Too deep?

[Kanaka05 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kanaka05]

My wife and I were watching porn before sex one night and began talking about how the guy in the porno wasn't going all the way in. She told me it did not feel good when I put all of my penis in her. To be honest I was quite surprised. I love the feeling of "hitting the bottom. Unfortunately, unless my wife is really horny, it is unpleasant for her both vaginal and anal. I feel bad as we have been together for over 5 yrs and she finally told me this.

Is this a normal feeling for women?

[MrB8 Senior Member Member of the Month Nov 2013 Find all posts View Profile Close MrB8]

The outer third is the most sensitive part of the vagina, where the G-Spot is located on the front wall about 2 to 3 inches deep.

There are other hot spots inside the vagina, but you need to angle your penis to reach them. It is also important to angle your penis to avoid directly hitting the cervix, which is very painful for the ladies.

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[Closed039 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed039]

My wife is 5'3 (Not sure if that says anything about her vagina). I am not that big (about 6.8").

How does that relationship function, with her being about four feet and 9 inches taller than you?

[Pegasus AdministratorPE Gym EditorPEGym Hero ☺ Admin of the Month Mar 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Pegasus]

I think that is a six and three quarter inch penis not 6 ft 8 in body.

[Cavalier Retired Super Moderator Member of the Month Feb 2015PEGym Hero Find all posts View Profile Close Cavalier]

Some women find it painful to have their cervix bumped others do not. Sometimes the deep spot can be pleasurable,but you need to use caution by using slow thrusts so not cause any pain by aggressively bumping the cervix. The idea great sex is for mutual sanctification, so talk to her about what is good for her and what is uncomfortable.

[Phoenix7672 Senior Member Member of the Month Oct 2015 Find all posts View Profile Close Phoenix7672]

One girl told me guys always bottom her out and that she was small (she also doesn't like large or even large average penises).

[Closed039 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Closed039]

I think that is a six and three quarter inch penis not 6 ft 8 in body.

Oh woops I can't believe I misread it. I thought he was saying he was 6.8 inches tall.

[this-moment Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close this-moment]

Ive never bottomed out on a girl with my length so congrats

[Kanaka05 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kanaka05]

Thank you all for advice. I do feel really bad though. I think, as a couple we have sex quite often. I definitely wasn't trying to slam her cervix, but I do enjoy the feeling on the tip of my penis when it rubs up against it.

Like I said, it was a real shock for me after 5 yrs of it being ok. I think we may be getting to the point that more things annoy her, because when we talked about, she seemed to be upset with me that I didn't know that full thrusts were not okay.

After "the talk", we still ended up having sex where I practiced shallow thrusting. She really enjoyed it and after we were having sex for a while, she told me to go all the way in (just not too hard).

[WIItard Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close WIItard]

Think your problem is you go to deep to fast, she needs to warm up. My wife likes to throw her legs up and go for full hard thrusting but not when we start. She positions herself so that I can't do that at the start.

You need to slow it down and work into it. Not , here we go here comes the jack hammer at full speed. Know what I mean??

[BigStick4Pleasure Member Find all posts View Profile Close BigStick4Pleasure]

As WIItard said, you need her warm her up first for sure before going deep with any serious force, but from the sound of it she doesn't like it that deep at anything other than a slow thrust or with gentle pressure.

In my experience, so many of these things depend on the woman, and how her body matches up with your equipment of course. I have known many different types of female sexuality / personalities, and different pussies, it depends on the woman. Some women like having their pussy pounded deep and hard for a long time, but most women prefer it like that only for short spurts at the height of the passion, and some women can only handle it deep at a very gentle pressure, and/or slow thrusting force.

The depth of women varies as they become more aroused because the uterus seems to retract somewhat back up inside of them as they approach peek arousal, which is why when you first penetrate many women, before they are fully aroused you can feel yourself hitting their bottom end inside. How fast they loosen up inside depends on how aroused they are, how comfortable they are with you and the mood. Also some women are more flexible in the "cul-de-sac" (posterior fornix) than others, allowing you to press in a little deeper after you feel contact with the uterus there. That spot is reached when you are angled downward inside of her in missionary or similar arrangements. If you angle your erection slightly more upward you will hit her cervix directly instead of sliding beneath it into that pocket which most women very much enjoy being touched and filled there, it makes them orgasm very quickly especially when you add in clitoral stimulation / grinding.

As for pain, it really depends on the woman. Some want a relatively pain free, experience, some love the feel and the idea of being screwed to the point that it hurts a lot, and most women fall somewhere in between the extremes, so that a little bit of pain is okay if it's not the kind that comes from hitting their cervix directly. (A caveat, I have known some women who seemed to have a numb cervix, to where they showed no expression of any pain whatsoever no matter how hard I thrust or at what angle! But they are very rare.) Also, as ecstasy increases the capacity for pain goes up too, so that right at the point of orgasm you can add a little more pressure and pain and they will be able to tolerate it; sometimes it actually enhances the pleasure, physically (endorphins, other hormones) and psychologically (getting off on being taken so vigorously that is hurts somewhat).

