was the sensation of double penetration (since your wife asked for anal plug, this would be perfect for you). I would never consider a threesome is my personal bias but I wanted the sensation, so the butt plug in combo with the Mr was an awesome deal and I can guarantee you she will have the biggest orgasms from that, this is because 2 out of the three triggers spots on a woman will be stimulated at the same time.

5. I am going to be exploring some light bondage and any advice for a newbie would be appreciated. We have done the ass slapping and occasionally rough sex (not painful )

Like the Mr says a under the bed restrain system is well bellow 50.00 and you can put it away when it is not in use. Make sure is the one with cuff that have D rings, so that you can use it different positions.

The best advice, HAVE A SAFE WORD BEFORE you start. This is so if the play gets to intense for the person in bondage they can stop the interaction. For me and the Mr we use Red to indicate everything stops, yellow for give me a second to compose my self and green for everything is cool (we use green only when he is asking during interaction to make sure , I am OK with whatever he is doing).

After any BDSM interaction there MUST be some kind of after care. Ie. whoever was in restraints needs to drink water, needs to have their arms, legs or whatever was restrained messaged for circulation to come back to the area. Always have some dark chocolate for the antioxidants and aloe gel for the skin if you had any impact play such as spanking, whipping, caning, etc.

Last but not east if she liked 50 Shades of Gray get her "This Man" and "Beneath This Man" both by Jodi Ellen Malpas for Valentines, she will love them and love you more for providing her with more. If you need books referrals PM me, I read any where from 2 to 5 books daily. Is my addiction, ask the Mr. LOL Hope this is enough to get you started!

Remember what my sig says: BDSM SAFE, SANE and CONSENSUAL

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See BigO, I told you she would be all over it!

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

You were right Mr looking

Mrs L4more, as always you have provided great information. We are going to get the bed restraint system and the doggy belt, the one that holds her hands against her hips.

We are discussing safe words and looking at more toys but I suppose we should introduce them slowly, don't want to buy everything all at once. I will get her the first book this week as a valentines gift and of course i will get her something else ( not sex related)

As far as the double stimulation goes we are definitely not willing to share each other with others, we feel like you two about that. We have each other and our toys.

Thanks for your help, both of you.

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Our pleasure BigO.

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So my wife has been reading Fifty shades of grey, for the second time and I must say that if your lady hasnt read them buy it for her. I have not read them nor do I have any desire to do so..........until now. I know what your thinking but I think it may give me some insight to what it has got her thinking.

You see since she has read this book she has bought two more books, the Ultimate Guide to Anal sex for Women and the Secrets of Great G Spot Orgasms And Female Ejaculation. She has read them both and decided she wants to work on both of these things.

I showed her a site today that I had ordered a silicone anal plug for her to help her with her new found interest's and she wanted to see the site and then she had me order a set of ben-wa balls and an 8 inch jelly vibe that mounts to the wall. I asked if I could watch her ride it and she says why, I say I want to and then make her suck me off while she fucks it and she kisses my neck and says yes then goes off to take a shower while i am making dinner.

My questions are many but I will just list a few. Should I be worried, just kidding!

Have any of you ladies been actually opened to trying new things just from getting into a book?

Is this part of the late 30 something thing that I have heard many women may go through? I mean we do it all the time, and she wants to explore more

What if any fantasies or desires would you have your man fulfill with some of these new toys because to be honest I am very excited to say the least. I guess I should be happy and I am.

I am going to be exploring some light bondage and any advice for a newbie would be appreciated. We have done the ass slapping and occasionally rough sex ( not painful )

Oh man, ass slapping while bangin' her doggy style.....that's the shit right there!! Grabbin that hair (not hard) and yellin' "who's your daddy bitch?" while your pounding away from behind.........ooooooohhhhhhhh yeah!

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Last night was hot, just telling her what I was going to do when I get the stuff we ordered made things zesty.

[MrsLooking4more Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2013PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close MrsLooking4more]

@BigO Glad to see we could be of help. There are quite a few members that are into BDSM, I warn you is addictive. which is the reason we have a playroom. LOL

@MrBigDick Sounds good!

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Try and see if you can get a butt plug that vibrates. If you're in her pussy while it's in her ass, she'll have a vibrating pussy. The sensation for you will be out of this world. She'll also feel tighter because the plug is taking up space. You'll be able to feel it on the other side of her vaginal wall. It's pretty fucking awesome.

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The vibrating butt plug was ordered yesterday.

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You are really getting into it. Are we going to be calling you MrBigO Grey? LOL

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That's the way to do it BigO!

@ Aston. We use a stainless butt plug when having sex and it surely is amazing! I can only imagine what a vibrating plug would feel like.

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We ordered the vibrating plug because it was small and the bullet is removable. I can use that bullet in a few different ways. Originally I wanted the three size set so we could work up to sizes slowly. We are going to work the anal aspect into our sex life at her pace, after all it is her but and I want to make it feel great for her so it may be 6 months before its me in there or it may be a week, it is her call.

You know after I ordered the butt plug you sent me the link MrLooking and it had the set of three that i wanted in the first place, damn the luck. I was going to order it and my wife was like, damn dude, wait a week or we wont be able to feed the kids. Choices, choices. I went with feeding the kids, lol.

MrsL4, I am getting a touch of grey, so maybe i am already BigO gray!!!!