Thick/Big girls and size preference?

[TheTinyGuy Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheTinyGuy]

Hey,

I don't know if there are girls in here and even if there are some girls here, I'd be curious to know what in the world are they doing in a penis enlargement forum. Anyway, on the subject, do big girls prefer big penises? My gf and I are currently in a long distance relationship and we never had sex. She is what one would call a "BBW" (Big Beautiful Woman). She turns me on a lot and she says that I do the same for her. But I always worry about my penis not being enough for her.

In case you are wondering, I am about 6" long ( bone pressed ) and 4.75-8 inches. She says nice things about it and often says its big. The trouble is that my intelligence gets in the way. I know that it isn't big.I worry that when we start having sex, I won't be able to satisfy her enough. Don't get me wrong, I know that a big girl's vagina isn't bigger that a smaller girl's. But she is really curvy and plump so I think that it makes the matter worse for my penis, which is already not big.

As a positive note, I must add this: Once she told me that I should not worry AT ALL about my penis. Although she would like it that I still have it, she said that even if I lost my penis she would still be with me as long as my hands and mouth are still working. She wasn't lying about it. I believe that because she has always told me that it is difficult for her to orgasm from penetration. She prefers stimulation down there or in her nipple region more than penetration for making her orgasm.

Anyway, I do not want to keep feeling like I won't be able to satisfy her because she is a big girl and I don't have a big penis.

Any thoughts on the subject matter?

[Golf1094 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Golf1094]

I think your girlfriend seems really nice. She's told you plenty enough to know what she prefers in terms of sex. If she wasn't lying to you about if your penis being gone and her staying with you after that, then why would you worry about your penis size? She says she likes nipple, and oral stimulation more than penetration so I don't think you have anything to worry about except knowing what to do with your hands and mouth.

My suggestion? Relax and enjoy the comfort of your girlfriend and explore with her the pleasures of sex

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

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There is no correlation between the size of the vagina and any other body part, just as there is no correlation between the size of the penis and any other body part.

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Your size is NOT small, it is on the big side, only you and your brain perceive it that way, because of the angle from which you see it, maybe from porn (if you watch it) or just insecurity.

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Camaro,

Let me ask you something. You say you have no problem accepting an honest compliment. Good for you. So how do you know when a compliment is genuine and sincere rather than an attempt at say, false flattery?

More importantly, in accepting an honest compliment did you simply say "thank you" or did you respond to said compliment in a similar manner as many men (and women) often do:

1. Ignore it; either because you didn't hear it or because you didn't recognize that you were being complimented.

2. Deny the compliment outright.

3. Debate/argue against deserving the given praise.

4. Self-Insult by downplaying the praise by offering self-deprecating remarks.

5. Question the person's judgment, taste, etc. in offering the compliment.

6. Whittle down a broader compliment into a smaller one.

7. Boomerang the compliment by giving one back.

8. Ask for additional reassurance because he/she has trouble accepting the compliment and needs confirmation.

9. De-value the actual compliment; stating that whatever is being complimented is not as great as it was made out to be.

10. Transfer the credit/praise to others.

Both genders deflect and reject compliments all the time, Camaro. And according to Randy Paterson, author of The Assertiveness Handbook, these are the primary reasons:


Fear of being seen as conceited. This is by far the most common reason people deflect a compliment. They worry that by agreeing with someone else’s praise of them, they are essentially praising themselves and thus being smug.


The need to restore “balance.” Since a compliment is a positive act, you may feel a psychological need to balance things out by either negating the praise through deflection, or by quickly returning the compliment.


The desire to avoid “indebtedness.” This is the worry that if someone does something nice for you like offering a compliment, you will then “owe” them something nice in return and will thus be indebted to them in some way.


Having low self-esteem. If someone says something nice about you that you don’t believe about yourself, your immediate reaction will be to deny or disbelieve it. You can’t integrate the complimenter’s positive view of you into your own negative one, so you look for ways to find their assessment faulty – i.e., they missed the mistakes you made or they don’t have good judgment.


Inability to be assertive. Guys who struggle with being assertive often find accepting compliments to be a struggle. They have a hard time taking ownership of their positive qualities and feel like acknowledging praise isn’t something a “nice guy” would do.


Suspicion of motives. You may reject someone’s compliments if you’re suspicious that they’re just trying to flatter you and butter you up for some reason. This suspicion may be legitimate or it may come from an overly cynical worldview and be rooted in trust issues.


Desire to look even better. People will sometimes use false modesty as a way of trying to make themselves look even better.

Perhaps the reason people are so cautious about giving compliments is because people are so cautious about receiving them...

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She is obviously into you, likes you and your penis, and it is very common for ladies to have difficulties experiencing vaginal orgasms, instead of clitoral orgasms, I suggest you believe her, be confident (you really have nothing to worry about), and learn new techniques to become a better lover.

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[TheTinyGuy Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheTinyGuy]

I think your girlfriend seems really nice. She's told you plenty enough to know what she prefers in terms of sex. If she wasn't lying to you about if your penis being gone and her staying with you after that, then why would you worry about your penis size? She says she likes nipple, and oral stimulation more than penetration so I don't think you have anything to worry about except knowing what to do with your hands and mouth.

