The "Player"

[Mr. TeenieWeenie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr. TeenieWeenie]

I'm generally not concerned with other people's opinions on sexual subjects because there is a multitude of opinions that may or may not be logically justified. I also dislike labeling people and situations in general because it enables us to categorize and assimilate things that sometimes may not be the similar, but for the sake of understanding I will label somethings in this post.

I want to ask women what they think of players.

Firstly we cannot deny the existence of a double standard, whether we want to accept it or not. Personally I try to look past the double standard and not judge people who like having casual sex.

I would like to know what you guys think of a man who likes to have sex with lots of different women?

Obviously if this guy is lying to girls about his feeling and deliberately trying to make girls fall in love, then I can see there is an ethical issue involved. Lets just say he isn't, he is a fun, attractive, resourceful, popular, rich guy(pick your poison) and he happens to take an interest in you. He may or may not blatantly push or ask for sex but you know that there is a physical attraction between you and him, and there is a chance that the two of you given the time and place would have sex.

At no time did he ever say he wanted to be with you, did he say he loved you or had feeling for you greater than that of friends. Here comes my label: He is the nice guy who just wants to have no strings attached sex with many women. Perhaps he is willing to have pseudo-relationships, for the girl's sake(so she doesn't feel like a slut), but is up front with her about what the relationship is.

I did want the majority of the responses coming from women but since this is a penis enlarging site I suspect it will be mostly from guys, anyway, as men what prevents us(besides religion and self-consciousness) from seeking lifestyles like these even if it's just for a while? There needs to be some logical tie to why it maybe destructive for yourself, or for others.

Edit: I think it would be interesting to see why a man does it. My reason is because I like sex. The thought of having sex with different girls, of different ethnicities, social, and economical backgrounds makes me excited. The first time you have sex with a girl is very exciting. Seeing her in public(having a secret relationship) and knowing that you're having sex with her is very satisfying. Seeing a girl that you've never seen naked and just wondering if she would be good in bed, wondering if she would be submissive or not, wondering if she likes to give blowjobs. Damn I'm making myself horny. Ok that's enough for now

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,what you guys think of a man who likes to have sex with lots of different women?,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,

As you said

there is a multitude of opinions

so In my very humble opinion, He has not met the right one, a lady who is more than a billion, one to fill his heart and sate his soul.

Personally, It's either one or not at all, to each their own, and I am all for diversity, that's just my opinion.

I can't see what can more than one lady do that a single one can't, I believe that one special lady is ultimately the best any man can ever be so lucky to have, so settling down is best.




6 Reasons Why Married Sex Is Better

[Mr. TeenieWeenie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr. TeenieWeenie]

As you said so In my very humble opinion, He has not met the right one, a lady who is more than a billion, one to fill his heart and sate his soul.

Personally, It's either one or not at all, to each their own, and I am all for diversity, that's just my opinion.

I can't see what can more than one lady do that a single one can't, so settling down is best.

I absolutely agree that yes every person will have their opinions, I guess what I meant to ask is do most people judge guys when their having sex with many girls and possibly at the same time.

[heretohelp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close heretohelp]

I have no ill wishes against people who like to engage in frequent unattached sex with different people be they male or female. As long as they don't lie about their intentions, mislead with their behaviour or steal other people's partners then I can respect it as their own personal choice.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

6 Reasons Why Married Sex Is Better

I didn't read the OP's post, cause it was too wordy for my taste ... but this link did catch my eye! Once again B8, your advice shines brighter than ever!!

[BigO AdministratorPEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close BigO]

I have no ill wishes against people who like to engage in frequent unattached sex with different people be they male or female. As long as they don't lie about their intentions, mislead with their behaviour or steal other people's partners then I can respect it as their own personal choice.

This is exactly how I feel. Well said heretohelp

[kirkoloft Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close kirkoloft]

I have no ill wishes against people who like to engage in frequent unattached sex with different people be they male or female. As long as they don't lie about their intentions, mislead with their behaviour or steal other people's partners then I can respect it as their own personal choice.

Hence the term player. They don't take no for an answer and use any trick possible to get you into bed. You would never be able to know whether they're lying or not unless you did a thorough background check on them. An ex told me the story of a player who married her because she wouldn't give and turned her life into a living hell after fucking her numerous times. It turns out he was already married and had numerous girls duped both before and at the same time he was with her. We only call serial killers psychopaths but these people also seem psychopathic enough to me.

[heretohelp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close heretohelp]

Obviously this topic has a lot of emotional significance for you as I'm sure it does for many of us. It's unfortunate that so much dishonesty goes on in the world. Please note that I didn't mention the term 'player' anywhere in my post specifically because it means various things to different people; I understand the OP to be about someone who was extremely upfront and blunt about their intentions. Naturally my response to the sort of technique you're describing is very different.