It sounds like for being with you, she wants you to just go easier when fully inside of her, and as another post above linked to, try learning thrustless intercourse, using more of a grinding than in and out. I know at times the desire to thrust hard and deep is overpowering, and hopefully she will let you do a little of that here and there in positions that hurt her the least, but otherwise try and focus on all the other enjoyable things about being intimate with her and inside of her. I have had lovers that were just like her, wanted me to stay fully inside them but use very little in and out, mostly just a grind or 1-inch thrust without much force. I focused on her beauty, her voice, her ecstasy, her breasts, the taste and scent of her, and of course the sensations of being inside of her, to help keep me rock hard and enjoying the experience without resorting to the heavy pounding all guys prefer to unleash some of the time.

[Xerus Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Xerus]

In my experience, doing a shallow thrusting but doing so with a lot of force (IE: Sliding the penis out so the head is just barely exiting the vagina and then slamming about 1/3 of my length in before bouncing back out) makes women go absolutely crazy. I would relegate that to the fact that the penis head is technically "ribbed" (with a single ridge) that, at the right angle, causes increased stimulation to the vaginal wall at the entrance.

I've bottomed out every girl I've played around with except for one (she was my height so it makes sense, I tend to fool around with girls half my height). Each of them, unless absolutely into it or being into pain, hated it without me first shallow thrusting for a bit. It's very possible she is just very tense, but she could be feeling more pain after sex with a constant soreness. My most recent ex had that issue. Whenever I would slam her with my full length and force, she would be okay during the sex, but afterwards would have intense stomach cramping and consistent vaginal soreness for about a day, so she didn't like it. However, it shallow thrusted inside of her before hand and only slammed her once ever couple of shallow thrusts, she would be fine.

Try shallow thrusting into her and only fully slamming her once in awhile in between shallow thrusts. It feels absolutely incredible to have that much stimulation focused on the head of the penis, while the occasional slam can drive them crazy. Of course, talk to her about it first to make sure she is okay with it.

[Qandisa Senior Member Member of the Month March 2016 Find all posts View Profile Close Qandisa]

Here's my personal experience:
Yes there is a point where it gets too deep and just isn't enjoyable anymore. I had an on-again/off-again FWB that was rather lengthy and didn't have a problem with him going in all the way, and hard. As I lost weight and didn't have as much padding on my ass he was able to get even further in and then it became a problem. Suddenly what was great before was just that little bit too deep and instead of being enjoyable it actually hurt.

That's one of the things I really liked about my last FWB, he didn't have nearly the same length but he was incredibly aggressive and forceful and could just go ahead and slam in full-force and it was amazing.

[Kanaka05 Junior Member Find all posts View Profile Close Kanaka05]

In my experience, doing a shallow thrusting but doing so with a lot of force (IE: Sliding the penis out so the head is just barely exiting the vagina and then slamming about 1/3 of my length in before bouncing back out) makes women go absolutely crazy. I would relegate that to the fact that the penis head is technically "ribbed" (with a single ridge) that, at the right angle, causes increased stimulation to the vaginal wall at the entrance.

I've bottomed out every girl I've played around with except for one (she was my height so it makes sense, I tend to fool around with girls half my height). Each of them, unless absolutely into it or being into pain, hated it without me first shallow thrusting for a bit. It's very possible she is just very tense, but she could be feeling more pain after sex with a constant soreness. My most recent ex had that issue. Whenever I would slam her with my full length and force, she would be okay during the sex, but afterwards would have intense stomach cramping and consistent vaginal soreness for about a day, so she didn't like it. However, it shallow thrusted inside of her before hand and only slammed her once ever couple of shallow thrusts, she would be fine.

Try shallow thrusting into her and only fully slamming her once in awhile in between shallow thrusts. It feels absolutely incredible to have that much stimulation focused on the head of the penis, while the occasional slam can drive them crazy. Of course, talk to her about it first to make sure she is okay with it.

To be honest, she used to be into it for the first few years. She would never complain about pain during sex but then the next day mention how something inside her vagina felt tender or bruised and that I did a good job the previous night.

After having our most recent conversation about me not "going in all the way", I tried it and I felt as though it was not as stimulating for me. I enjoy the feeling of being all the way in. I like my lower shaft and base stimulated. With that being said, I just want a mutually pleasurable experience for the both of us.

[ColtAR-15 Senior Member Find all posts View Profile Close ColtAR-15]

Ive never bottomed out on a girl with my length so congrats

Same here as far as know.