My suggestion? Relax and enjoy the comfort of your girlfriend and explore with her the pleasures of sex

Hey Golf,

Thanks for the response. I know what you are talking about. The trouble is that "I" feel horrible about it. I feel like she is settling for my small thing for other reasons and would be more satisfied if I had a big one. I find her incredibly hot and would love it if I could convince myself that I can give her something that is of the right size. I just feel insecure about it.


TheTinyGuy

[Mrs. workin_4_it Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mrs. workin_4_it]

As a woman on the site, I can tell you that I am on here to support my husband and to help other men in the process (to answer questions like this). =)

There is NO need to worry about your size. Your penis is not small according to your measurements. If a finger can get a woman off, why would you think your cock couldn't. There are a lot of women out there that need multiple stimulation to have an orgasm. I personally prefer a vibrator on my clit or having him bite my nipples.

It's more about technique then size for most. Men think more about their size then women do. We just care if it works for us. If you make her cum, then you have succeeded.

Doing PE will help you out in making you bigger. Shaving before you see her for the first time will also help. It's all about confidence!!! If she gets "the vibe" that you don't like your penis, how will that make her feel???

I would suggest her on top or doggie style as she is a bigger woman, she will have more of a fat pad.

If you need more help, please don't hesitate to ask. That is why we/I am here. =)

Best wishes.

[TheTinyGuy Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheTinyGuy]

Ladies are welcomed here and their insight, input and advice are all so much appreciated.




There is no correlation between the size of the vagina and any other body part, just as there is no correlation between the size of the penis and any other body part.

----

Your size is NOT small, it is on the big side, only you and your brain perceive it that way, because of the angle from which you see it, maybe from porn (if you watch it) or just insecurity.

----


She is obviously into you, likes you and your penis, and it is very common for ladies to have difficulties experiencing vaginal orgasms, instead of clitoral orgasms, I suggest you believe her, be confident (you really have nothing to worry about), and learn new techniques to become a better lover.

Thanks for the post. I will confess that pornography has played a HUGE role in my view of what a penis should be like. On top of that, I have another thread here where I explained the phenomena arising out of my disproportionately large hands. I never get to hold it and feel any size due to that.

Thank you for all the links. You guys are really helpful.

TheTinyGuy

[TheTinyGuy Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close TheTinyGuy]

As a woman on the site, I can tell you that I am on here to support my husband and to help other men in the process (to answer questions like this). =)

There is NO need to worry about your size. Your penis is not small according to your measurements. If a finger can get a woman off, why would you think your cock couldn't. There are a lot of women out there that need multiple stimulation to have an orgasm. I personally prefer a vibrator on my clit or having him bite my nipples.

It's more about technique then size for most. Men think more about their size then women do. We just care if it works for us. If you make her cum, then you have succeeded.

Doing PE will help you out in making you bigger. Shaving before you see her for the first time will also help. It's all about confidence!!! If she gets "the vibe" that you don't like your penis, how will that make her feel???

I would suggest her on top or doggie style as she is a bigger woman, she will have more of a fat pad.

If you need more help, please don't hesitate to ask. That is why we/I am here. =)

Best wishes.

Its nice to know that you are supporting your man.

When I asked about the point of women being on this site, I was assuming that I only have to address users who have no other known people on this site they wish to come here for. For example, a random female joining the forum.

My gf is similar to you in that regard. She likes clitoral stimulation, nipple stimulation and also likes oral ( makes me the happiest man on the face of this planet for the kinds of things she likes).

When I gave it some rational thought, I came to the conclusion that I have to stop focusing on vaginal penetration only. I must always be aware that her triggers are different and be prepared to exploit them.

I will make sure that my penis are is always clean shaved whenever I am around her. I am thinking about trying out the beginner PE routine someone linked me on some other thread. Did your man get any noticeable size difference from his effort? I hope he did.

I was concerned about her fat pad making my penis seem even smaller. It'll be so sad to be turned on so much by the one I love and then not being able to satisfy her enough.

I will start new threads if I need to discuss women issues on this forum. Thanks for being so helpful.


TheTinyGuy

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

Your gf prefers oral, clit, and manual stimulation, so instead of worrying about your penis size, how about go off and learn how to rock her socks off in all of those other things?

[kickinthemebs Senior Member Member of the Month Feb 2014 Find all posts View Profile Close kickinthemebs]

In relation to her fat pad/lack of penetration etc, look up what positions would be best for BBW girls. I know even with my length some positions just don't do anything for my girl because there is not enough friction or thrust or whatever. Instead of worrying about it and asking guys on here, your best bet is just to practice, see which positions both of you like best. There is absolutely no point in trying to guess before you have even had sex. Practice makes perfect and all that jazz.

[Growingeachday Member Find all posts View Profile Close Growingeachday]

Hey Tiny Guy!

There is great hope for you, I can tell just from what you have said! But before I get to that, let me just say that I am writing this not only to support you but also to remind myself of something I know to be true, but too often forget.

