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  • Women: The Inside Scoop

    Greetings Gentlemen,

    Yep; it’s me again. Now I know what you’re thinking, “What is TPW going to ask us, now?” Don’t worry; I’m not going to ask you anything…well, not this time anyway. No, I thought I would turn the tables and provide a thread where the men can ask women questions. Those questions could be anything about women. For example; why women do what they do or why women say what they say, how we truly like to be romanced, what turns us on or off, what kind of lingerie we like to wear or even whether or not we are all obsessed with footwear (I am! ) The sky’s the limit.

    Now I know we already have the “Relationship” and “Women’s Perspective” forums available to you to air your concerns about women but this thread is a bit different in that it answers those simple, one sentence questions/curiosities about women, their preferences and/or what really makes them tick; in short the inside scoop.

    Fortunately, the group of female members on PEGym may be small but our collective experience, education, wisdom and age make us pretty darn mighty. We’ll give you the truth but…can you handle it?

    You are free to ask any question with one exception; don’t bother asking us about women’s penis size preference or whether or not penis size matters because it has been asked and answered over and over on this site already and frankly we’re bored with it. Other than that, everything is up for discussion and if it's not, we'll tell you that too.

    So I guess the only thing left to say is…what do you want to know?
    TPW
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    Last edited by TPW; 10-10-2013, 09:40 AM.


  • #2
    What do I say when women "fish" for certain answers? I'm only 24, so I have a good amount of casual sex. However, it seems like females try to get certain reactions or answers out of me. They ask questions like, "when did you know you liked me.." and "what do you like about me..." or "why do you like me all of the sudden..." I don't like to give out too much of my feelings, I don't like when people put me on the spot, and I legitimately don't want a relationship with these women. So what's best: lie and tell them what they want to hear?; say something funny to divert the conversation?; or be brutally honest and risk all sorts of social consequences.
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    • #3
      A man must study many years the art of answering a woman...
      Cause I'm TNT, I'm Dynamite :boxing::aikido:

      Got nine lives...used six already!! :angel:

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      • #4
        What a wonderful idea T.P.W., we've grown to expect nothing less from you

        I know its a bit much already but I really tried to some them up a bit

        - What are the most common anxieties that women have? and can they be helped?
        - What does it take for a man to totally win a lady's heart?
        - At what point in a relationship does a woman open up for her man?
        - Do all women get turned off by insecure guys?
        A real man never hurts a woman. The woman came out of a man’s rib, not from his feet to be walked on, and not from his head to be superior, but from his side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved. - Mrs. workin_4_it

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        • #5
          Originally posted by the_Based_God View Post
          What do I say when women "fish" for certain answers? I'm only 24, so I have a good amount of casual sex. However, it seems like females try to get certain reactions or answers out of me. They ask questions like, "when did you know you liked me.." and "what do you like about me..." or "why do you like me all of the sudden..." I don't like to give out too much of my feelings, I don't like when people put me on the spot, and I legitimately don't want a relationship with these women. So what's best: lie and tell them what they want to hear?; say something funny to divert the conversation?; or be brutally honest and risk all sorts of social consequences.
          Hey the_Based_God,

          Well, I would think the answer would be pretty obvious but I'm guessing you haven't used the "honesty" route too often. And why does your honesty have to be "brutal"? Tact and diplomacy can go far, my friend.

          Often, when girls ask those kinds of questions, they are usually showing their interest or seeking validation. If you are uncomfortable answering those type of questions; try turning it around and simply ask (nicely) "Why are you asking?" or "What would you like to know'? This will encourage her to convey her intentions and then you will know what to say next. May I advise that if you are only interested in a hook up...be honest and let her know? Give her the option to accept or decline your offer and then respect her decision. See, no deception needed.
          TPW
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          Last edited by TPW; 10-10-2013, 07:46 AM.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by MrB8 View Post
            What a wonderful idea T.P.W., we've grown to expect nothing less from you

            I know its a bit much already but I really tried to some them up a bit

            - What are the most common anxieties that women have? and can they be helped?
            - What does it take for a man to totally win a lady's heart?
            - At what point in a relationship does a woman open up for her man?
            - Do all women get turned off by insecure guys?
            Great questions MrB8 although I think it may be best that you ask each one separately and be a little more specific if you could?

