GF Orgasms & 'Two Stage Sex'

**Boner** · 12-15-2013

Hi all, just got some of my experiences to share regarding sex with my girlfriend.

I've been seeing her for 4 years, and we have sex pretty regularly. The thing is, she has trouble reaching orgasm (this has been apparent since an early stage) so I made it my target to find out what I had to do to get her off.

We did a lot of experimenting, sex from different angles, oral, fingering, and after a while I found out - or rather, we both found out - that she can cum from clitoral stimulation, mainly from oral but we can get there with fingers too. At first we were both happy now that we could both reach orgasm with each other and she was delighted I had taken the time to find out what pleases her. As we are both fairly young she had had little sexual experience in the past

That was at first though. Now I feel our sex life is suffering because of it. She can orgasm from clitoral stimulation ONLY, it's like she has no nerves inside her vagina, no G spot to speak of, which is how most other girls I've been with have got off. I know this probably isn't too uncommon, but she can't make herself cum, nor can she cum whilst I'm inside her and I rub her clit at the same time (we've tried on many occasions)

That's where the 'two stage sex' comes from. Stage 1 - I caress her entire body with my hands and mouth(which we both extremely enjoy it has to be said - probably the best part of our sex, for me) and it finishes up usually with me going down on her until SHE orgasms. Stage 2 - I penetrate her and we have sex until I orgasm. It's like there's no mutual connection. Stage 1 is more for her and Stage 2 is more for me. She can't seem to cum if we have sex for a bit then I stimulate her clit afterwards. I don't know what else to try but sex has just become predictable and dull recently.

I've rambled a bit more than I intended, apologies.

**Boner** · 12-15-2013

My contributions on here never seem to provoke much of a reaction haha.

*Sigh*

**MrB8** · 12-15-2013

Hey Boner,

Thanks for your contributions, I'm sure you'll get plenty of responses soon.

I wouldn't say she has no nerves inside her vagina, it is not easy for most women to have vaginal orgasms without previous experience on her or her partners side, you need to be reassuring and not pressing, also you need to know what your doing and have some deep knowledge about the vaginal anatomy, this site has a wealth of information on that already and with the help of the ladies you can get a better understanding.

It takes time for her to learn and get acquainted and comfortable with her body, just as much as you need to learn her too

**draggin** · 12-15-2013

The rule about relationships and orgams is ... there are no rules. Sex is fun. Y'all got it figured out. Hey, to each is their own. Plus, who's to say things won't change for the better? I noticed my wife orgams more now than she did years ago. So there you go ... just have fun and let the orgams happen as they may.

**somF** · 01-10-2014

Have you ever tried using toys of any sort to stimulate her clit while having sex. I know my girlfriend was similar where she would never climax any other way then oral stimulation. One toy that works very well is the Hitachi/Magic Wand it offers a very strong stimulus and can easily be used during sex because its a longer toy.

Good Luck

**aBone2pick** · 01-10-2014

Take orgasms completely off the table for a few weeks. Try tantric sex and just indulge in the sexual experience. This will do two thjngs for you. First, it will teach you that sex can be amazing without orgasms. Second, it will make her significantly more relaxed during sex, which might inadvertantly lead to tearing down mental blocks that could be preventing her from experiencing orgasms during penetration.

**jstane45** · 01-10-2014

I dealt with that issue with a girl once. Not sure if it could work for you, but this is what we did.

We just continued with the manual and oral stuff and right before she would orgasm I would make penetration. After a while she could get the orgasm after penetration, and then we would just make penetration earlier and earlier until eventually she didn't need any manual or oral at all.

Just what we did, not sure if it may work for you or not. Hope it turns out well for you though.