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[shamrock1790 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close shamrock1790]

So im about 4.5-5EL by about closer to 5 EG but im extremely self conscious to the point where I cant even have sex anymore. I had this sexy chick buck naked straddling me in the hot tub telling me we should fuck and I did nuthing because of my fears and insecurities. Ive almost completely lost the ability to talk to women or even just being myself. The last chick I was with cheated on me with her ex and shes tellin people I got a small dick and makin jokes about it which is pretty depressing and brings me down quite a bit. I used to be a very upbeat happy person didnt care what anyone thought, loved to be goofy and have a good time and would talk ur ear off, now im very reserved cant go dance at bars or even strike up a conversation. its like my mind has already shut itself down and i feel lost, broken,unworthy and that I will never find someone that would love me for me not wanting anymore than what I have. it bugs me every single day of my life and its detroying me and I dont know how to fix it. I tried PEing a while ago for 4 months and gave up cause I seen no results at all but this is my only option so I gotta try again

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

You have good girth, and a below average length, luckily the latter comes easy for most, if you are dedicated, and patient, you can expect to gain about an inch or more in length and probably some girth too by following one of the beginner routines.

Four months are not a long time, gains may come slow for some, so try again, heat well, and maybe focus more on stretching, and don't jelq at high EQ, keep it at about 35% hard, you can even consider hanging, just make sure you research a lot, we have massive information and a very helpful community here.

In case you haven't please https://www.pegym.com/forums/beginne...cess-here.html

Now, put that aside, you need to get back to your normal self, forget about the cheating ex, and don't let such remarks ruin your otherwise high esteem. Hit the floor, flirt with chicks, and go for it whenever there's an opportunity, quality ladies care more for the guy than his penis BTW.

All the best.

[shamrock1790 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close shamrock1790]

Thing is im not good at flirting with women or even really know how to pick them up. The women ive been with have been chicks I already knew or have been dating. Never been the type of guy to go pick up women and lets be honest no woman is going to want to hook up with what I have when most guys r bigger than me and they could be havin a better time with them. Im a decent lookin guy in shape and have always had beautiful gfs but women definitely care about the size to a point and for most I just dont measure up

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

Thing is im not good at flirting with women or even really know how to pick them up. The women ive been with have been chicks I already knew or have been dating. Never been the type of guy to go pick up women and lets be honest no woman is going to want to hook up with what I have when most guys r bigger than me and they could be havin a better time with them. Im a decent lookin guy in shape and have always had beautiful gfs but women definitely care about the size to a point and for most I just dont measure up

It's not the size of your penis that is preventing you from enjoying girls. It is your brain. You are thinking "small". Thread after thread and post after post women are telling us that it's not the size of a penis that matters. Only guys think it is. Penis "envy" is a man-made syndrome.

I don't know where to start. I feel like I'm just spinning wheels because what I am telling you, you don't believe.

Hows your EQ?

[shamrock1790 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close shamrock1790]

Its decent I guess, I get hard as a rock but sometimes if I try and stop myself from cumming I lose a portion of my erection

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

You are getting solid advice here from anonymity and draggin. (BTW watch the double post )

Check out the Premature Ejaculation Forum for some stamina work.

[shamrock1790 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close shamrock1790]

I have read many posts and talked to many women, size matters to a point. My girth might be acceptable but the length most dont everly enjoy. Lots say they like deeper penetration and im not anywhere near that and some more girth wouldnt hurt either

[TPW Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close TPW]

Hey shamrock1790,

As a former therapist, may I share my observations based on what you have written thus far?

1) The reason your ex has resorted to making fun of your penis is because she is attempting not only to alleviate her own guilt for cheating but also trying to justify her deplorable behaviour to others.

Now, I highly suspect that you are a good guy who is also attractive, giving her absolutely nothing she could use to blame her infidelity on so she resorted to the one excuse sure to pack a one-two punch; diminishing the size of your manhood. In short, she is simply trying to build herself up by putting you down by any means necessary. This is a very common albeit not very creative method used by those who feel guilt and/or shame. Sadly, as you have just witnessed, acts of cruelty are not gender specific; girls can be just as cruel as guys.

