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    New member on this site, and need an opinion. Sorry if this will be a little long to start, but I would like to give the full story to understand what I'm asking. After finding this site I started researching alternate ways to increase my penis size in preparation for a 30 day business trip for the month of Oct. I wanted to add the BM to my routine and was very skeptical of actual gains being accomplished since I didn't see very much results from jelqing and stretching alone. While on the trip I purchased the BM Hercules. I measured but didn't write it down and don't remember exactly, it was close to BPEL 6.25 x EG 5 before starting. I figured this was the best time to start using a BM to surprise my spouse when I returned (more on that later). The month of Oct was a rough start since I've never done any type pumping before. I was sore a couple times in the beginning, but as recommended I rested a few days then extra easy jelqing before restarting with the BM.

    After my return the first week of Nov. I worked up to jelqing, stretching & pumping
    normally 5 days a week and resting 2 (sometimes 3). I do most of my exercises in the evening (to this day without my wife's knowledge). Because of our work schedules I have about 3-4 hours alone. I warm up for 10 min with a heating pad followed by jelqing and stretching for a few minutes before putting on BM. I've worked up to two 10 min sessions with some jelqing in between pumping. On Thursday 18 Dec I added a third 10 min session and it kept the fuller feeling longer into the next day.

    This is where I would like the women on here to provide there opinion(s), as stated she still doesn't know I am using the BM. We've been married 24 years, we have sex on average 2-3 times a week. Upon my return and our first sexual encounter she mentioned she was a little sore the next day. I said probably from us being apart for a month. Then a couple times later a little extra lube was needed (especially after a pumping session). She slowed me down a couple times during the initial penetration from her being a little tighter than normal, then after a few strokes she was ok. I'm thinking to myself, she has to know something is different, but wondering why she is not saying anything. I've noticed her looking at my penis after the shower while my penis is flaccid (no noticeable changes), but she still doesn't say anything. She does't hold or fondle my penis nor does she do BJ's, so she is not checking or inspecting up close. I'm excited about my gains but not sure how to share it with her that I started using a BM. Your help is greatly appreciated.

    Start: 10/10/2014 BPEL 6.25 x EG 5 (not exact and wasn't consistent with measurements in the beginning).
    Now: 12/20/2014 7.25 x 5.8
    Goal: 8 x 6
    T-Gotro
    Junior Member
    Last edited by T-Gotro; 12-20-2014, 12:44 PM.

  • #2
    No offense, but I think your starting measurements must be a little off or you are extremely lucky. A gain of 1x0.8 in 2 months is more than most can gain in a year (or more).
    Original/Current Stats:
    2014-09-01: BPEL 6.8"/NBPEL 6" MEG 5.0", BPFL 5"/NBPFL 4" FG 4.4"
    2019-03-16: BPEL 8"/NBPEL 6.75" MEG 5.2", BPFL 6.75"/NBPFL 5.5" FG 4.5"

    Goals:
    Realistic: BPEL 8.5"/NBPEL 7.5" MEG 5.5"
    Optimistic: BPEL 9"/NBPEL 8" MEG 5.75"
    Dream: BPEL 10"/NBPEL 9" MEG 6.5"

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    • #3
      Okay if I understand all that correctly, your question is that you've started using a BathMate, have made some gains, and you're wondering how to tell your wife that you've been doing PE. Right?

      I'm not sure that you need a woman's perspective on that. I mean from my perspective I'd hope that my SO would just be open and honest about it so that I could be supportive of his efforts. But honestly I think you're probably better off asking the men who have told their wives/girlfriends how they did it and what the reaction was.

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      • #4
        Read this--> How did you tell your wife/gf?

