Hi guys, I actually posted a couple of messages in the premature ejaculation forums as this was an issue that I have been suffering with for a while, if you haven't seen my messages then the jist of it was that my girlfriend and I had been going out for numerous months without having sex (mainly because I didn't want to blow my load after just inserting my penis in her).
So recently me and my girlfriend have been having intercourse and it's going ok, but this is the first time I have been having regular sex and I have a few questions. The first time we had sex, it was over in about 3 minutes (which I was actually really happy with as I never thought I would last even this long). Understandably this wasn't long enough for my girlfriend and an hour or 2 later we had sex again and she started on top and when I asked to change etc. she was like no you get too excited that way (which is fair enough) so I lasted about 10 minutes with her on top of me but this was because there was no thrusting action, just lots of grinding, she then said when I want to finish let her know and I can go on top, which I did and after some more grinding and then thrusting, I ejaculated.
My dilemma here is that, I can't work out whether or not she's enjoying grinding when I'm in her because she seems to enjoy the thrusting far more, however it's much harder/impossible to last whilst thrusting in and out with my penis. for instance she doesn't shiver like she does when I am fingering her but I guess this is because she's having clitoral orgasms and she's having no orgasms throughout sex. I just can't work out whether she's enjoying herself or not because the body signs aren't there? When we changed positions though I managed to get straight back in so her moistness must mean that it wasn't all bad, right?
So I guess my question is, do women actually enjoy grinding or is thrusting where it's at?
So recently me and my girlfriend have been having intercourse and it's going ok, but this is the first time I have been having regular sex and I have a few questions. The first time we had sex, it was over in about 3 minutes (which I was actually really happy with as I never thought I would last even this long). Understandably this wasn't long enough for my girlfriend and an hour or 2 later we had sex again and she started on top and when I asked to change etc. she was like no you get too excited that way (which is fair enough) so I lasted about 10 minutes with her on top of me but this was because there was no thrusting action, just lots of grinding, she then said when I want to finish let her know and I can go on top, which I did and after some more grinding and then thrusting, I ejaculated.
My dilemma here is that, I can't work out whether or not she's enjoying grinding when I'm in her because she seems to enjoy the thrusting far more, however it's much harder/impossible to last whilst thrusting in and out with my penis. for instance she doesn't shiver like she does when I am fingering her but I guess this is because she's having clitoral orgasms and she's having no orgasms throughout sex. I just can't work out whether she's enjoying herself or not because the body signs aren't there? When we changed positions though I managed to get straight back in so her moistness must mean that it wasn't all bad, right?
So I guess my question is, do women actually enjoy grinding or is thrusting where it's at?
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