2) Please keep in mind that she is trying to embarrass you simply because she is embarrassed by her infidelity and trying to deflect and shift blame. Stop buying into it otherwise she "wins". The sweetest revenge is to be utterly and completely unaffected by her cruelty. There is no need to sink to her level and resort to demeaning her as she is doing a great job demeaning herself - like an earlier poster said - she is unknowingly conveying that she likely has a rather large vagina.

3) Regarding the aspect of flirting; no worries for that is a skill that is easily learned and by your post (naked girl straddling you), I'm thinking flirting isn't an issue for you anyway.

4) Finally, stop with the negative self-talk, stop giving your personal power over to someone else; especially one so immature and cruel and move forward. Because you, my friend are certainly worth it!

[TacoBell Member Find all posts View Profile Close TacoBell]

There are no small penii, just large vaginas

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

Its decent I guess, I get hard as a rock but sometimes if I try and stop myself from cumming I lose a portion of my erection

Great. So your cock works fine. Now get out there and use it! After a couple good fucks you will feel like the awesome man you are. In the meantime, don't look at porn - that is the source of male insecurity.

[shamrock1790 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close shamrock1790]

Lol thats not how it works

[shamrock1790 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close shamrock1790]

Ive slept with 5 women that I can remember in 3 years lol and none of those times have i felt like "the awesome man I am" haha

[shamrock1790 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close shamrock1790]

Tryin to stay positive tho and started PEing again, also what weight would u recommend for starting hanging?

[MedPsy Member Find all posts View Profile Close MedPsy]

2.5 pounds for at least a week, less if that weight causes any pain or discomfort. Remember it's not worth moving on to something else until the gains from the current have stopped.

[MovingUp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close MovingUp]

I know that plenty of girls will be disappointed in your size; and it is much harder to please them and fuck them with your size than if you had a couple more inches ....

People on here want to so badly comfort each other on how penis size doesn't matter to girls ... well it does to a lot of girls ... especially the younger ones ....

I first joined on here in part due to my last extreme love interest leaving me for a guy who supposedly was much thicker than my 4.7 MSG, and longer. I was almost 8 inches. I know for a fact a great deal of her attraction to him was his huge dick because I was very close to her and we've always been very open and I always could read her like a book. Now she's a more extreme case of being a size queen, but most girls at least will be disappointed by a penis that's barely 5 by 5 inches. I mean I remember her telling me about a guy she fucked who was very attractive but then had a tiny 4.5 inch dick and she couldn't tell it was in and just wanted it all to be over and for him to leave. And she's a 4'10 98 pound asian girl. These are real girls with real issues with smaller dicks. Now she's not a bad person just because she much prefers well hung men ...

A lot of people say it's not most girls care about having that huge dick, or needing a big one, but they need a certain amount. I think we should at least admit that the majority of girls at least do care that they guy be at least averagely endowed ... and I don't know if 5 inches cuts it.

I don't like being negative Nancy but I am whatever I'm needed to be, and when the rest of the forum seems to want to undersell a guy's problem to him then I'm in that role.

Shit I grew up with terrible skin. I didn't need someone to tell me lies about how its ok and girls don't care. I knew they did and that was a fact of life. Just like a significantly small penis is a turn off for most girls. The ridicule I faced every day from kids and females was worse than many of yall can imagine. Don't think I'm some heartless cocky prick (pun intended) because I'm saying he's got somewhat of an issue. I know what it's like. At least not everyone knows you're issue.

Now if you are 5 inches in girth, you're already above average there. Within not too long of time of pe you should be able to reach great girth (5.5+)

Really, a lot of what a girl feels is the first portion of the vagina and with your girth, you should be able to please a female pretty well even if you are short in the length. So maybe the best thing would be to fuck the girl first without her seeing it, then get what that felt like in her head, then she can later see it afterwards. Otherwise she might see it and already paint the experience as going to be negative and then perceive it to be worse when it goes down than it really was. Just an idea.

Main point, 5 inches BPEL is small, and many girls will be off put by it, don't let these people make you think it's all in your head, it's not, but you have adequate girth and length to please them even still. Plus if you stuck with pe, you'd have a great dick before you knew it!