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    Hi everyone,
    I need a woman's opinion on this issue, my girlfriend is a virgin and we're planning to get married soon, and sure enough sex will ensue.

    The only issue I have is that we are both afraid of the discomfort that will be caused during our first time together. I've actually been doing PE for a while now, and I still do (if you read some of my other posts you will see why) and I have some questions.

    1. Would 7" long x 5" girth be too big for a virgin?

    2. What can be done to make our first time enjoyable

    3. How can we reduce any sort of pain.

    also if you are female, please share your experience

  • #2
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    • #3
      Losing Your Virginity: the 411
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      • #4
        Taking things extremely slow! And like silver said, lot's of lube! When it's a girls first time, the biggest reason she is tight is because she's nervous. The more relaxed she is, the more her vagina will open. So take things slow and perform lots of oral on her to make her more comfortable!

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        • #5
          Hello Mr. T,

          Be sure to give the link MrB8 provided a read through.

          Also, do your best to manage your expectations. It is normal for you both to feel nervous but do not be overly concerned about discomfort. The key is to be adequately prepared.

          Choose a time and location where there is little chance to be interrupted so that you can take your time, enjoy the experience and indulge in plenty of foreplay - kissing, caressing, etc.

          Since there is a good possibility that nervousness may prevent her from relaxing fully, have lubrication readily available as the other posters have recommended to ensure pleasurable penetration.

          Good luck

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          • #6
            Massage might be nice, tell her how beautiful her perfume box is, how great she smells, and I'm going to go against the grain here and say shoot for no lube - have it on hand, but if you can make her drip buckets through extensive foreplay that'd be nice have fun!
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            • #7
              Originally posted by AM7797 View Post
              Taking things extremely slow! And like silver said, lot's of lube! When it's a girls first time, the biggest reason she is tight is because she's nervous. The more relaxed she is, the more her vagina will open. So take things slow and perform lots of oral on her to make her more comfortable!
              yep. I know you're dieing to get inside but go slow, after you count to a million then maybe, slip it in slowly, then take it out and count to a thousand.
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              • #8
                Originally posted by Mr.T View Post
                1. Would 7" long x 5" girth be too big for a virgin?

                2. What can be done to make our first time enjoyable

                3. How can we reduce any sort of pain.
                1) Congrats on your engagement! Very cool you're reaching out to make sure all goes well for her ( and you).

                2) No, it's not too big for a "virgin"....with a huge BUT. I'll share that there is no shame at all in buying a toy that goes as an "inbetween" between what she can take (finger) and your current size. (You may even want two "inbetweens"... one to get her used to a vibrator like a g-spot toy then one with a little more girth.) When you're doing it in the spirit of "consideration" on her part, you'd be surprised at how enjoyable and candid a trip to the toystore can be with a loved one.

                3) Lube & extra batteries or you'll be mad at yourself. If it's her first time I'd also recommend considering an edible lube as well so you can give her an oral + vibrator combo and make it more intimate. Plus, the edible lube can come in handy for your pleasure later.

                The hidden bonus is you have a toy to play with later on already and she'll have good memories already attached to it.

                If toys aren't your thing I understand- but what works, works. After two frustrating attempts of "trying" to get in with a virgin despite fingering & oral on two seperate dates, third time was a charm with 2 toys. She took a 7" x 7" her first "time"!
                You find out that life is just a game of inches.
                -Al Pacino, Any Given Sunday

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                • #9
                  Thanks everybody for the advice, and thanks MrB8 for the link, it was very informative.

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                  • #10
                    The more turned on she is before you enter the better. You may want to try using a vibrator on her clitoris to help keep her mind off of the discomfort. Be slow and gentle. Communication is going to be very important during the first time. Ask her what feels better to her. If she's nervous, crack a little joke. Sex is supposed to be fun, so don't stress too much.
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                    • #11
                      Congratulations!! How wonderful to share your virginity with each other. You will probably both be nervous, giggle, tease, chase each other around the room, have some fun first. Kiss her all over, tell her how wonderful and beautiful she is. Use lube as said before. Ask her what feels good. There will be some pain at first, normal but if she is well lubed by your foreplay, lots of kissing, caressing, etc it wont hurt for too long and then will feel wonderful!

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by wishfilled View Post
                        Congratulations!! How wonderful to share your virginity with each other. You will probably both be nervous, giggle, tease, chase each other around the room, have some fun first. Kiss her all over, tell her how wonderful and beautiful she is. Use lube as said before. Ask her what feels good. There will be some pain at first, normal but if she is well lubed by your foreplay, lots of kissing, caressing, etc it wont hurt for too long and then will feel wonderful!
                        Thanks for the advice :-)

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