[anonymity Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close anonymity]

I absolutely agree that yes every person will have their opinions, I guess what I meant to ask is do most people judge guys when their having sex with many girls and possibly at the same time.

Right/wrong or good/bad the answer to this question is yes.
But if you don't care about other peoples opinions as stated in your OP then who cares?

[kirkoloft Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close kirkoloft]

Obviously this topic has a lot of emotional significance for you as I'm sure it does for many of us. It's unfortunate that so much dishonesty goes on in the world. Please note that I didn't mention the term 'player' anywhere in my post specifically because it means various things to different people; I understand the OP to be about someone who was extremely upfront and blunt about their intentions. Naturally my response to the sort of technique you're describing is very different.

Do you honestly believe that someone can actually pull this off without lying about his intentions? What he needs to say in order to be honest is something along the lines of "I don't give a fuck a bout you as a person. To me you're only a piece of ass with a nice face that I want to fuck just like the rest of the bitches that I'm fucking." How far do you think that would get them? You are just fooling yourself by thinking that there is a shred of decency or honesty in these people. It goes both ways. I have been used by a woman who lead me into believing that she was in love with me while I was just a dildo to her. You wouldn't believe how much that experience made me hate myself and how hard it was for me to get over it.

[Mr. TeenieWeenie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr. TeenieWeenie]

Hence the term player. They don't take no for an answer and use any trick possible to get you into bed. You would never be able to know whether they're lying or not unless you did a thorough background check on them. An ex told me the story of a player who married her because she wouldn't give and turned her life into a living hell after fucking her numerous times. It turns out he was already married and had numerous girls duped both before and at the same time he was with her. We only call serial killers psychopaths but these people also seem psychopathic enough to me.

It's these guys that give "players" a bad rep. I may sound like a feminist limp dick asshole but these guys make me sick. This situation is kinda funny mostly because I'm sick but damn, Imagine if he was that determined to find a cure for cancer lol

[heretohelp Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close heretohelp]

Of course I believe it, I've seen it happen. It's perfectly possible for two consenting adults to have an encounter based solely upon sex. Tact can happen without lying - for instance, an option is to say 'I'm not interested in relationships or emotional connections right now. I find you very attractive and if you feel the same way then I don't think we should miss this chance to enjoy ourselves'. Not very smooth, but hey, I still do the yawn, stretch and arm over the shoulders trick. You don't have to be a liar or a morally questionable character to have unattached sex.

[Mr. TeenieWeenie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr. TeenieWeenie]

Do you honestly believe that someone can actually pull this off without lying about his intentions? What he needs to say in order to be honest is something along the lines of "I don't give a fuck a bout you as a person. To me you're only a piece of ass with a nice face that I want to fuck just like the rest of the bitches that I'm fucking." How far do you think that would get them? You are just fooling yourself by thinking that there is a shred of decency or honesty in these people. It goes both ways. I have been used by a woman who lead me into believing that she was in love with me while I was just a dildo to her. You wouldn't believe how much that experience made me hate myself and how hard it was for me to get over it.

Wow, I am very sorry you had to experience such a horrible situation but to be honest, why is seeing someone as just a piece of meat a bad thing? Let me explain: In the situation you were involved someone was lied too, you. What if two people met that had the exact same intentions as each other; Just to fuck. I mean after all the entire reason guys approach girls can't be anything else but physical attraction. Therefor all relationships are built on lust, what is so bad about it if they don't get past that? I also believe that you don't JUST have to see each other as pieces of meat, can't you also genuinely enjoy each other's company? hence friends with benefits? Can't you enjoy multiple peoples company? multiple friend with benefit relationships? I don't see the two being mutually exclusive.

[draggin Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close draggin]

I guess what I meant to ask is do most people judge guys when their having sex with many girls and possibly at the same time.

YES. I DO.

I judge promiscuous (sleeping with lots of women) and immoral (more than one girl at one time) guys. It is my opinion that "playing" is only "cool" to immature idiots. There isn't anything cool about leading a girl on just so you can get your rocks off, or ruining a girls life by causing an unwanted pregnancy or forcing a "pro-life" girl to become a single mother and sacrifice her future so she can raise a fatherless child. Yeah, you better believe I judge that! A player, according to my brain cells, is disrespectful and selfishness behavior. Not cool. Oh well, I suppose that's why things like venereal disease, divorce lawyers, and hookers have a purpose in this world.

[Mr. TeenieWeenie Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mr. TeenieWeenie]

Right/wrong or good/bad the answer to this question is yes.
But if you don't care about other peoples opinions as stated in your OP then who cares?

True I was just wondering what these judgements were. Do people think I'm unethical for this or something? Not that is was going to change my desire or the pursuit of my desires but lately I've been made to feel like shit for the things I want.