When it comes to great lovers and great lovemaking, we guys tend to put way too much pressure, focus, and responsibility on our penis! Think of your lovemaking as a great production for a moment--a broadway play or an amazing movie! Even if your penis has a staring role, he will have dozens of supporting players, not to mention musical score, cinematography, staging, props, etc. to make this an amazing experience!

We often forget that our brains are our largest sexual organ! And then there are our ears, our mouths, our eyes, our fingers, our skin!!! At our best, we are one large sexual organ--capable of providing extreme pleasure!

I wish Casanova were a PE member! I'd be willing to bet that if he were, we would find out that his penis size was pretty normal! What we might learn from him is that he LOVED women and knew how to make them feel loved! We might learn that he knew how to really listen to a woman; that he knew how to speak words of seduction and romance; that he knew how to really be PRESENT in the moment and savor every sensuous and sexy experience with his lover!

Now, getting back to you: first of all, you are NOT a tiny man! You are a Casanova-sized man! : - )

And you have already exhibited several Casanova-like traits! Your love and enthusiasm for your lover's voluptuous figure shows that you may already be using your largest sexual organ to bring her exquisite pleasure! Drink her in! Enjoy every sensuous moment with her, and I can almost guarantee you that she will enjoy it too! Don't put all the pressure on your penis; but let him show his appreciation for her sexiness too!

And having said that, I'm here for the same reason as you: I want to give my lover MORE! And there's nothing wrong with that! Casanova might have done the same; but he wouldn't have waited until he got to 8x6 before becoming a great lover!

[Mrs. workin_4_it Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Mrs. workin_4_it]

Its nice to know that you are supporting your man.

When I asked about the point of women being on this site, I was assuming that I only have to address users who have no other known people on this site they wish to come here for. For example, a random female joining the forum.

I only know of a few single women on the site, most have their hubby's on the site as well, and others are here for info for their hubby/bf. The wonderful TPW is married and her hubby chooses not to join. As she is a sex blogger, that is why she is here helping. As for the single ladies, I'm not really sure why they are here.

My gf is similar to you in that regard. She likes clitoral stimulation, nipple stimulation and also likes oral ( makes me the happiest man on the face of this planet for the kinds of things she likes).

For most women it's not just the penetration that gets them going. It has been said on this site many times, it's not only about the penis, you need to know how to use it.

When I gave it some rational thought, I came to the conclusion that I have to stop focusing on vaginal penetration only. I must always be aware that her triggers are different and be prepared to exploit them.

As long as your woman is satisfied, that's all that matters. Regardless if it's your penis, mouth, fingers, toys, etc...

I will make sure that my penis are is always clean shaved whenever I am around her. I am thinking about trying out the beginner PE routine someone linked me on some other thread. Did your man get any noticeable size difference from his effort? I hope he did.

His "newbie gains" were noticeable. And after a few months or so I could feel and see the difference. Don't expect it overnight and don't get upset if you don't gain as fast as you want to. It takes time.

I was concerned about her fat pad making my penis seem even smaller. It'll be so sad to be turned on so much by the one I love and then not being able to satisfy her enough.

It's all about positions my friend. Once you find the right ones, you will both satisfied and you won't be so self conscious about your size.

I will start new threads if I need to discuss women issues on this forum. Thanks for being so helpful.

There are forums for these types of questions. They are A Woman's Perspective and Relationship Forum.

You are very welcome! Ask any question at anytime. =)

[Dick Whammy Retired Moderator Member of the month Jan 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Dick Whammy]

Did you ever see shallow Hal? If not, please rent it and watch it. Look at your gal for all the beauty that she possesses and not what you think her shoe size may be. (penis requirement) Love doesn't always care about genital size and conditions. I would love my gal if she had things wrong with her that by normal standards would be questionable. So look past the "possible" insecurity, and count the days till you are in each others arms! :-)

[Virom Banned Find all posts View Profile Close Virom]

There is NO need to worry about your size. Your penis is not small according to your measurements. If a finger can get a woman off, why would you think your cock couldn't. There are a lot of women out there that need multiple stimulation to have an orgasm. I personally prefer a vibrator on my clit or having him bite my nipples.

A finger can bend, a penis can't. You use a vibrator? Might be the reason of why you need multiple stimulation to get off. The vibrator has dezentized your clit making it respond less to anything that isn't a vibrator.

[HammerTime89 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close HammerTime89]

And here we go

[burtybasset Retired Moderator Member of the Month May 2014PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close burtybasset]

Hey TheTinyGuy my wife is very much similar to your lady, she really doesn't seem too bothered about penetration either. My wife is very petite also, so when we do have penetrative sex, very few times are we successful. She always says it hurts and tries pushing me back with her legs so I can't fully penetrate, even though I spend ages on foreplay (which always gets her off and she's plenty lubricated).

So as you can see at least you get to enjoy penetrative sex with your lady, I know I prefer it to manual or oral stimulation, but I'll take whatever I can get and like you I try to be a gentleman and put the lady first.

Reps to you Growingeachday!