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        • #5
          Personally I think it is important to keep an open relationship with your wife. She may not want you to get any bigger. Not all women want their man to have a big dick. You may be perfect for her now and getting larger may put a strain on your sexual life. Or she may like the idea and want to be a part of it. It turns my girlfriend on watching and helping me exercise. She loves the idea of me getting girthier. However at 7" she would prefer I gain 0 length. To be honest I think sometimes she wishes I were a 1/2" shorter. With that being said penis exercise can be done for libido and simply overall health of the penis without enlarging it so even if she doesn't want you bigger she may like the idea of more frequent, harder erections. However you will never know for sure until you talk to her about it. Remember this is your wife, your best friend, and your lover. You should be able to tell or ask her anything.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by T-Gotro View Post
            I'm thinking to myself, she has to know something is different, but wondering why she is not saying anything.
            Honestly, because she probably doesn't realize it matters that much to you. I never made penis comments/compliments to my husband before finding the gym and realizing that it does matter to you guys.

            As far as telling your wife, the link provided a few posts ago has great info.
            Be a reflection of what you'd like to see in others.
            If you want love, give love.
            If you want honesty, give honesty.
            If you want respect, give respect.
            You get in return, what you give.

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            • #7
              I would highly recommend that you talk to her. If she is having trouble at first with your increased size she may start to have discomfort through the entire intercourse if you get any larger. That can take away from the pleaser of sex for her. If you want to make sure she is satisfied you need to ask her if she is OK with increasing your size any more.
              To totally satisfy a woman sexually is not about having a large penis, it's about being a good lover.

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              • #8
                Try look what I can do honey. What do you think?
                ALL THE WAY WITH GOOD OLE JAY!

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                • #9
                  The length measurement was the only one that I'm not exactly sure if I measured it pushed all the way to the pelvis bone as I am doing it now, the EG was exact. After the last couple of pumping session I actually reached EG of 6", but by the next morning it decreases back to 5.8. I hope you are correct that I am one of the lucky ones, as I mentioned I was expecting minimal increase/gains and didn't expect the results (now I wish I would have started this sooner). I wish I would have included the wife in the early decision so I wouldn't be in the situation I'm in now. The ideas in the link provided has a couple ways I'm considering to break the ice.

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                  • #10
                    Appreciate the response, before I started all this I could tell my penis was a little "loose" inside my wife and would ask her to flex to increase the feeling for me. About 6-8 months back while in the middle of sex I did something (wish I could remember what it was) and she said "Stop, not like you are a porn star with a big dick". From that moment on I was determined to find a way to increase the size of my penis. From her recent reactions she seems to be liking sex better than before. She has been pulling me in harder than she has ever done before and seems like she doesn't want it to end. Again I wish I was honest in the beginning so I wouldn't be in the situation I am in now.

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                    • #11
                      I feel fairly confident in saying that the "situation you're in" is likely more a product of your own fears than the reality of the situation. None of us knows you or your wife or the dynamic between you, but overall from what I've seen I don't think I've encountered many men on here saying that they've had really negative reactions from wives and girlfriends when they've told them. What you're doing is nothing to be ashamed of, it's no different than any other type of self-improvement (albeit somewhat more unconventional). Just tell her that it's something you're doing not just for you, but for her as well.

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                      • #12
                        Hey, I'm new here, male, and not highly experienced by any means but i'm with Qandisa. By putting off being open and honest to your SO, you've put yourself and her in an untenable situation. It may, in a way feel better to hide your efforts and have it noticed but honesty and communication allows both partners an honest chance to feel elated. Just as an example she may very well want you to do these exercises, at least for yourself but she may be hesitant to let you know that in case it seems insensitive of where you started off at. Her Linear thinking may differ from yours substantially, only honesty and communication will connect you in this experience. Keep a level head and hear each other out fully. Don't feel as if you need to hide it because you have been, and you want her to notice on her own. She probably has or will, but may very well attribute those differences to other things. Pointing it out to her may help you both come to enjoy it all the more simply out of recognition of the fact, Her awareness may become her arousal. Your insistence on her realization having played out may allow you to be more in tune with her needs, & subtlety elicit a tender, but deeply passionate experience thus resulting in resounding rewards. Now this may be a lot of conjecture, (& I may have been abit forward, sorry!) but I think from that you may take my point ^_- Hope I've been somewhat helpful in the matter, the best of luck to the both of you and Great work man!

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