            For example...Q1 what are the most common anxieties in relation to what exactly? Life? Relationships? Men? Sex? Career? Parenthood?

            Q3 Open up in a relationship? How? communication wise? Sexually? Emotionally?

            Q4 And insecure guys? How insecure? What are they insecure about?

            I always find that the more you can "chunk a question down" the better, more specific the answers can be.

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            • #7
              My girlfriend once asked me about who gets circumcised and who doesn't. I was almost at a loss in answering that question. First of all, why ask me that, she can look it up on the net. I almost was going to reply with something like " you want somebody with an uncircumcised dick with all that loose skin poking you?" but decided to stay quiet and find something else to say. We are on our morning walk, and I am answering slowly, trying to recall some porn actors and religions that require circumcision. "Well Jews and Muslims are circumcised because of traditions.... etc.." Heck, I was starting to contradict myself as to who was and who wasn't, so I finally said "It depends on who your family doctor was and his and your parents decision". She replied in a namby pamby way that made me think she would like an uncircumcised penis over mines. We never discussed this again. But I am still wondering about her thoughts. What do other girls think?

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              • #8
                Oops! too general Again! lol,

                My questions are usually general as they are not out of personal experience, so far I have not been in any relationship, but I observe others, and need to get a better understanding and be able to help a future partner (hopefully soul mate) or handle a tough situation, so please bare with me

                So let me try to specify two of the questions for now

                What are the most common anxieties that women have in relation to men and relationships? and can they be helped?

                It's been said over and over again here and almost everywhere else that insecure men turn women off (I don't find insecurities in a woman to be a turn off), any kind of insecurity, lack of self esteem, lack of confidence.

                I now realize that I should have written them down, and posted them in detail one after another so maybe I can get back to the rest and more later on
                MrB8
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                A real man never hurts a woman. The woman came out of a man’s rib, not from his feet to be walked on, and not from his head to be superior, but from his side to be equal. Under the arm to be protected, and next to the heart to be loved. - Mrs. workin_4_it

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                • #9
                  What do you want in a kiss?
                  Pirate Diplomacy:
                  The art of telling someone to go to hell and having them look forward to the trip.

                  Remember: If done right, there is no such thing as safe sex.

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Bolohed View Post
                    My girlfriend once asked me about who gets circumcised and who doesn't.
                    I think she asked because 1. you are her boyfriend and trusts you enough to flat out ask the question because 2. you have a dick and she thought you'd be knowledgeable on circumcision. Not that she wants an uncut fella or anything, just she was curious and thought you'd know.
                    Be a reflection of what you'd like to see in others.
                    If you want love, give love.
                    If you want honesty, give honesty.
                    If you want respect, give respect.
                    You get in return, what you give.

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by MrB8 View Post
                      What are the most common anxieties that women have in relation to men and relationships? and can they be helped?

                      It's been said over and over again here and almost everywhere else that insecure men turn women off (I don't find insecurities in a woman to be a turn off), any kind of insecurity, lack of self esteem, lack of confidence.
                      On question 1, there's always going to some small anxiety(maybe not anxiety, but a thought) for me I think. I'm married but I still want my husband to desire me, find me attractive, etc and that, I think, stems from when our relationship was not so hot and heavy(small children/pregnancy years), and being me, thought it was because I was lacking something in his eyes. I find that just on occasion now, the thought will secretly pop into my head, the what ifs, but then they are quickly forgotten. The key is communication with your partner. I have little to no doubt that my husband very much is attracted and desires me

                      The second question. When I was dating my husband, I don't remember if I recall any incident of him exposing insecurities to me(maybe once in a while). I don't think I'd enjoy a man that was at the extreme of spewing all his insecurities to me or every other sentence was laced with what he's lacking, but I find it the ultimate bond(well, maybe not the ultimate) when he trusts me with his fears, his insecurities and we talk them out. To me, that means he really trusts me with the information, his inner thoughts, issues, and wants an ear to vocalize, sometimes needing a different perspective on things, but overall, an understanding that I'm right there with him no matter what.
                      Be a reflection of what you'd like to see in others.
                      If you want love, give love.
                      If you want honesty, give honesty.
                      If you want respect, give respect.
                      You get in return, what you give.

