Intercourse Question?

[RIB2211]

I've always wondered how to start intercourse for the first time with your girlfriend. I mean, do you simply ask the girl "do you want to have sex?", do you wait for her to ask you in the heat of the moment, or do you just put a condom on and go for it?

Stupid question? Yeah, I know. But I'd rather not take a trip down awkward lane and kill the mood by doing the wrong thing...

[HotRod]

I know you're asking for some female insight, but I believe it comes down ultimately to what's going on between you and the woman you want to have sex with. Asking women about this might not be very helpful because by doing so, you're not trusting in your natural instincts.

There are many ways it can happen, but probably the best is to let it happen naturally. Keep some condoms on your person when you know you're going to be alone with her. You don't want to be in the heat of the moment without protection. STDs are on the rise in America, so beware.

Something to avoid here is taking too much of this upon yourself. She's 50% of the equation and knows about as much as you do. Men tend to believe that as initiators they are supposed to just be smooth operators even without having much experience with women. Don't worry about it. Just keep in mind what you want - far sexier to her than asking her for a green light. You'll feel sexier too and more confident and chill too. Women don't want to be asked, they want to be taken up by the moment.

When you boil it down to human mating behavior, if she's melting, it doesn't really matter what you do. If she doesn't like it, she'll let you know, but don't say you're sorry. (I could write another long post on my reasons for giving this advice.) Arousal escalates naturally toward your penis being in her vagina. Ideally, you both end up laying next to each other after an amazing mutual orgasm, her saying, "Hey, you put your chocolate in my peanut butter," and you saying, "Hey, you got your peanut butter on my chocolate." (1970s television reference)

Usually I've found that women are quite aggressive. If you're making out, and she's breathing deeply, closing her eyes, and enjoying herself, she'll start making moves of her own. If she does anything at all aggressive, it's on baby, so just keep moving forward slowly. USUALLY, sex is best when you BOTH have an opportunity to heat up slowly.

I would say this though: in the heat of the moment never ask, "Do you want to have sex now?" You're better off taking her hand and putting it on your crotch or telling her, "I want you." Tell her what you want either by doing or saying. Kissing and petting and stroking usually leads somewhere quite naturally if you let it happen. There's no need to politely ask if she wants to have sex. Listen to her body. She'll tell you. If you heat things up with making out and touching her in all the right places, look out! She might become extremely aggressive - and this isn't always a good thing. Women can be roughshod lovers when they're out of control too, just like guys can.

Just keep in mind that you're going to be there with her in the moment and things can develop in 1,001 different ways. You'll hopefully be talking to each other and letting each other know what you're enjoying about the moment. If she's willing to hang out and make out, you're probably not far away from sex.

If you're both in the mood, you'd have to do something pretty far out to kill it.

That being said, the best thing you can do is to do SOMETHING, even if it doesn't go well, you learn something invaluable about mating. Maybe another time, you'll get together with her and things will go better. It's not like you've only got one shot. There are a lot of women in this world and they're not all the same.

[PEkid]

Great advice hotrod.

[C.Phantasy]

I agree with HotRod.

[MrBigDick]

Excellend advice hotrod and great 70's commercial reference (I was kid in the 70's and DO remember that Reeses commercial lol!!).

The only thing I could add to this is that she'll likely be just as horny as you and if she's into you, trust me, she'll let you know she wants you to take her.

[Nikki]

I've always wondered how to start intercourse for the first time with your girlfriend. I mean, do you simply ask the girl "do you want to have sex?", do you wait for her to ask you in the heat of the moment, or do you just put a condom on and go for it?

Stupid question? Yeah, I know. But I'd rather not take a trip down awkward lane and kill the mood by doing the wrong thing...

You have asked a very good question. First, you must understand that all woman are different. What one woman likes, isn't necessarily what another one will like. Also, most women need for you to "get them into the mood". Take your time and let her warm up to your advances. When you are kissing her and you try to take some of her clothes off, she will let you know if she wants you to continue. For example, when I was with a guy and he got me into the mood, while he was trying to take my jeans off, I would help him by lifting my butt off the sofa so he could pull them off. If I didn't want to do anything with him, when he put his hand on my jeans to unbutton them, I would push his hand away. Never ask her does she want to have sex. Let her actions tell you!! Good luck.

[going411by7]

Great advice here.

[JohnSmith011]

yup hotrod and nikki pretty much hit the nail on the head

[growing4her]

Some good advice in this thread . I cant count the number of girls who started out with "we cant go all the way talk" when we sat on my parents couch and ended with me inside them. You have to focus on whats making them hot and just keep making them hotter and hotter ,till they cant do anything but beg you to give them the cock.

[NP97]

Worked like this for me and my ex. Started with us kissing on couch, got to me rubbing her through panties.... eventually some boobie sucking, then I was fingering her, and then she told me to put it in. There is kinda a natural progression. Once they are horny enough, they will ask for you to give them it.