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                      • #12
                        Hey Bolohed,

                        I agree with SLU reasons and I would just add that although your girl asked the question in a general way, she probably just wanted to know your specific reasons. A women's preference for either an uncircumcised or circumcised penis is personal and varies with each woman - some like it, some don't and still others don't care one way or another.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by Pirate View Post
                          What do you want in a kiss?
                          I'd actually had this conversation with my husband because, again, during our small children/pregnancy phase, things were PG. Kisses became just short, non passionate pecks that left me wondering. The conversation and what played out afterwards is one the the funniest nights ever for me. Long story short, I expressed that we didn't kiss like we use to and I wanted to change that because kissing is such a great part of a relationship, a quick way of showing your partner you desire them, to a complete turn on, depending on the kiss. We decided that night to kiss We started and we just started laughing. It was so hilarious, but we had a blast. Great memory.

                          Ok, back to the question. I don't want the same thing in each kiss. I'm ok with just the hello, quick peck kiss when audience is pg material. I think what gets me the most, is those kisses that are just a bit passionate(nibbles lip, tongue, while hand possesses my neck). They leave me shook up, wanting more, desire rolling through my body as he leaves out the door to return home later. Those kisses that have me thinking of what we'll do later that night are the absolute best to me. So, yeah, I love to be teased and pleased, lol!

                          Short answer. I want change, not the same ole same ole. I want to feel his desire for me in a kiss. Doesn't have to be every single time, but to know there's an effort to show me(that I'm the one), like for an extra few seconds to look into my eyes before our lips meet is awesome and weakens my knees.
                          Be a reflection of what you'd like to see in others.
                          If you want love, give love.
                          If you want honesty, give honesty.
                          If you want respect, give respect.
                          You get in return, what you give.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Pirate View Post
                            What do you want in a kiss?
                            Great question Pirate,

                            Personally, I love kissing; whether it's just an affectionate little peck or a full on passionate kiss; a promise of things to come. (no pun intended). For me, the perfect passionate kiss is not too dry, not too wet but somewhere in-between. (I sound like Goldilocks ) I like a bit of teasing (licking and nipping my lips) mixed in with a gently probing tongue. When things get a little hot 'n' heavy, I enjoy it when my hubby lightly sucks on my tongue, gently rubs and flicks his tongue over the roof of my mouth (I can feel the sensation all the way down there) before plunging his tongue in my mouth - but not too deeply, I don't want his tongue down my throat.

                            I think there is a real art to kissing a woman and it is an act that often falls by the wayside in favour of sexual acts that provide more immediate...ummm...gratification. What many men fail to realize is that a women may actually orgasm from kissing alone.

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by T.P.W. View Post
                              Great question Pirate,

                              Personally, I love kissing; whether it's just an affectionate little peck or a full on passionate kiss; a promise of things to come. (no pun intended). For me, the perfect passionate kiss is not too dry, not too wet but somewhere in-between. (I sound like Goldilocks ) I like a bit of teasing (licking and nipping my lips) mixed in with a gently probing tongue. When things get a little hot 'n' heavy, I enjoy it when my hubby lightly sucks on my tongue, gently rubs and flicks his tongue over the roof of my mouth (I can feel the sensation all the way down there) before plunging his tongue in my mouth - but not too deeply, I don't want his tongue down my throat.

                              I think there is a real art to kissing a woman and it is an act that often falls by the wayside in favour of sexual acts that provide more immediate...ummm...gratification. What many men fail to realize is that a women may actually orgasm from kissing alone.
                              Awesome description TPW
                              Be a reflection of what you'd like to see in others.
                              If you want love, give love.
                              If you want honesty, give honesty.
                              If you want respect, give respect.
                              You get in return, what you give.

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